Poll: Corporal punishment acceptable?

[Baron Von Evil Satan]

I go to thinking about this while posting in another parenting thread. Really what I want to know is what do you think escapists? Should it be acceptable for parents to use corporal (ranging from spanking to using the belt) punishment on their own children?

Now don't get me wrong, I am by no means saying it is ok to physically/mentally abuse children, however my parents spanked and used a belt on me when I was unruly as a child and I turned out just fine, as did my parents and grandparents.

I find it completely inappropriate to just let a child throw a tempertantrum in the middle of a store because they can't get the toy they want. I think it should be acceptable to either

A: Smack the child's mouth, if in the store
or B: take the child into the bathroom and give him/her a spanking

Again, I am not saying it is OK to abuse children, but is force sometimes needed to keep a child in line?

 

[Radeonx]

Sure, why not?
As long as it doesn't cause a lot of damage, I see no reason why it shouldn't be allowed.
Unless of course, you count that one person that will, no matter what, end up taking it too far and do something very bad to their kid.

 

[Souplex]

Back in my day the Teacher was the meanest sonbitch God ever put on one leg! If ya got out of line he would lean on a desk with both hands and swing his leg at ya! Then when you were standing there wondering how a one leg man kicked ya; he'd bite ya.

 

[Neosage]

No, I think the fact you think you should "A: Smack the child's mouth, if in the store
or B: take the child into the bathroom and give him/her a spanking" shows why not, it teaches the child that it's right to hurt people who are doing wrong and then they grow up and their children think that.

 

[-Orgasmatron-]

No, I think the fact you think you should "A: Smack the child's mouth, if in the store
or B: take the child into the bathroom and give him/her a spanking" shows why not, it teaches the child that it's right to hurt people who are doing wrong and then they grow up and their children think that.

I don't think the reason we got so much youth violence going on these days is because their parents were to strict with them, really.

 

[Kuchinawa212]

Depends. I, myself, am a firm believer of the bloody nose policy. Punishment is me giving you a bloody nose. You feel it's painful and your cloths may be stained in blood but not real harm done. As a time out is just a bore really, not a real incentives to not do anything stupid again.

So yeah, it's ok by me.

 

[Kiefer13]

Oh, totally. Because teaching children that violence is the quickest and easiest way to get what you want is a great idea. [/sarcasm]

 

[Neosage]

No, I think the fact you think you should "A: Smack the child's mouth, if in the store
or B: take the child into the bathroom and give him/her a spanking" shows why not, it teaches the child that it's right to hurt people who are doing wrong and then they grow up and their children think that.

I don't think the reason we got so much youth violence going on these days is because their parents were to strict with them, really.

Neither do I. I feel that inflicting violence on young children to punish them is wrong, because it teaches them that it is okay to do that to their own children and the other obvious reasons.

 

[Jark212]

My dad would just flick my ear... It was a good punishment, It hurt but didn't cause any damage.

Hmm its a tricky situation really. On the one hand having too lax of a disciplinary policy with your kids leads to bad behavior and on the other hand too much leads to rebellious behavior, which is also bad. There needs to be a good mix, something fair and balanced. I'm from the school that every kid needs a good smack upside the head to keep them in check. Of course it should be a final go to thing, not the first offense move.

Bingo, it's all about balance... My sister was the Independent rebel, I was the passive mama's boy that behaved himself.

 

[-Orgasmatron-]

No, I think the fact you think you should "A: Smack the child's mouth, if in the store
or B: take the child into the bathroom and give him/her a spanking" shows why not, it teaches the child that it's right to hurt people who are doing wrong and then they grow up and their children think that.

I don't think the reason we got so much youth violence going on these days is because their parents were to strict with them, really.

Neither do I. I feel that inflicting violence on young children to punish them is wrong, because it teaches them that it is okay to do that to their own children and the other obvious reasons.

So, you're saying you believe it makes people violent, but you don't believe it makes people violent, right.

 

[Timotei]

Though I am a devout pacifist, I also do believe that thre are some times where people need a good smack to be set straight.

