Saelune said:
Xprimentyl said:
I never said the internet doesn?t matter or that it doesn?t entail real people; in the spirit of the thread (i.e.: the volatile nature of online debating,) I was trying to make the point that
arguing with people on the internet isn?t effective. If anything, it?s the very arguing that
dehumanizes people. Few people like being yelled at for their beliefs, stances or opinions (meaning those things objectively; not debating the right or wrongness of said beliefs
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fewer still like being yelled at by anonymous strangers to whom they need not answer, likely will never see, and least of all hold themselves accountable to. You BECOME just words on a screen that an incited person can freely flail at until they?re blue in the fac? er? ?fingers.? It becomes a battle of right and wrong where both sides ?know? they?re right and rules of civility be damned.
And let?s not conflate ?arguing? with ?complaining.? Complaining is a start, an acknowledgment and statement of dissatisfaction; from there, civil discord, understanding and change can occur as long as both sides are willing to listen and be heard. Arguing is a failure; it means the lines of communication have broken down and any discussion has digressed into a fight. I have never changed someone?s mind on a subjective matter by arguing, telling another person not only what they
should think, do or feel, but personally attacking them; it just doesn?t happen. It?s the difference between a ?peaceful protest? and a ?riot;? one is constructive, the other? Very much not so.
Yes, the internet is a very powerful tool and very much a shared ?reality,? but like any tool, it can used for god AND ill; ?arguing? is more often than not the latter.
Are you sure your mind has never been changed via argument? Mine has. Not by people telling me Nazis are ok, but I have had my mind changed before.
Civility is overrated. Civility is a tool of oppression meant to make good people look bad and evil arguments look good cause 'well, he politely asked for all Jews to die, unlike that uncivil jerk who thinks Nazis deserve to be punched'. I wish my Civility Topic wasn't gone.
The only times my mind has changed in argument is when I learned I was objectively wrong, i.e.: ?whoops, you?re right; Jack Nichol
son is the actor and Jack Nick
laus is the golfer; sorry I called your mother a whore.? It?s had nothing to do with what I
believe, those tenets that define me
as a person to which any affront is an attack and requires defense, often in the form of an attack of my own. No reasonable person should be expected to rationalize in earnest their attacker?s motives or beliefs. Can my beliefs change? Be swayed? Absolutely, I may not be an open book, but I?m a textbook open MIND, but I ask that anyone seeking to do so come at me decently. I?m willing to read your pamphlet as soon you take it out of your clenched fist which is currently down my throat.
Civility is overrated? A tool of oppression? Saelune, I understand your frustration, I seriously do, but that sounds very radical. You?re conflating civility with cowardice, unfair concession, weakness. I?d offer it?s a strength utilized by reasonable and rational people to affect change. If you don?t see the opportunity to affect change outside of unfettered outrage and violence, TRUE tools of oppression, then we don?t have to look far to find people exactly like that whom [I?d hope] we would both agree are not righteous people.
The difference between a peaceful protest and a non-peaceful protest is 50 years of LGBT rights. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stonewall_riots
I can marry cause people stopped being peaceful about it.
The riots you cite didn?t change the minds of the people they attacked; if anything, it likely steeled the hearts and minds of those people affected firmly
against the LGTBQ community. I doubt that during the heat of the riots, amidst the turmoil, the legislators were grabbed by the nap of the neck and forced face down onto the pages on which they would pen the new laws, no; civil discourse followed, and the laws changed. The riots were a catalyst; that doesn?t make them the right way to have handled it. And please do not take that as my belittling what they clearly mean to you and those like you; I just wish you could see a path to the changes you want to see that doesn?t necessitate an utter disregard for the basic pillars of a decent society and those of us willing to listen.