Poll: Do you find this question sexy?

[PurpleRain]

Internet forums are a hotspot for immature folk to talk about sex and things thereof. This is what I?ve heard many times, though phrased a little differently. It?s said that once you hide behind your avatar, you can feel that freedom to say things that you probably wouldn?t (or would?) in reality and not have the personal feedback on it.

All these questions I see such as: Are glasses sexy? Are girls sexy? Do you find me sexy? Or would you be a girl for a day?
They leave something towards the imagination of sexual manners, though looking through threads I am thoroughly dumbfounded at what some users think is a topic on sex, and just being demeaning. In these few threads you find the small group of folk who are actually acting mature answering the question, but they are over voiced by the lot who shout: ?If I was a girl for a week I?d be ?deleted for adult implications- with my fingers! Hur hur hur (greases back eye brows and chats up the ladiz)?

Oh, I know we?ve all had this little chat before, but I feel it should be reinstated.

On a forum, you can act like a dick all you want. It?s your freedom, while it also the mods freedom to ban you or try to find some order. Though crap like this generally gets under my skin. Does it mean once the topic of sex or the opposite gender hopes aboard the Internet train we all immediately have to lose our poise and become sexist, horny, bigots?

You could rattle off the excuses:
-It?s the Internet. It?s 90% porn.
-Most people here are teens meaning they are generally horny.
-You don?t have to act mature 24/7 on the net.

And to those I would say:
-The Internet I find is connectivity. There?s a huge amount of porn, while also there is a huge amount of human interactivity. The two don?t have to combine because of where it is.
-Yeah. True. But it?d be a good learning curve not to act like jerks while flailing arms about.
-I?m not asking for maturity, just not to say things that can be construed the wrong ways.

Ugh, this was ranty of me. But there are too many users that decided it?s best to let themselves go a little bit because of the subject matter.

What are your thoughts on this issue? Should we just not give a damn because it?s all text on screen or at least be a bit harsher to those that spurt of sexist remarks and jerk off to the fans of the forum?

 

[Neonbob]

If someone is going to be a dick, as long as they're not being one to a specific person, or doing it all the time, I think it's okay.
However, if they're always targeting the same selection of people, or talking about a specific poster in some horribly dickish way, then they can get the boot for all I care.
On the topic of sex, I think it appeals to the base instincts of a lot of people, so they forget their usual(in some cases) sense of accepted behavior, and go out on a limb. Sometimes too far, but that's usually dealt with.
Sorry if this rambled too much in its 6.5 lines of content.

 

[HardRockSamurai]

While I don't usually mind commenting on "sex question" threads, but I don't think there's an excuse for sexist remarks anywhere. Even if the person who said the remark didn't mean it, it still leads us to one of 3 conclusions:

a- He/She actually means it.
b- He/She thinks it's funny (making him an asshole.)
c- He/She is simply a dick.

Luckily we don't really have to worry about it that much on The Escapist. Most of the sex-related threads are simply for insight or personal amusement, and most of the real sexist remarks made are swiftly followed by brute moderator justice.

 

[Kinguendo]

Wow, some serious poll-age going on here man... Also, not to seem picky but actually the intenet is mostly made up of spam advertisements... but of the stuff that isnt spam yes, that is mostly of a pornographic nature.

 

[New Troll]

I don't personaly take issue with such posts/ comments since I have the right to just ignore them. One major reason I decided to make a home on these forums over many, many others is because for the most part, people don't waste my time with such dribble. There's been other boards I've visited were the hottest topics end up being stuff like "Do you find the above poster sexy?" or "Would you date me?", even on gaming sites. It's all kind of silly. There's a place for that crap, and it's not really here.

Now if someone wants to create a thread like that, all I'd ask is it be mature and they should forgive me if I don't visit it. Just not interested.

As for the people themself, most of them are (for lack of a better term) losers, which is a shame since they ruin it for people generaly interested in finding a (soul)mate over the internet. I realize love (or lust) can be found anywhere, even on a site like this one. I've seen it happen first hand on another gaming site I use to call home. Just don't forget, it's a gaming site first and the good majority of the people who visit it aren't interested in meaningless erotica or senseless 'meme'ing.

And who knows, maybe one day some people from this site I might befriend enough to show interest in thier personal lives. Maybe even to the point of wishing any unions among them the best of luck. Like I said, it's happened before.

edit: I clicked "Polls leave nothing but an immature surface in a topic. Leave polls alone people." even though I'm a big fan of polls. Just a toic like this one doesn't need one and kind of loses emphasis because of it.

 

[PurpleRain]

While I don't usually mind commenting on "sex question" threads, but I don't think there's an excuse for sexist remarks anywhere. Even if the person who said the remark didn't mean it, it still leads us to one of 3 conclusions:

a- He/She actually means it.
b- He/She thinks it's funny (making him an asshole.)
c- He/She is simply a dick.

So their options aren't looking good for them.

Luckily we don't really have to worry about it that much on The Escapist. Most of the sex-related threads are simply for insight or personal amusement, and most of the real sexist remarks made are swiftly followed by brute moderator justice.

