summerof2010 said:
What about outside of class? If I have a personal disagreement with a teacher, and I go to them after class, or during their break, or even at some school event, what's the disruption if I tell them off? Keep in mind, I don't think anyone should start hurling obscenities at people they disagree with, but it's an abuse of power to give the person an official punishment for the offense. Also, the disrespect need not be limited to loud, explicit litanies. Let me give another example: let's say Steve is walking down the hall and accidentally bumps into Mr. Pat. If Steve goes "Watch where you're fucking going." and keeps on, that's at least a detention. Clearly, Steve is being a dick, but isn't it unfair to not just call him a dick and go on (like I would have to if I were Mr. Pat), but instead level the full authority of his position onto him?
Outside class, if a student is coming to me with a concern and they start to pop off, I'll usually just warn them myself, "You need to be careful the tone you take with teachers, especially when they're giving you the opportunity to express a concern." If they continue, it's on them if they get a reprimand--I'll let them talk, not berate.
As to your hallway example, trust me, if Mr. Pat calls a student a dick, he'd be out the door THAT DAY if the student decided to say anything--either fired or suspended. I'd be fine with a detention for that, more likely I'd call home and let the parents know (which is the #1 thing we, as schools, do for problems). Usually what you see as a passer-by is the result of a situation that escalates as the STUDENT digs the hole deeper--what was a tiny bump and a muttered obscenity becomes a fight as the student gets continually louder and more argumentative.
After all, wasn't it you saying earlier that it's the parent's responsibility to give their kids proper manners? If anyone's teaching them impulse control, it should be mom and dad. Or just mom. Actually, just whoever is in charge of them...
It should be. But if they're not, what then?
dastardly said:
If I need to get a job, I'm going to put on my Sunday best and comb my hair alright. If I'm going hiking, I'll wear boots and pack some water. And if I go scuba diving, I'll bring my wet suit. But when I'm with my friends, I wear my shirt un-tucked and jeans with holes in them. Situation appropriateness. Just because I'm going to need to dress nice and talk straight to get a job doesn't mean I have to do it all the time just to get it right when the time comes, no more than I need to wear my wet suit at Publix so I'll know what I'm doing this summer at the beach. Since I don't need to interview so I can go to public school, and teachers aren't supposed to discriminate based on personal preference, why should I dress and act how they or the administrators or even the board members want? What am I trying to prove? To who?
Because school IS your job. It's really that simple, though you'll probably not much like it as an explanation. Yes, some socializing goes on at school, and it's an important PART of the experience, but it's not the POINT of the experience.
Now, I'm of a mind (as regard dress codes) that they should be based on simple criteria, but enforced strictly. If your outfit is not too revealing, doesn't carry obscene messages, and pants go where pants go, you're fine. But something to keep in mind is that, particularly in low socio-economic populations, should is a fashion show. Kids are so focused on who's wearing the NEW hot sneaker, and who's wearing last years model. Girls (from middle school on) are trying to look "cute" (which is just Hollywood's younger version of "sexy").
By limiting dress codes, we're trying to at least take SOME of the focus off of that. It can be an EXTREME problem in some places, usually resulting in uniforms, usually resulting in at least some increase in performance. And of course, less pressure on the kid who was already having to wear the same shirt 2 days a week because he doesn't have other clothes.
It's one of those situational things. In some schools, a dress code is a critical component of keeping things on track. In others, it's just a formality. To my mind, in the schools where it's critical, they need to follow it... and in schools where is just a formality, what's the big deal with just following it? What's so god-awful important about sagging your pants that you just can't live without it for the school day?
I think most people agree that there are certain people who shouldn't have kids. Almost 100% of the time however, "certain people" doesn't mean them. Right now, we set the bar all the way down with people who eat their own excrement, and allow everyone else to decide if to have kids and how many. This is obviously stupid -- it's bad for the kids, the parents, and society as a whole.
But if someone's going to redraw the line, I'm sure as hell not doing it -- I don't want the petty, immature, violent underclass we're talking about restricting to come knocking on my door... because chances are they're not going to politely ask for an explanation.
Oh, of course. The suggestions I made are only half sincere. I sincerely believe they would eventually achieve the desired result, but I'm also perfectly aware no one will ever let it happen. As soon as you try to get even the least bit selective about breeding, Godwin's Law comes into play, and you're accused of Hitler-like eugenics beliefs.
It would require a war to get it to happen, anyway. You're right, a percentage of the "no breed" class would revolt and have to be put down in armed conflict. Of course, it's possible that the very act of being able to organize and stand up for themselves would demonstrate they are, in fact, capable of improving. But the majority of the folks we tell not to breed? I really think the problem is that they are already too lazy and misguided to really care anyway. The real problem is going to come from the "enlightened" folks that want to go to war on BEHALF of those who don't care enough to organize themselves.
2) We stop protecting people from the consequences of their own stupidity. Let failure and starvation thin the heard a bit, as is the natural order of things. Right now, our evolution as a society is only favoring the fastest breeders, not the "best and brightest."
