Agema said:
Generalisations are as true as the facts supporting them. The problem is their misapplication.
The context here is them being applied to individuals. Sure, generalizations can be based on factual information but the moment you move away from academic pursuits and apply them to specific individuals you're bound to misrepresent any individual because nobody will fit in with that general concept that's derived by averaging every individual. Even if they put a lot of effort into being very very average. In my eyes, saying to someone "you're a man so you have to take a step back and let women's opinions rule the discourse" is no different than saying to someone "95% of people are not gay so you by definition can't be gay cause you're a person". Both things use generalizations to erase the individual. If you're bothered by the latter, you MUST be bothered by the former to not be a hypocrite.
undeadsuitor said:
Dreiko said:
undeadsuitor said:
Dreiko said:
These kinda questions are why oppression olympics are a failed cause. Even if you satisfy this quandary, next time someone will add sexuality or disability into the equation. Someone will add immigration status.
Then let them. This isn't the last MCU or even super hero movie. If someone wants a gay hero after Captain Marvel, let them. If someone wants a muslim hero after that gay one. Let them. Trans one? Hell yeah bud.
You shouldn't be
this upset because people ask for things on the internet.
Dunno where I'm being any amount of upset here lol. I'm just pointing out the irrationality here. People's opinions ought not be granted special consideration based on these factors, this actively worsens our society by pursuing goals outside of merit. Someone being female doesn't make them by default more suitable to opine about MCU protagonists or films or what have you. Any decision reached with this as a basis will be fundamentally weaker than it otherwise would have been. At some point we have to say to someone "no, you having three moles in your nose and not two does not mean you deserve special consideration" and since nobody can really draw a line about which arbitrary characteristic is fair game to be granted sagacity over but which is patently absurd, I will simply say that none of them should have that function in society and that way everyone's gonna be treated fairly. Cause come on, being blind or deaf is way more disarming and a bigger hardship to live with by orders of magnitude as opposed to being black or gay or what have you but we barely even hear from those people. It's kinda obscene.
I'm not even that much into comic books and their films to begin with, it's the principle of the matter that's the issue here.
Your choice in words and topics, coupled with your "its not like I even *like* comics b-baka" finisher reveal your true feelings here bud.
I mean hell, first we were talking about what the next Marvel hero would be, and now we're debating on whether someone's life experiences qualifies them to have more nuanced opinions on media???? I know people on the internet are pretty homogeneous. Hell, I couldn't tell one gamergater from the other. But sometimes people's experiences can give them better insight into topics.
And sometimes it's experiences that straight white men don't have.
I don't know why this is a hot take
There's no experience that a straight white man (or any person in general) can't comprehend, even if they never experience it themselves. It's called empathy. You study a subject, read about it and come to learn. To out of hand wave off somebody because of arbitrary characteristics that are not their choice is the exact evil perpetrated against women that you're railing against here.
And I am very much a deredere type of person, not much in the tsun department, if I like something I gush over it almost compulsively. I've only seen the first thor movie, the Xmen origins movie, black panther and I think parts of ironman 1? Not seen any avengers at all. Like I said, not really a fan. I'm way more into manga.
Saelune said:
Dreiko said:
Saelune said:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intersectionality
It is not a one beats all. We all have privileges and disadvantages.
I have privilege for being an American, and white and living close to New York in a good neighborhood.
I am disadvantaged by being LGBT, particularly trans.
And yes, there are sexist women, racist black people, even homophobic gay people of all things.
Though another important point is who is bigoted, the power they have, and how they use it. The President of the US being bigoted is worse than an average citizen being bigoted.
The point is you can infinitely go into these sub-facets of people's being and keep dividing and dividing forever. Maybe someone was short and has a complex with that. I had bracers growing up which I consider to be isolating and make you stand out negatively. Stuff like that. You can always find stuff like that to make yourself seem harmed by something that's not your fault. That's just life and chance. Some people are born with no lungs and die and some people are born perfect the heirs of kings. You're not gonna fix this by making everyone aware of all the multitudes of ways that life was being life at you. Just take it for granted that life works like that and move past it onto things that are about your actions and not your circumstances.
