Wall-of-Text warning! (Also sorry if this is a double post. The Escapist ate my other one.)
My cousin posted a picture today of a man's SUV. On the back was a written note from his wife. She found out that he had cheated and informed him that she 'stripped the bank'. She took all his money and the kids and left him. I was a bit disgusted by how many women not only liked this post, but wholeheartedly agreed with 'her' actions.
Me:
"She could have written that properly if she hadn't started with the 'DEAR DAVE'. Also, what's awesome about theft and sudden poverty? If it wasn't a joint account - I'd probably call the police."
Cousin:
"It is awesome because obviously he was cheating! Gets what he deserves!!!!"
Me:
"I'm aware that he was cheating. What I do find funny is that most women think justice or karma means stripping someone of their life-savings because they felt like they deserved it from being wronged emotionally. One literally has no connection to the other."
Cousin:
"I do, however, feel she has a right to take the money. He chose to go outside their marriage with someone else. She is taking the kids and starting a new life that does not include someone with no moral compass. I think that she should have the funds to take care of herself and the children, that he (presumably) helped create, since he is the cause of her needing to take these steps. A marriage is a contract and in any contract there are penalties for not honoring the terms of the contract."
Me:
"So instead of following any proper legal terms from the start, providing her own money and perhaps getting a stipend for her children, she should exact petty albeit swift revenge and leave a dramatic note on his vehicle? If not part of a joint account, she literally committed theft. You are right, a marriage is a contract. But I doubt it says, "If man cheats, woman can do as she pleases regardless of legality." If it IS a joint account, then she still had no right to take everything - but there isn't much he could do about it. I don't think it's right or amusing, but really our opinions are entirely subjective."
I hadn't intended to take over her comments section with my opinions, but once she started debating back with me I couldn't stop myself because if I had stopped the whole thing just seemed unresolved. I was actually enjoying the debate to a certain extent because she didn't go so low as to insult me, and she was actually giving me her opinions in a calm and collected manner even if I didn't agree with them. My first comment was going to be my ONLY comment until she replied, and I was willing to even stop at the second. I was eventually told by others on her friends page to get over myself and that it's funny and to just laugh. If I can't laugh at that, I need to 'gtfo' of Facebook, which was highly irritating. One of her friends started joining in, but just insulting me and not really putting anything towards the actual discussion - so I defused the situation with a bit of smooth wordplay and marked it up as a lost conversation.
But am I entirely wrong about this Escapists? Please, tell me what you think,...
My cousin posted a picture today of a man's SUV. On the back was a written note from his wife. She found out that he had cheated and informed him that she 'stripped the bank'. She took all his money and the kids and left him. I was a bit disgusted by how many women not only liked this post, but wholeheartedly agreed with 'her' actions.
Me:
"She could have written that properly if she hadn't started with the 'DEAR DAVE'. Also, what's awesome about theft and sudden poverty? If it wasn't a joint account - I'd probably call the police."
Cousin:
"It is awesome because obviously he was cheating! Gets what he deserves!!!!"
Me:
"I'm aware that he was cheating. What I do find funny is that most women think justice or karma means stripping someone of their life-savings because they felt like they deserved it from being wronged emotionally. One literally has no connection to the other."
Cousin:
"I do, however, feel she has a right to take the money. He chose to go outside their marriage with someone else. She is taking the kids and starting a new life that does not include someone with no moral compass. I think that she should have the funds to take care of herself and the children, that he (presumably) helped create, since he is the cause of her needing to take these steps. A marriage is a contract and in any contract there are penalties for not honoring the terms of the contract."
Me:
"So instead of following any proper legal terms from the start, providing her own money and perhaps getting a stipend for her children, she should exact petty albeit swift revenge and leave a dramatic note on his vehicle? If not part of a joint account, she literally committed theft. You are right, a marriage is a contract. But I doubt it says, "If man cheats, woman can do as she pleases regardless of legality." If it IS a joint account, then she still had no right to take everything - but there isn't much he could do about it. I don't think it's right or amusing, but really our opinions are entirely subjective."
I hadn't intended to take over her comments section with my opinions, but once she started debating back with me I couldn't stop myself because if I had stopped the whole thing just seemed unresolved. I was actually enjoying the debate to a certain extent because she didn't go so low as to insult me, and she was actually giving me her opinions in a calm and collected manner even if I didn't agree with them. My first comment was going to be my ONLY comment until she replied, and I was willing to even stop at the second. I was eventually told by others on her friends page to get over myself and that it's funny and to just laugh. If I can't laugh at that, I need to 'gtfo' of Facebook, which was highly irritating. One of her friends started joining in, but just insulting me and not really putting anything towards the actual discussion - so I defused the situation with a bit of smooth wordplay and marked it up as a lost conversation.
But am I entirely wrong about this Escapists? Please, tell me what you think,...