On the contrary. I was inspired to do this after the 'Would you be a girl for a week' thread. While four people were generally mature about things: OP, Ultrajoe, etc, most answers came out: 'I'd play with myself infront of a mirror the entire week' or 'I'd be such a sult'. How is this relivant or not demeaning?

If someone is going to be a dick, as long as they're not being one to a specific person, or doing it all the time, I think it's okay.
However, if they're always targeting the same selection of people, or talking about a specific poster in some horribly dickish way, then they can get the boot for all I care.

So, being an overall dick is okay then?

 

[Anarchemitis]

I keep to myself in the regard of sexual topics due to the fact that me indicating my height as a human being can and usually will be misconstrued for the purpose of less than half a chortle of the mind of many people. I really hate the term "Lolz", while on that thought.

Regardless, the topics in of themselves are rather spammish in my opinion.

 

[Neonbob]

If someone is going to be a dick, as long as they're not being one to a specific person, or doing it all the time, I think it's okay.
However, if they're always targeting the same selection of people, or talking about a specific poster in some horribly dickish way, then they can get the boot for all I care.

So, being an overall dick is okay then?

I'd say if the dickishness is spread out among all people, and not too excessive, then yes.
Some would argue Max fits that bill. Sure he's a bit of a jerk at times, but it's meaningless silliness on his part.
Plus, I can still ignore the big offenders to a certain extent, and when that fails, I get the satisfaction of watching their post either go away or be grayed out.

 

[Crowghast]

I believe it is completely impossible to fully avoid the sort of people that we find easy to avoid in real life. We simply shouldn't give a damn, as you say, it is all text on screen. The equivalent of the kids on the playground gossiping about what they heard in Science class.

And I also agree that we should perform harsh justice upon sexist pigs. (As in the men who wholly believe women are inferior subservient whores who should be working in kitchens, and the women who think men are mindless rapist fascists who don't deserve equal treatment.)

Unless you meant "sexist" to be those folks who state: "If I was a girl for a week I'd be -deleted for adult implications- with my fingers! Hur hur hur"

I think they're the kids on the playground who are joking on how the sperm gets to the egg.

HardRockSamurai also has a point. Most of the topics are stated either out of serious inquiry, or for fun. Anything truly offensive is given "brutal mod justice".

Or something. Or, you know what? Maybe i'm a hypocrite. I gave the exact same answer on the thread that inspired you to write this one, Rain.

Now I feel all guilty.

 

[PurpleRain]

I keep to myself in the regard of sexual topics due to the fact that me indicating my height as a human being can and usually will be misconstrued for the purpose of less than half a chortle of the mind of many people.

Regardless, the topics in of themselves are rather spammish in my opinion.

Agreed. There isn't much disscussion held within about what people find attractive in the opposite sex, nor if certain items of clothing are hot. It's already known that it's all personal opinion, so why make threads and polls of it?

Wow, some serious poll-age going on here man.

Oh it's satire. I never use polls for the reason mentioned within the poll, and the fact all these 'Sex' threads use polls.

 

[ElephantGuts]

I think you're over-estimating the effects of the mass quantities of porn on the internet on us. I believe I saw a fact that the percentage of porn to everything on the internet is actually fairly small, which I believe. There's a lot of it, but you realize how many other things there are?

But more importantly, just because there's a lot of porn doesn't mean it's going to effect us. Just because it's there doesn't necessarily mean everyone on the internet is staring at it constantly.

Anyway, I think it's mostly because of the "horny teenager" thing. I myself act mature on sexual topics, but the horniness is there and I can certainly understand less controlled people letting it take control of them. That and the anonimity allowing them to do so without fear of repercussions.

 

[PurpleRain]

Some would argue Max fits that bill. Sure he's a bit of a jerk at times, but it's meaningless silliness on his part.

I know this is off topic and sort of offensive (I don't mean it to be): But what's with all the Max love? He's just Ultrajoe 2.0. Hmm, I may have said too much. I didn't really mean to target Max nor Joe, just the fans out there. Again, just curious not meaning to be offensive.

Unless you meant "sexist" to be those folks who state: "If I was a girl for a week I'd be -deleted for adult implications- with my fingers! Hur hur hur"

I think they're the kids on the playground who are joking on how the sperm gets to the egg.

HardRockSamurai also has a point. Most of the topics are stated either out of serious inquiry, or for fun. Anything truly offensive is given "brutal mod justice".

Or something.

You make a good point. We have very few actual sexists around here, and when they d show their faces, they are generally knocked back. But, the other (topic item folk) do seem to follow the way you mention. Kids on the playground.

 

[Gxas]

Anywhere you go online nowadays, as long as it has some sort of chat feature, will bring up something along the lines of these threads. It stems from people who are bored and thinking of questions to ask the community. The questions that usually come up are pertaining to sex.

As a matter of fact. There is a collegehumor video [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_QyYaPWasos] that, I feel, does a good job of pointing out the things you see most often on web pages with user interaction. Sadly, I don't think it will ever go away, its just how most minds in the world nowadays work.