In the context of this topic; your opinion on movies is not more valuable purely because you're this or that sex. Someone who is just another man can still be way more worthwhile to listen to based on his expertise on lore and so on. It's why when experts testify at court their expert opinion is given more weight than a layman's, and there is no such category of expertise that is attained by merely being born as something. You have to actually accomplish things to get your opinion to count more than that of just another random insignificant person. Your oppression doesn't make you significant, even if you're marginally more oppressed than most everyone else. It just makes you pitiable.
Remember when people with braces weren't legally allowed to marry? Remember when movements of naturally straight teeth supremacists marched chanting to kill you? Remember when you had your liberty over your body made illegal in the state of Georgia? No? Hm. Weird.
Yeah the thing is that those are not the only aspects of individuals that intersectionality busies itself with. If they were you'd have a point. No, they claim being merely a fatass is also oppression, when in fact back in the times of slavery the fat people were the privileged since being fat was a sign of being wealthy and it is also indicated by paintings of women at the time depicting them more on the chubby side. And there's no such laws in place oppressing fat people either (outside of the law of gravity I guess).
So yeah, you actually agree with me that at least some arbitrary characteristics that intersectionality deems important are in fact comparatively unimportant. The issue now becomes how do we go on to decide where the line is, and I don't think there's any good way of doing that. Hence my initial response.
ObsidianJones said:
Dreiko said:
Cause come on, being blind or deaf is way more disarming and a bigger hardship to live with by orders of magnitude as opposed to being black or gay or what have you but we barely even hear from those people. It's kinda obscene.
This literally goes into the topic of Intersectionality and sub-facets you were speaking about before. Everyday things will be harder for people with physical ailments. But they are 'treated better' by society at large. However, this better treatment offend makes those challenged individuals feel like more of a subject of Pity than an actual person.
Meanwhile, being apart of a stigmatized minority can and has lead majority populations to go out of their way to mistreat those minorities because they know they simply can't fight back and no one will care. Look at the treatment of the Native American and how the majority basically used them as human punching bags Forever. But then people in the majority who do not see this treatment or do not care about anything that doesn't happen outside of their sphere of influence will decide that this is made up BS that isn't worth their time, or made up lies to get sympathy.
A meeting between that Blind and/or deaf person and that Native American person can go one of two ways. They can look at the other's strife and empathize. See some of their struggle and connect through that. Or they can lose themselves in their own issues and instead of find an ally, they found a competitor for attention.
The former is what I tried to do with.. I'm just going to call her S because I'm tired of just referring to her as my friend. This is what I tried to do with S. I tried to present my plight as well to say I get it. I know what it's like not to be counted. I could dismiss her plight by saying "You're a White Woman, S. You are the most coveted person on this planet. What do you know about struggle?". That's easy. That's shifting the focus on me and whoo, boy, won't that be fun?
But instead, wouldn't it be better in the long run if S and I could stand together? Instead of just these base differences and counting that only, can't we sit and find out how we're alike and build from there? Because thinking about how we're different and building Walls has not helped us in one single moment of humanity's history.
Also, I don't know what you've been listening to but you hear about people with Disabilities having to champion for their own agency or share of resources all the time. All the time. Do you have a family member in Education? If so, then you hear about how funding has been Dwindling under Federal Government Spending [https://vinson-consulting.com/blog/with-federal-funding-dwindling-special-services-programs-struggle-to-support-students/]. We hear how Mental Health and disabilities account for at least 25 percent of Police Killings [https://www.aclu.org/blog/criminal-law-reform/reforming-police-practices/police-command-and-control-culture-often-lethal]. But these are swept under the rug. Tragic Accidents due to Police Following Procedure.
We live in a society where one side can have "Tragic Accidents" and the other side has "No Excuses". This is a daunting prospect. Especially if you're not in the Majority, and put that to the Nth Magnitude when you're on the Ostracized Fringe in the Majority's perception. There can be no fair play, therefore no peace for those who deal with it and yet still has to hear sentiments of "It's not a fair world, so stop whining".