I despise social darwinism, mostly because it misrepresents the biological theory it's based on, but also because it only makes sense when you're not in the "obsolete" caste. Also, it doesn't work like that. If you're advocating a removal of public welfare initiatives, then be prepared for that Gilded Age America I was talking about earlier. If we stop helping the less fortunate, they're not just going to go away. Like you said, sex is free.
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I fully recognize the fact that a starving person will turn to crime before simply starving. I recognize this "solution" is a dirty one, which is why I know it'll never happen until near-apocalyptic circumstances demand it. It's really just the simple matter that we have no natural predators, we can defeat most diseases, and we're finding more and more ways to cheat natural methods of population control.
As a result, we have no reason to improve as a species. It's okay for us to get dumber, because there's always a seatbelt or helmet shielding us from the consequences. I don't pay attention in school, I don't learn a damn thing, and then I have 20 kids... and what? Sure, I might live a crappy life, but I've still lived long enough to have 20 kids, who will each live long enough to have 20 kids, all proliferating many (if not all) of the same life choices I made.
Meanwhile, this guy over here works as a janitor, but he's a hell of a janitor. He takes good care of himself, takes pride in his work, and manages his money responsibly. As a result, he decides, at best, he'll have 1 or 2 kids, because that's what would be financially responsible, and he intends to take his job as a parent just as seriously as his career. Fast forward five or six generations, and the world has very few of him in comparison to Lazy McBreedFast above.
Now, if Lazy was on Welfare, and the welfare system said, "Stop having kids, stop doing drugs, and get a job," Lazy might say, "Or what?" Well... what if our welfare system said, "Your benefits aren't changing. If you have another kid, you're just going to have to make these benefits stretch further. Tough luck." instead of forking over more cash?
Kids would starve, yes. Eventually, Lazy would starve, too. Or be shot by the police during a foiled robbery. OR, the better ending, Lazy would realize that HE is responsible for making his life better, and he'd make changes to his behavior because no one is protecting him from the bad effects of his shit choices. Now we're talking.
See, the thing I hate about "social Darwinism" is that they try to follow the biological equivalent too closely. We, as humans, have the ability to evolve AS WE LIVE. We don't have to wait until the next generation--we can learn complex lessons on-the-fly. Lazy doesn't need to be "bred out," when he can instead learn to change his behavior. Animals have a limited capacity to do that, because they pretty much lack any and all metacognitive faculties.
The only aspect of social Darwinism I'm looking for is the sense of consequences--learn or starve. If they turn to crime, they get locked up or shot down. If they turn around, we're all the better for it. It just means we've got to be willing to separate "He's making his children starve," from "We're 'letting' his children starve."
NOTE: I realize, from personal family experience, that many people who are in poverty, etc., are not there through any fault of their own. Maybe the primary earner was hit by a meteorite, and he had a seven-figure job, and now the family is broke. Not the fault of anyone involved. I simply draw a line between "fault" and "responsibility." It's not your fault he died, but it's your responsibility to change things if you want them different. It's not about wanting them to accept blame, it's about wanting them to take charge of things going forward. The public at large should only be there to provide assistance and opportunity, instead of the current "Bad things happened to me, so I get free money for life" system.
More accessible birth control is always a good thing, and a lower birth rate would definitely help our over-crowding problem.
Absolutely. This one I really believe to be effective AND possible.
This I have to agree with, unfortunately. This probably has a lot to do with the OP existing in the first place. We try so hard to give everyone the same potential, but it just brings everybody down. It's just very important that the distinction is limited to actual potential, and not some arbitrary discriminating factor, like household income. We also need to be sure that beforehand, everyone gets a fair shot to come out on top.
We base it on grades. We re-vamp the school system and curriculum so that our methods of both instruction AND assessment more accurately reflect what a student understands, and we simply decide from there. It's not pretty, it's not perfect, but it's going to become necessary.
We can't just keep shoveling every kid into college like we do. We pour grant money into millions of kids to get them into school... where they promptly piss away the money and drop out after one year. Now we're a few thousand in the hole (per kid), and some other worthy soul didn't get the help he/she could have used.
It's a cultural problem. We train kids to think everyone should LOVE their jobs... and as narrow as our on-demand world allows kids' interests to be, this leads to the logical solution that everyone should work in something they think is "fun." No one thinks mopping is fun. No one thinks changing bedpans is fun. Do you think proctologists "love" what they do?
A job is a job. You get a job you can do, and you do it well, and you use that money to live. This would require a major cultural overall, to stop tying "life satisfaction" with "career choice." I don't expect it'll happen anytime soon.
I feel like we should start a new thread; this one's getting really off topic. I think suggestion 1) would make for an interesting topic all by itself.
I don't think we're stifling any real discussion with this, but I do think we've basically said all that can be said on the topic. If there are particular threads of discussion in here you'd like to move elsewhere, though, I'd be glad to!