Poll: Do racial preferences in dating have roots in ignorance/stereotypes?
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Never had an overwhelming preference. I can fluctuate a bit at times too. Though all of my relationships have been interracial as a white guy. Not because I sought that out at all. Just coincidence, I guess I would say?
If being physically attracted to some races more than other is racist, then the term has been watered down so far as to lose all useful meaning. Personally, I've probably found people attractive of pretty much every race I've encountered, but tend to find less in general that I'm attracted to among Asian races(which is somewhat hilarious since I live in Okinawa, and my ex-wife is Japanese).
It's not necessarily based on stereotypes at all. It's quite plausible that it's based on an extension of what's called "kin selection" in evolutionary biology. People tend to favour others who look more like them because there's an increase likelihood of shared genes.thaluikhain said:
Whether you want to call that racist depends on your definition.
Oh my god. They're here and they've taken over.chuckman1 said:
Well, no, no it's not. In the same way you're not homophobic for not dating a homosexual. I don't find aboriginals attractive, their features do not average appeal to me. Does it mean they're any less of a person? No, not really. But I'm not attracted. Same way I don't find fat people attractive. Or smokers. Just something I do not find attractive.
Does it mean that they might not be aboriginals who are attractive? Of course not, they are some I would find attractive, but I'm referring to a majority as race does come attached with certain physical characteristics.
Oh wait lol race is a social construct and nothing to do with genetics at all.
I honestly don?t know anymore. Perhaps it?s got something to do with the ratio between whites and ethnic minorities? representation in the fashion industry, but? who knows? To be honest, racial preferences in dating appears to mostly be a ?don?t ask, don?t tell? kind of discussion topic. Mostly because, even if you aren?t trying to be offensive, saying something like ?I?m not into blacks? is likely to depress someone that happens to be of that particular reason or ? as I?ve felt at times (but moreso when I was a teenager) ? make them near-cripplingly insecure about their ethnicity.
And even if you do ask them, they?re more likely to say something along the lines of ?I don?t take race into account when judging attractiveness?, regardless of their actual opinion on the matter. Then again, I suppose you?ll get different reactions depending on the people you hang out with. I?m a heterosexual black man who grew up in a predominantly white area, and when I mentioned that I typically don?t find black women attractive, my friends were shocked. I don?t know if they were shocked because they believed people are always attracted to others of their own race, or just generally that I might have such a preference, but? they?re pretty liberal-minded guys and they laughed at me when I explained half-truthfully that it?s because ?black women remind me of my sister?.
Anyway, I know it?s a cliché, but I like to think that there?s someone for everyone out there? as long as you?re not a completely asocial hermit with no interest in sex or relationships.
And even if you do ask them, they?re more likely to say something along the lines of ?I don?t take race into account when judging attractiveness?, regardless of their actual opinion on the matter. Then again, I suppose you?ll get different reactions depending on the people you hang out with. I?m a heterosexual black man who grew up in a predominantly white area, and when I mentioned that I typically don?t find black women attractive, my friends were shocked. I don?t know if they were shocked because they believed people are always attracted to others of their own race, or just generally that I might have such a preference, but? they?re pretty liberal-minded guys and they laughed at me when I explained half-truthfully that it?s because ?black women remind me of my sister?.
Anyway, I know it?s a cliché, but I like to think that there?s someone for everyone out there? as long as you?re not a completely asocial hermit with no interest in sex or relationships.