Which leads me to ask people who always spout this mindset one question that always comes to mind... So what are you doing?
We all struggle with the frailty of life, the limited scope of power or influence of our individual positions, and the utter meaningless of it all compared to the unfazed Universe that won't even notice when the Earth itself gets stuffed out. But somehow we feel the need to tell people that they shouldn't voice their opinions to make their lives better. What always struck me as odd is... isn't the very act of trying to tell people to suffer in silence the act of trying to change the conditions of another individual's life? That they are tired of having to think about something and they rather not, so they will speak out to tell others to stop speaking out so they don't have to deal with it any more?
How is that any different than people speaking out to have agency over their own bodies, to say their skin color doesn't matter, to say sexuality and gender can be fluid even if you don't think it to be? How are they always complaining when they bring up those ideals and it's so very annoying, but those who tell them to shut up are only speaking their mind and must be heeded as for some reason their opinion is faultless compared to people speaking to try to have a better life?
To sum up, there's often this weird dichotomy that baffles me. There's always a segment of people who tell others to stop talking, stop bringing up things, and stop trying to change the world. And very often, these are the same people who will at some point say they never heard of a problem before so there must not really be one. I often am fascinated on how that works.
I think your error is conflating how society treats you with how your life actually unfolds.
Even is society sees to a disabled person's every need and heaps praises upon them constantly, their LIFE will still be suffering compared to the life of an average pleb with little power and a lot of freedom.
Yes, society may frown upon them, but at least you have the power to (justly) frown back and use your own capacity to seek a measure of happiness. Happiness earned, not given, one that's meaningful. I think such a life will be definitely riskier but I think it's also a lot more meaningful and ultimately worthwhile. Someone may not find happiness that way but I think most people would choose it in a heartbeat over the alternative.
This is the issue with this blind spot you form on yourself, you overfocus on the system and forget to pay attention to the individual and how their life is actually turning out with these influences applied on it. If a blind person still suffers more than a black person, it really doesn't matter one bit how well society treats them. It's extremely callous to think that it does. Such thinking only comes from a place where you're competing for oppression with other people instead of trying to uplift everyone around you and in so doing be uplifted yourself. The measure for how oppressed someone is should not be a list of things that are unjustly foisted on you, it should be how you feel about your life and the factual options you have available to you. Not being able to see your parent's or children's smiles is imo a whole lot more of a detriment than not being hired for a job because your name is too creole-sounding. It's the kind of pain whole books can be written over and you can't merely jot it down on a list and pretend you have captured it.
Anyhow, in the context of this topic, there's not really a minority since women make 50% of the country, though I will say that white women are not the most coveted like you describe, maybe they are in other places so if you average the whole world it adds up but in the USA it's Asian girls that rank the highest in desirability polls from things like dating sites. Either way, you say you're trying to make your life better but how does that excuse making other people's lives worse in the process? Not allowing fans of movies to opine when those movies were built upon their continued patronage over decades is a MUCH larger blow to those people's lives than it is to the women who lack their preferred protagonist. The capacity to affect those movies, to be a contributing part of that community is a bigger part of a lot of those men's life and to rob them of it is a greater evil and robs folks of more happiness by an order of magnitude.
At best it's just really selfish, it's a thinking that says "well, I'm oppressed, so I get to do this to you cause you had it coming" but no, two wrongs never make a right. Good is good no matter who experiences it and the option that generates the most good overall is better for our species, even if it in its steps follows a lack of equity, since everyone will eventually be raised up by that progress higher than they'd have otherwise been, even if there's never full equity. Lots of people had to die for medicine to evolve to the place that it has, lots of people suffered, but now we enjoy the fruits of that labor and the average human lives twice as long as most KINGS did back in the days of antiquity. And they don't even feel like kings either, it's pretty hilarious! Our average pantry has enough spices to raise an army and conquer the neighboring town if it was a thousand years ago, but we just think of spice as commonplace and mundane. I'll just be busy here being awed by those and myriads of other similar facts.