I only wish we could go back to the 1940-50s. Back when it was acceptable to beat a disobedient child and they didn't have guns ot retaliate with.

 

[Neosage]

No, I think the fact you think you should "A: Smack the child's mouth, if in the store
or B: take the child into the bathroom and give him/her a spanking" shows why not, it teaches the child that it's right to hurt people who are doing wrong and then they grow up and their children think that.

I don't think the reason we got so much youth violence going on these days is because their parents were to strict with them, really.

Neither do I. I feel that inflicting violence on young children to punish them is wrong, because it teaches them that it is okay to do that to their own children and the other obvious reasons.

So, you're saying you believe it makes people violent, but you don't believe it makes people violent, right.

I naturally assumed by youth violence you meant "chavs", if you mean child abuse, then obviously I think what I already put. Unless, perhaps you don't understand?

 

[RagnorakTres]

Of course it's acceptable. It's only very recently that corporeal punishment has at all been looked down upon. Smacking a kid upside the head for being stupid has been in use as a punishment for the entirety of human history. Of course, you should make sure they understand why they got smacked, but the smack is the deterrent; does anyone (under the age of about 15, I mean) really like getting smacked? Look at all the generations that have come before. Yes we were aggressive, but our streets are even less safe now than they were fifty years ago when all the teens had been raised on a steady diet of "Behave yourself! *smack*"

I do think belting is a little over the line, but that can leave permanent damage. So, in conclusion: yeah, clip your kid upside the ear if he's being stupid, but don't hit them with anything stronger than your open hand. ^_^

 

[LockHeart]

There's nothing wrong with a slap on the backside or round the face to punish a child. Pain is a good way of letting someone know that they shouldn't repeat a certain action. I support harsher public corporal punishment for petty criminals - stocks and flogging - to help cut down on prison overcrowding as well as providing an extra disincentive of being shamed in front of your peers.

 

[logiman]

I got beat (even with belt, ruller, wood spoon) only once, cuz` i couldn`t remmeber the lyrics of a poem in second grade and my mom like freaked out that time = worst day of my life) and i hit as a kid, BUT!!and i repeat BUT!! only when i did something really bad ..never without a good reason..and i turned out just fine

9.72 Hogh School averene and the 8th best class in ALL my country, best one in a 100 mile raius (small country)

 

[Davidanstey]

Children need CP. My stepsons attend a school where paddling is permitted for poor grades, tardiness and skipping class, etc. I paddle them for more serious offences, usually no more than 8 pops to their clothed seat

 

[Divineirony]

yes children need discipline otherwise they will do whatever they want and no one can control them.

 

[Divineirony]

Children need CP. My stepsons attend a school where paddling is permitted for poor grades, tardiness and skipping class, etc. I paddle them for more serious offences, usually no more than 8 pops to their clothed seat

i don't agree with that poor grades should not be treated with negative reinforcement

 

[Outofideas]

The trouble with 'punishments' like time outs or taking away a toy is that, if the child is quick on the uptake, they realize it doesn't mean much of anything once they're back out. I was a clever little monster as a kid, and if my parents hadn't spanked me or given me occasional clip round the back of the head, I would have run roughshod over them. And as I turned out pretty much OK, I give the 'Hey, you screwed up' slap my approval.

 

[Aerodyamic]

Oh, totally. Because teaching children that violence is the quickest and easiest way to get what you want is a great idea. [/sarcasm]

Well, consider how many times you've been in a store and some dish-rag-spined parent has been pleading with their 6 year old to just hush, and you've wished SOMETHING, hell ANYTHING would make that little monster be quiet.

I'll try to be somewhat polite about it, but I wasn't a particularly 'well-behaved' child, and I got a pretty large number of strappings as reward for my many misdeeds. It was a rare week where I wasn't strapped at least 5 times, and looking back, very few instances were anything but my own doing. Had I not been disciplined as thoroughly, I'd lay good money that I'd either be in jail, or the dead-beat father of several children. Or possibly dead.

Overall, I approve of an 'attention-getter' sort of smack. I don't really condone beating the holy hell out of a child, but since it obviously ain't MY kid, what precisely can I say, so long as it doesn't occur publicly?