Poll: Deal breaker?

[Salviar]

This question has been on my mind for a while, and it's about video games and dating.

Hypothetically, let's say that you've been dating someone for a short period of time and you're only just really getting to know them and from what you've seen so far they're great. However, along the line you find out that they are part of that small collection of people that hate video games.
They won't play them or watch others play them...they just think that they are a waste of time. And you can't talk them out of it, they are firm in their belief.

So, my question to you gamers is: Would the fact that they dislike video games seriously hurt any possibility for the relationship to continue, or would you accept it even though gaming is a large part of your life?

Personal I don't think I could be with anyone who doesn't like gaming, considering the amount of time I spend doing it. Fortunately I've only met one or two people who truly do not get gaming.

 

[Macgyvercas]

If they just don't care about video games, but will still watch people play, I can live with that. If they hate them with a passion, I would not be dating them.

 

[Enemy Of The State]

Depends how strong the relationship is.

 

[Baby Tea]

Good question!
I would date them if they couldn't stand them and never played them, but didn't care/mind that I played and enjoyed them. But if they tried to stop me from playing, even when they aren't around, then forget it. It's my entertainment. I don't watch TV, I don't just sit on the computer on the internet (Usually), I only read right before bed, so other times: I play my games. It's how I unwind after work, it's how I spend a lazy day. If they can't deal with it, then so long. As you said, it's early in the relationship.

 

[Allan53]

Do they have good reasons for having that opinion, and how far are they willing to go in order to enforce that view on others? I mean, I really disagree with watching TV, I think it's a brain-suck and people are better off reading or exercising or whatever. However, that's just my view.

Are they trying to stop you playing games, after you have both made your views clear? Then the issue isn't even about the games, it's about acceptance and compromise, both of which are crucial aspects to relationships.

 

[Hellz_Barz]

it would depend if they thought gaming was destroying society and makes murders. If they weren't really into it wouldn't matter too much, Cause theirs gonna be stuff of theirs that i don't find stimulating.

 

[jeejvebe]

If they hated it, yes.

 

[joshuaayt]

Yes. It is my hobby, my passion- and this person actively dislikes them, as you said. I wouldn't like to have this person come home/over only to make a snide remark about the way I live my life.

 

[RaphaelsRedemption]

Do they have good reasons for having that opinion, and how far are they willing to go in order to enforce that view on others? I mean, I really disagree with watching TV, I think it's a brain-suck and people are better off reading or exercising or whatever. However, that's just my view.

Are they trying to stop you playing games, after you have both made your views clear? Then the issue isn't even about the games, it's about acceptance and compromise, both of which are crucial aspects to relationships.

This exactly. Thank you for stating it better than I could have.

And I am incredibly lucky for having met my gamer and lover partner. I have never had to deal with this It can happen!

 

[infinity_turtles]

That depends on them. Bondage and domination is a lifestyle for me. If I'm with someone, that means I'm more or less in control of them. If it's a deal breaker for them, then I'm not changing and they'll end the relationship. If it isn't, they'll be dealing with it because they're my *****... in a good way!

 

[Riobux]

Computer games are part of my life, if they can't accept that then there is no point in discussing it with them.

Edit: By the way, I'm not saying that they would be forced to play with me. If they don't want to, go for it. If they want to play with me, all the more better. However, the expectation that I'll dump a hobby because they dislike it is a stupid one.

 

[Outright Villainy]

If they're not interested, that's fine. If they look down on someone who plays games, then yes, that is a deal breaker. They would be pretty ignorant anyway if they thought that, regardless.

 

[Marter]

That wouldn't change how I felt about them, so I would continue on with the relationship.

 

[Angerwing]

Good question!
I would date them if they couldn't stand them and never played them, but didn't care/mind that I played and enjoyed them. But if they tried to stop me from playing, even when they aren't around, then forget it. It's my entertainment. I don't watch TV, I don't just sit on the computer on the internet (Usually), I only read right before bed, so other times: I play my games. It's how I unwind after work, it's how I spend a lazy day. If they can't deal with it, then so long. As you said, it's early in the relationship.

Exactly this.

We don't need to be exactly the same for the relationship to be good, but however nerdy it may sound, gaming is a solid part of my life. For them to refuse me the ability to game, then that's definitely a deal breaker. I'm not pedantic or high maintenance like this, but we're obviously incompatible as a couple. It would be foolish and hurtful for both of us to try and make it work if we obviously aren't on the same page.

 

[Savagezion]

Depends on if I am still able to get some good game time in. Because if some weird sort of ultimatum is put forth in this type of situation where I have to give up games for good... hell no. Everyone has a hobby they do that could be looked at as a waste of time. I better never see this person in this example even so much at look at fiction... ever. As it is a waste of time according to them. No fiction books, TV, movies, nada.

 

[CK76]

I've never met people that hated games. Met plenty of indifferent (my family for starters) ones, and that's never been an issue.

 

[Bellvedere]

I never met anyone that's hated games. If it's something they're not into that doesn't really bother me. I talk crap about things that people don't listen to all the time.

Even if they did I wouldn't say it would be a huge problem. I am capable of activities outside of gaming. Also it bores me to tears watching someone else play. I wouldn't expect anyone to want to watch me play.

Anyways people tend not to tell you they hate the things you like when they're still trying to impress you. Like one of my old boyfriends knew I was a smoker before we started dating, a month or so into the relationship he decided he had a problem with it.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

The only way it would be a 'deal breaker' is if they actively tried to force me not to play them in a bad way (if they playfully complained or offered sex or something then I don't mind. In fact, offering sex is always good). Other than that, it's fair enough, I would hardly stop a relationship just because they didn't like one of my hobbies.

 

[Ryan Balaski]

Only if they hated it so much they tried to tell me I couldn't if I wanted to date them. I don't play too much as it is so it shouldn't be a problem.

 

[Slaanax]

As long as she doesn't stop me from playing them its all gravy, as one girl once told me "I'd never buy my boyfriend a video game, because he'd spend less time on me"