Poll: Asking for a kiss on your birthday.

[6_Qubed]

You would be amazed the things you can get from a girl if you just ask for them.

In high school, I got a girl to hug me just by saying "I need a hug" and staring purposefully at her. I actually stunned a guy who was seated nearby. He was all like "dude, how did you do that?"

I got hired at Victoria's Secret. I was really just applying as a joke, but well, have you ever had one joke that you took just a little too seriously?

And I met my second girlfriend when she mentioned she didn't have a ride home from somewhere, I say that I thought she already had a boyfriend, she says no, and I reply "Oh. Want one?"

It is worth noting, at this point, that I am shy to the point of physical agony around most women I find attractive. I am, however, learning that CHA may not have been my dump stat this whole time.

 

[Kae]

I'd say yes if all goes well you shall be rewarded with a kiss if not you can act like it was just a joke, besides you don't wanna end up like me, alone in a dark place with only a crappy computer in front of me.

You could try turning on the lights

I would but then my position wouldn't be as bad and the analogy might fall flat.

 

[Jun_Jun]

Bad idea man don't do it, I dated a good friend of mine back in highschool we got along like a house on fire, he dumped me after a week because it was too weird/awkward dating a friend. We pretty much didn't talk after that, destroyed our awesome friendship.
You might want to establish with her how you feel first (if you haven't), otherwise I would not do it.
Do not do it! you will regret it!
There I think I might have my message across

 

[LostCrusader]

If you do it, don't act like it was a joke. That just comes across as desperate/sad.

 

[Cheesus333]

Kissing her? Brilliant idea. But if you're gonna ask, it really depends how you do it.

"Can I have a kiss?" always seems pretty desperate to me, so I wouldn't go with that.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

Nothing ventured nothing gained. Just don't play it off afterwards, be honest. If she really doesn't want to pursue the relationship, she probably means it.

But hey, maybe she'll take you up on it! Always be an optimist, it makes life happier.

 

[Blow_Pop]

depending on how you do it i'd say go for it. do it in a way that will at least make her laugh if nothing else.

 

[lettucethesallad]

Meeh, depends on the girl really. It might just be weird. I wouldn't do it, but then again I'm pretty introverted.

 

[HassEsser]

I really doubt she'll say no

but if you're looking for a relationship, this might be the wrong first step

 

[Abedeus]

What's the point? She wouldn't be kissing you because she fancies you, she'd be kissing you because it's a present or something.

I mean, if all you're after is a kiss, you could likely find it elsewhere, so the kiss isn't likely the thing you're really after. I'd imagine you're after genuine affection from her specifically, and you won't find it the way you're going about it.

Yup, it'd be as romantic as kissing on a dare. Or losing a bet.

Even worse, since you'd seem needy. KISSSSS MEEEEEEE!!!

 

[One of Many]

Do it man, take the chance.

 

[Astoria]

Well depends. If you really like her then I wouldn't but if it's just a friends with benefits thing you're trying to start it can't hurt.

 

[Erana]

Honestly, I'd be terribly pissed if anyone did this in seriousness. OP, its hard enough to deal with a friend being attracted to you when you don't feel the same way.

If she hasn't outright declared that she is interested in you, please don't make any assumptions. It can get creepy and uncomfortable when a friend with a crush pushes the issue, and it can ruin otherwise good friendships.

 

[tobi the good boy]

Yup, because nothing turns girls on like desperate and subtly manipulative attempts to guilt em into physical contact.

It will go badly for you brother. Just ask the chick out like a man.

This sums up the reality of this thread pretty much in its entirety.

OT: Don't do it, by the sounds of things you seem to have an unhealthy fixation on this girl. If she doesn't feel that way, don't try and make her.

 

[StBishop]

Go real every courage wolf ever made and then do it.

Seriously. What if she does it and finds there's a spark and you live happily ever after?

What if she slaps you and says no. You're exactly where you are now. No loss.

SO DO IT!

 

[Svenparty]

This sounds like an awful idea unless you live in some cheesy 80's movie. The sort of people that say "Give me a kiss...for my birthday" are the same creepers who say: "Give daddy some sugar"

 

[The Apothecarry]

Because it's a half-joke, I'd say to do it. If she says yes, then lucky you! If she says no, it might be awkward but as a half-joke you both can just laugh it off and you probably won't feel so rejected.

Just make sure you ask her in a joking tone. If you sound too serious or too desperate, it might not work.

 

[Castratikron]

Do it! Unless she has a bf, if she does don't be an ass and don't ask.

 

[Maxtro]

Honestly, I'd be terribly pissed if anyone did this in seriousness. OP, its hard enough to deal with a friend being attracted to you when you don't feel the same way.

If she hasn't outright declared that she is interested in you, please don't make any assumptions. It can get creepy and uncomfortable when a friend with a crush pushes the issue, and it can ruin otherwise good friendships.

Heh, I've actually liked her longer than we've been friends.

While you may get mad, I seriously doubt she will. And I'm not going to be serous about it.

I'll probably just look at her with a grin and say, "how bout a kiss for the birthday boy"

 

[floppylobster]

Absolutely. I used to get action every year on my birthday. It was the only reason I celebrated them when I was single.

There's no harm in it and it's a harmless way of letting her know you might like her more than a friend. She can always say no, but at least from then on she'll know you might think of her in a different way. It sounds like a long term 'friend' relationship I had with a girl once. We finally kissed once and it was weird. It never went anywhere after that but we're still great friends. If you are friends then the birthday angle takes the pressure off the moment. It's like mistletoe. People follow those traditions for a reason. It's a safe way of experimenting without things getting too weird (like if you asked her the day after your birthday).