 

[Neonbob]

Some would argue Max fits that bill. Sure he's a bit of a jerk at times, but it's meaningless silliness on his part.

I know this is off topic and sort of offensive (I don't mean it to be): But what's with all the Max love? He's just Ultrajoe 2.0. Hmm, I may have said too much. I didn't really mean to target Max nor Joe, just the fans out there. Again, just curious not meaning to be offensive.

Well, I enjoy his posts because he's always irrelevant and funny for the most part. Ultrajoe seems to be more serious (I don't know if he was ever more joking, haven't been around as long as you guys)
Plus, he was the first big personality I ran across here.

 

[wewontdie11]

Gonna go ahead and guess this is a lot to do with the thread I started right? [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.122319?page=1]

I just thought it would be interesting to see what some people generally thought on the subject is all. Wasn't meant to be an overly serious affair anyway. I don't mind people just having a joke on in threads at all so long as they're not just trolling or intentionally trying to offend somebody. The more mature discussion in any thread is always the best part, but I don't see any harm to people just being a bit silly with their posts so long as they're not hurting anyone.

 

[PurpleRain]

Gonna go ahead and guess this is a lot to do with the thread I started right? [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.122319?page=1]

I just thought it would be interesting to see what some people generally thought on the subject is all. Wasn't meant to be an overly serious affair anyway. I don't mind people just having a joke on in threads at all so long as they're not just trolling or intentionally trying to offend somebody. The more mature discussion in any thread is always the best part, but I don't see any harm to people just being a bit silly with their posts so long as they're not hurting anyone.

On the contrary. I was inspired to do this after the 'Would you be a girl for a week' thread. While four people were generally mature about things: OP, Ultrajoe, etc, most answers came out: 'I'd play with myself infront of a mirror the entire week' or 'I'd be such a sult'. How is this relivant or not demeaning?

You and many others were cool. It was more inspired by those few posters that were less then subtle within.

 

[Crowghast]

Gonna go ahead and guess this is a lot to do with the thread I started right? [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.122319?page=1]

I just thought it would be interesting to see what some people generally thought on the subject is all. Wasn't meant to be an overly serious affair anyway. I don't mind people just having a joke on in threads at all so long as they're not just trolling or intentionally trying to offend somebody. The more mature discussion in any thread is always the best part, but I don't see any harm to people just being a bit silly with their posts so long as they're not hurting anyone.

Well. This settles it then.

Just for good measure, why don't we all, my fellow Escapists and all others planning to join, make a silent agreement to limit sex-related topics to once every five months or-so?

Yea? That a good plan? Of course it is. [i\][b\] [/thread] [/b][/i]

[small][i\]I've always wanted to do that.[/i][/small]

 

[Ultrajoe]

Some would argue Max fits that bill. Sure he's a bit of a jerk at times, but it's meaningless silliness on his part.

I know this is off topic and sort of offensive (I don't mean it to be): But what's with all the Max love? He's just Ultrajoe 2.0. Hmm, I may have said too much. I didn't really mean to target Max nor Joe, just the fans out there. Again, just curious not meaning to be offensive.

It's hilarious, because the 'Real Name' I put under my profile was 'Ultrajoe 2.0' before Max showed up. I don't see Max as the new anyone, he's just Max. Is he similar to some of my earlier posts? You'll have to dig those up to find out, if you really care, I honestly have no idea.

Well, I enjoy his posts because he's always irrelevant and funny for the most part. Ultrajoe seems to be more serious (I don't know if he was ever more joking, haven't been around as long as you guys)

I don't think about it that much, any recognition I ever got (Which gets blown out of proportion through nostalgia and hindsight.) was because something I did was likeable. Perhaps it isn't now, I tend not to get caught up in the same 'Times are changing' mentality of my older peers, shit just happens. As before, I don't really know myself, I'll need to dig through my older stuff to find any examples of 'old-me', if old-me exists.

 

[chefassassin2]

I'd say if the dickishness is spread out among all people, and not too excessive, then yes.
Some would argue Max fits that bill. Sure he's a bit of a jerk at times, but it's meaningless silliness on his part.
Plus, I can still ignore the big offenders to a certain extent, and when that fails, I get the satisfaction of watching their post either go away or be grayed out.

Agreed, but I would add a question. What's the point in the first place? I see no real need to be a dick to people in general. Why get so worked up, or just be a mean-spirited jackass that you're going to assail someone with inappropriateness at any given time? I usually come here as a respite from work, to catch up with people and see ideas from people other than testosteroned-up, knife-wielding cooks. I try to respect others and stay away from the troll-flames. I already have my catering manager for that, thank you.

 

[Ultrajoe]

I have no idea, honestly.
I just do what comes naturally and people seem to enjoy it, so whatever, you know?

I honestly have no idea....

-snip-

I don't think about it that much, any recognition I ever got (Which gets blown out of proportion through nostalgia and hindsight.) was because something I did was likeable.

Well, that's not doing anything for the 'We're not similar' argument.