Poll: A query.

[ostro-whiskey]

I have been in a similar situation. I dealt with it by not getting involved and emotionally distancing myself from the said people. The parts were played out and one of them went to jail for afew months, now this person has really cleaned themself up.

I think experience is the best teacher, if you dont let your Mum wise up on her own shes liable to make the same mistake, and if you narc on your dad it will create tensions and pretty bad emotional guilt, and he will blame you instead of himself for the situation.

 

[Faulty Turmoil]

So he's sold drugs, Put a gun to your mothers head and pulled the trigger without knowing that it was loaded and tried to decapitate you. But you don't know if you should report him or not?

I think you should get him arrested before he does actually kill someone.

 

[Beldaros]

This is really the wrong place to ask a question like this....

Aside from that, assuming everything is true (no offence intended, I just take things like this with a pinch of salt) It sounds like this guy is capable of almost anything and should be behind bars (well a metal door) or in a high security ward. At the end of the day this guy is a drug dealer and should be put away anyway, there aren't many things lower then a drug dealer they fall somewhere between a cockroach and the dirt inbetween your fingernails.

People sometimes view there situation differently though. You may be afraid of the implications this may have on the relationship with your mother, I wouldn't worry too much about that. It sounds like she's blinded herself to all the bad. She'll be upset at first but in the end she'll thank you for it. Put him away.

 

[BaldursBananaSoap]

[HEADING=1]REPORT THAT FUCKER[/HEADING]

He's a danger to both of you.

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

I voted for the top one, but it depends.

How do you feel about him?

What would you do if noone told you what to do?

I'd kill him in his sleep. But something tells me that's a bad idea.

Well, he does have a gun. :S Not that I am implying anything. I'd recommend the reporting part.

He doesn't have a gun. The shooting thing came to happen when mom told him she was pregnant with me.

Wow, then he's a bigger dick. You can't just continue on with that.

 

[GonzoGamer]

This really isn't the right place to ask about this.

If I were you I'd phone Childline, or whatever similar agency you have in your country, and ask them what you should do.

This is the best (most responsible) suggestion.

Definitely better than the first thing that popped into my head.

What country/state do you live in?

 

[Mekado]

You might wanna keep in mind that a drug offense (unless he's a major trafficker) will net him 2-3 maybe 4 years jailtime maximum , he will be back eventually.Also if you do report him, make sure you're anonymous and do not tell your mother.If she is that lovestruck with him, she might very well end up spilling the beans, which would probably be very bad news for you.

Sorry about the situation though, i thought my father was an asshole because he lies and steal but this is on a completely different level...

 

[Lemon Of Life]

Report him. If your mum dumped him, then it sounds like he could resort to violence. But then again, he will eventually come out of jail...good luck my friend.

 

[000Ronald]

My father has been emotionally abusing my mom ever since they got back together. My mom is too lovestruck to see that my father only got back together with her for a place to live, free sex, and to clear his 10k child support debt. My father will be extremely mean to my mother, then turn around and apologize and confess his false love with her.

He also sells drugs, giving me an invisible lever on him.

Edit: My father has a tendency to go into extreme violence sometimes. He's held a gun to my moms forehead, pulled the trigger(to find it not loaded), Nearly decapitated me on purpose, among other things.

Why the hell are you asking us what to do? First bash him in the head with a shovel, then tell the cops he was holding a gun to your head because you were threatening to tell them he was selling dope. If they ask how you managed to hit him in the back of the head, tell them he was holding a gun to your fucking head!

Your mother may love him, and that's fine, but that doesn't mean that she can change him. Put him in prison for as long as you can.

Apologies for your situation.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Like everyone else has said, report. He's your dad, he's family, but he's dangerous. I pulled a knife on my dad when he broke his restraining order, I just wanted to be safe and I want you to be safe too.

 

[reg42]

Report him. He's obviously not a good person, and that's the easier way that I can see to get him out of your life.

 

[Valate_v1legacy]

Situation solved. My mom is leaving him on her own accord.

 

[Kuliani]

My father has been emotionally abusing my mom ever since they got back together. My mom is too lovestruck to see that my father only got back together with her for a place to live, free sex, and to clear his 10k child support debt. My father will be extremely mean to my mother, then turn around and apologize and confess his false love with her.

He also sells drugs, giving me an invisible lever on him.

Edit: My father has a tendency to go into extreme violence sometimes. He's held a gun to my moms forehead, pulled the trigger(to find it not loaded), Nearly decapitated me on purpose, among other things.

You call the police and tell them everything in detail about your situation. Ask them specifically about being protected from him if he is able to post bail. Make a detailed list of what he does to put you in danger and be prepared to hand that list over to a prosecutor if he is arrested. Also, find a counselor or therapist that you can talk to (school counselors are free and easily available) as you WILL need it, especially if your mother blames you for your father's arrest.

 

[Aesir23]

CALL.THE.POLICE.

I cannot stress that enough. If you just get your Mom to dump him then nothing's going to happen and he may just manage to squirm his way back into your life. If you leave him be, then you and your Mom may eventually end up being killed. Go to the nearest police station (make sure your father doesn't know where you're going) and tell the police EVERYTHING that he's done. The abuse, the assault, attempted murder, the drug dealing, EVERYTHING!

 

[Scorp123]

Report!

 

[WTFBOOM]

report

 

[Sion_Barzahd]

call the police, he sounds too dangerous to be let outdoors at all let alone in a household which hes proven to be in capable of handling.

 

[Apache2142]

CALL.THE.POLICE.

I cannot stress that enough. If you just get your Mom to dump him then nothing's going to happen and he may just manage to squirm his way back into your life. If you leave him be, then you and your Mom may eventually end up being killed. Go to the nearest police station (make sure your father doesn't know where you're going) and tell the police EVERYTHING that he's done. The abuse, the assault, attempted murder, the drug dealing, EVERYTHING!

Perfect answer!
Im almost qualified as a PC and as soon as i pass out, im reporting/arresting my brother for dealing.

He just needs a shock to set him right i reckon.

 

[HTID Raver]

REPORT AND MOVE ON!!!!

thats srsly harsh, call police or whoever but like someone said earlier, dont let your mom bail him out....



if you value your life that is...

 

[Asturiel]

He's a menace to society and your family. Report him to the police and make sure you have somewhere good to hide with the police or otherwise. To be honest if your mother stays with him, you gotta leave her behind, she's made her deal with the devil and it's up to her to realize that it's a mistake.