Poll: Appropriate physical affection between heterosexual men.

[Quazimofo]

i have no problem personally with a handshake, cant imagine anyone would. a hug is completely normal, so long as it dosent turn into dry humping but that goes for everyone, not just hetero guys (unless its porn. then anything goes).

a kiss on the cheek/forehead is also completely normal. i mean, i wouldnt do it to my guy friends, but thats because im a hugger, and i think i would rather not be labeled gay when im only a freshman (because SOMEONE is going to think that, and say it very loudly. fuck teenagers. seriously. soo many of them suck)

hand holding... is suggestive. i can see little kids doing it, or really good female friends of any age (have actually seen it), but when i picture two grown guys holding hands, just seems too suggestive since all the men i know are not really prone to prolonged contact. keep it to a handshake or a hug they do. so i would draw the line at hand holding, for it seems out of place to me.

but hell, if you got a good guy friend, and he is hurting, cuddling is even okay in some situations like that. so yeah, my lines are a bit different than the poll's.

 

[jovack22]

I know whenever I visit other countries, I often find myself asking "Gay or European/Canadian?".

Dressing nicely and taking care of yourself is not gay.

If it increases your genetic fitness (i.e. chances of getting laid) then guys who prefer to smell like crap and wear their trucker hats (stereotyping, generalizing) are the "gay" ones for not wanting to get with women.

 

[SlasherX]

If you hug in a greeting its ok any other kind of hug id wrong but since hugging is sometimes ok its holding hands which is NEVER ok

 

[Dfskelleton]

I'm pretty comfortable with a manly hug and all below, but anything above that is a little weird for me.
Also:

Brothers don't shake hands...Brothers gotta hug

You sir, don't deserve a cookie: You deserve ninja shaped cookies of awesomeness.

 

[Vykrel]

im gonna go with handholding... anything from that point beyond and you just arent heterosexual at all.

except in other countries i guess. i know they like to kiss on the cheek in some places.

 

[sagacious]

American here:

I would say that there is no 'line' only what two individuals are comfortable with.

But for my personal comfort level: I would be fine with kissing on the cheek and even some cuddling with someone i'm not sexually attracted to, as long as they don't smell bad!

 

[somonels]

Kissing, even on the mouth, is common in some cultures. Cuddling is too much, but if you are in danger of hypothermia, sleeping together naked is ok.

Masturbating in front of each other - in lieu of South Park's "Two Guys Naked in a Hot Tub" - is a bit suspicious, curious or not.

 

[DudeistBelieve]

I find kissing on the cheek weird for any reasons other than romantic ones (or affection for younger children), so ima go with that.
Probably because of the British "No Touching" attitude.
Big fan of bro hugs though, with the right people.

Feel the same way about kissing on the cheek. I've adopted the way my father shows that kind of a affection, a kiss on top of the head when I do show that affection to anyone.

 

[martin's a madman]

I know whenever I visit other countries, I often find myself asking "Gay or European/Canadian?".

HAHAHAHAHAhahaha

 

[Death God]

Handshaking is fine. But nothing more than bro-hugging. Hand holding is kind of weird unless your a small child or the other guy is on his death bed. And kissing of any kind should only be for romantic reasons.

 

[Vrud]

Where was the option for hot, sweaty mansex while I watch?

 

[Nieroshai]

I only "know" based on observation because I'm bisexual and treat all members of either gender very similarly, but it looks like hugs are OCCASIONALLY okay in US culture, cheek kissing is okay overseas and hugging is mainstream, but any farther looks gay regardless.

 

[Dark Knifer]

Completely dependent on the individuals. Hugging another man might be really weird for some but fine with others. So you can't have a generalized perception like this, because perception is the mother of deception after all.

[small]Always wanted to say that in context...[/small]

 

[Jaime_Wolf]

How much intimacy is "appropriate": however the fuck much they want.
How much intamacy can they exhibit before it becomes sexual in the US: holding hands. Hugging between close friends and family is generally accepted and even hugging between relative strangers is pretty accepted depending on one's community and the circles in which one moves.

 

[Damien Granz]

So an article [http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/42672313/ns/today-relationships/] about a brouhaha over two basketball players being photographed holding hands made me wonder what this forum thinks about man on man physical intimacy. Standards vary widely between countries, and it's always interesting to hear different perspectives.

The poll isn't so much about what is appropriate as it is about how much intimacy two (let's presume heterosexual) men can have without it taking on a clear sexual connotation. From what I gather, the U.S. is probably one of the most conservative countries in this regard, which isn't particularly surprising. Not just because of homophobia, but also general attitudes about personal space. In fact two Ecuadorian immigrants were beaten, one to death, after being mistaken for a gay couple a few years ago in NYC.[footnote]http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-20009167-504083.html[/footnote]

I know whenever I visit other countries, I often find myself asking "Gay or European/Canadian?".

Edit: Yay! My poll didn't break.

Further edits: Feel free to include scenarios in which behaviors which would otherwise be considered too much affection are permissible.

Whatever they're comfortable with.

If they wanna have man sex and still say they primarily dig the chicks, go right ahead.

 

[iNsAnEHAV0C]

I'm pretty comfortable with a manly hug and all below, but anything above that is a little weird for me.
Also:

Brothers don't shake hands...Brothers gotta hug

You sir, don't deserve a cookie: You deserve ninja shaped cookies of awesomeness.

hahaha.... YES!
I was actually having a pretty crappy day today so thank you for that