Poll: Dating?

[Nemu]

Honestly, OP, I wouldn't date YOU, either. You have this arrogant, selfish attitude which is immediately a turn-off. You discount women that could quite possibly make you happy because they have a physical shortcoming. (And, before you assume, I am NOT "horribly overweight", I'm athletic and work a labor job which keeps me moving a LOT for 10 hours a day.)
Stop being a superficial dude, cos I'M gonna generalize and bet yer no physical catch either, if you ask a girl out, you damn well had BETTER pay for the dinner, movie, et al. If you were the one asked out (which is a lot more common than you think...), then I would expect that the person who asked you to pay. It's not a gender thing, it's not a sex thing, it's a courtesy.


That all being said: I'm not a fan of formal dating, I'm more of a fan of "hanging out". My current GF and I had a "first date" of strolling around the Air & Space Museum then a quick bite to eat. I'd much rather do something along those lines than a "dinner and movie" type of pressure cooker.

Perhaps some folks see them as, essentially, being one-in-the-same, but I consider them different.

 

[Blackjack 222]

Honestly, OP, I wouldn't date YOU, either. You have this arrogant, selfish attitude which is immediately a turn-off. You discount women that could quite possibly make you happy because they have a physical shortcoming. (And, before you assume, I am NOT "horribly overweight, I'm athletic and work a labor job which keeps me moving a LOT for 10 hours a day.)
Stop being a superficial dude, cos I'M gonna generalize and bet yer no physical catch either, if you ask a girl out, you damn well had BETTER pay for the dinner, movie, et al. If you were the one asked out (which is a lot more common than you think...), then I would expect that the person who asked you to pay. It's not a gender thing, it's not a sex thing, it's a courtesy.


That all being said: I'm not a fan of formal dating, I'm more of a fan of "hanging out". My current GF and I had a "first date" of strolling around the Air & Space Museum then a quick bite to eat. I'd much rather do something along those lines than a "dinner and movie" type of pressure cooker.

Perhaps some folks see them as, essentially, being one-in-the-same, but I consider them different.

Goona stop and say right here, this is the best post in the entire damn thread.

 

[Estocavio]

I've never understood the whole "dating" thing. That is, I've never understood why I should shell out a ton of my hard-earned cash to provide several meals for some spoiled/pampered female just for a "chance" of getting to dive into her nether regions.

That's not dating. That's trying to score. I consider them different things.

A date is essentially just going out spending one on one time with someone you have a romantic interest in. If you just want to fuck then that's all your going to be in a date. A meal ticket. If you find a girl you actually enjoy spending time with a) your date can take place in your home and your costs will be five bucks for popcorn and a rental b) Sex will be the furthest thing from your mind.

I know I know. I sound crazy right? One day you might understand though.

My dating method is rather unique - She has to buy everything. If she doesnt, she isnt willing to even try to do anything, so i dont bother with her. If she does, its a show of initiative at least. I dont provide anything monetarily until after at least the fifth time.

Its rather efficient actually.
It renders the female unable to exploit you in any level.
Incidentally i carry a constantly running voice recorder at all times.

What if her reason for not wanting to pay for everything the first five dates is because she doesn't want to be used herself?

Not trying To be a dick, serious question. I know guys who don't pay for anything to exploit the girl and leave once she is no longer willing to shell out. You could screw yourself out of a good relationship in your attempt to avoid being used because she thinks your using her.

Thats a very reasonable contradiction; My explanation is simply that its a two sided coin - Either the man or the woman has to pay for it, and it seems to be obligatory that the man does it as a way to prove something to the woman. But in doing so, he is serving her interests to great extent but his own very little, and since dates rarely get further than a few dinners or some othersuch, its wasteful on his part.

Incidentally this has only worked four times, and its perfectly reasonable for the other person to decline, but the way i see it is that besides tradition, theres no reason it has to be the male who does the spending.
And i think the woman should have to prove she isnt just leeching off you.

Yeah i agree. The man shouldn't just be expected to pay. It's a silly tradition back when women didn't have jobs.

When me and the girl who would later be my wife started dating we solved it simply, we flipped a coin, loser paid and we took turns after that. To make sure either of us were not being cheap the who paid last time choose. So when i paid she choose and when she paid i choose.

If your going on a date with a girl who isn't willing to chance having to pay, well she probably is just using you as a meal ticket.

My friend wants me to say that if she suggests that you pay for dinner and she serves you dessert at her place she probably has an STD and to run away...

Your friends on a good train of thought, just slightly misplaced - It probably means she covets you for sexuality, and not to actually know you. If you want sex, use a professional - Theres no risk of STDs and no obligatory commitments.
Your coin flipping method is a good concept - Leave it to chance rather than suggestion.
Im impressed at how many people share similar opinions regarding these things

I think he was just being a smart ass personally.

Your probably right