Pill addicted friend

[chuckman1]

So I come here posting at 2:46 am to ask your advice.
One of my closest friends is a frequent pill popper. She's that kind of pill popper that will take ANYTHING that's a pill for some reason. I was talking to her about it and she told me shes overdosed multiple times because of it but she doesn't care and expects it's how she'll die.
I told her she's one of my close friends and I don't wanna lose her she just basically told me mind my business. Also she's a christian so she sees death as something she wouldn't exactly mind...

We've both lived rough lives but she lived with an abusive mom longer than me with my abusive dad so I think hers has been rougher.

Now I get that I can't make her stop but I have very few friends close as this and to lose her would be a hard blow to me. So my question to you is what could I possibly do to try and convince her to stop taking every damn pill she can find and maybe just relax and enjoy life?
Hell at least sticking to 1 pill would be a preferable alternative to the suicide cocktail of medication people seem to love to take.

 

[Broady Brio]

Other than giving her placebo pills that actually do nothing? I got nothing.
I'm sorry, but I wish I could help in a more useful way, losing a friend is a horrible feeling and I wish you the best of luck to helping her.

 

[Phasmal]

Surely if she's a Christian she would think that killing herself is a one-way ticket to the downstairs barbeque?

I think this is probably too much for just you. This girl sounds like she needs therapy. Do you know any of her friends? Perhaps just tell her you're really worried about her and you don't want to lose her, and you think she may need some help. Other than that I don't really know.

 

[chuckman1]

Surely if she's a Christian she would think that killing herself is a one-way ticket to the downstairs barbeque?

I think this is probably too much for just you. This girl sounds like she needs therapy. Do you know any of her friends? Perhaps just tell her you're really worried about her and you don't want to lose her, and you think she may need some help. Other than that I don't really know.

She does therapy. Not sure the details but I know she was forced in to it and she has to eat with social workers sometime or something although I believe her therapys about stress and mental health and less about drugs.
EDIT
Oh and I don't think she considers overdose as suicide if it's unintentional.
I personally wouldn't

 

[Phasmal]

Surely if she's a Christian she would think that killing herself is a one-way ticket to the downstairs barbeque?

I think this is probably too much for just you. This girl sounds like she needs therapy. Do you know any of her friends? Perhaps just tell her you're really worried about her and you don't want to lose her, and you think she may need some help. Other than that I don't really know.

She does therapy. Not sure the details but I know she was forced in to it and she has to eat with social workers sometime or something although I believe her therapys about stress and mental health and less about drugs.

Hm, I wonder if there is any way to get in touch with her therapist and tell them about what she said and about the pills?

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

The only person that can stop her is herself. You can try to put on peer pressure to make her stop, but that can only do so much. The fact that she will pop anything without a thought means she can do more than just overdose lets not forget rape.

People who just take whatever is handed to them without question are just idiots. I hope she at least googles it first.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I'm replying at 2:57 am.

Just make sure she knows that you are there for her and that people care about her. It's possible that she already knows that and doesn't care. If that's the case, and she has decided that she wants to die, that's her decision and there's not really much you can do to change her mind.

All the same, tell her that God expects us to take care of our bodies and that deliberately harming yourself or others shows disrespect for His creations. She knows that what she is doing is harmful, and she is doing it with the knowledge that it will probably kill her. This is suicide. She is spitting in the face of her creator, and if she loved Him the way He loves her, she would try to appreciate her time on earth and stop risking her life by popping pills, or he'll send her to hell.

Try telling her that. Obviously its effectiveness will depend on how devout she is.

 

[chuckman1]

I'm replying at 2:57 am.

Just make sure she knows that you are there for her and that people care about her. It's possible that she already knows that and doesn't care. If that's the case, and she has decided that she wants to die, that's her decision and there's not really much you can do to change her mind.

All the same, tell her that God expects us to take care of our bodies and that deliberately harming yourself or others shows disrespect for His creations. She knows that what she is doing is harmful, and she is doing it with the knowledge that it will probably kill her. This is suicide. She is spitting in the face of her creator, and if she loved Him the way He loves her, she would try to appreciate her time on earth and stop risking her life by popping pills, or he'll send her to hell.

Try telling her that. Obviously its effectiveness will depend on how devout she is.

I have a feeling this would be the best chance thanks.
Shes incredibly devout like one of those people that will thank god for all sorts of things and always look for gods answer and all that god stuff.

 

[Galletea]

She does therapy. Not sure the details but I know she was forced in to it and she has to eat with social workers sometime or something although I believe her therapys about stress and mental health and less about drugs.
EDIT
Oh and I don't think she considers overdose as suicide if it's unintentional.
I personally wouldn't

If she has been forced into therapy then it is unlikely to work for her. You have to want to get better for it to work, as she won't be telling them anything of use.

The only person who can help her now is her. You can try to tell her how it makes you feel to see her destroying herself, and how it will affect the people she cares about, but there isn't much else you can do. If she's truly, really a devout christian then maybe you can suggest talking to her local priest/whatever.

 

[Fisher321]

Well, we can handle this several ways,

1. This may be a little cold and aggressive, but give her a good smack and order her to stop her foolish ways...

Be forceful, get it into her mind with loud passionate words. Seriously, people take in advice better if swear words are used with an aggressive (not abusive) force is used, Especially if you're a quiet guy like me. Let her know that this is breaking your all's life and that if she doesn't straighten up its it between the two of you...

Now that would probably be a last resort, but if you sound fed up then it might get a message through. If she takes it the other way then sound like you don't care. Like i said this probably is more of a last resort.

Is she a passionate Christian then give her bible verses and pray for her, but it all really comes down to this...

IF they don't want to quit, their not going to, and there is nothing we can do about it.

Perhaps being assertive and aggressive is the only way in these situations. Personal experience suggests that it is, but that's just how i see it.

Remember, its a fine line between abusive power and aggressive power, if you decide to take this path then don't go too far.

 

[number2301]

I'm not a religious person but I'm quite certain that Christianity does not condone drug taking.

Now may be the time to do a bit of damage limitation. People with that kind of attitude to drugs can make an awful mess of themselves, and girls in particular are prone to going overboard with them. Maybe consider your own welfare and mental health and think about withdrawing from the situation? Of course offer support and all that first, but if she's on self destruct do you really wanna be there?

 

[Giftfromme]

Yeah I'd say you need to leave this behind, you cannot help her if she isn't willing to help herself. Harsh but you don't want to have to deal with nonsense that comes from her pill taking, and if she does OD on them, you will blame yourself etc. but it's got nothing to do with you