Poll: Do you want to get married?

[Scarim Coral]

Yeah I would like to and I hope that I would regret it if the outcome lead to a divorce which I end up hating her for taking all of my stuff.
If I do get married I do intend to have the marriage somewhere better then Townhall (my last two wedding was in there and it's so dull).

 

[LostTimeLady]

After witnessing how marriges can crash and burn and take down everyone else with it, I originally thought I'd never want to put myself through that.

However, on reflection, and after I started my relationship with my boyfriend I realised that if love is in a relationship the natural course of it is a deeper commitment. Both me and my BF think along those lines which is great.

I'm not prepared to just fall into the 'housewife' roll when I marry but I've witnessed marriges of mutral respect, love and co-operation and those are the marriges I would want to emulate. They also seem to be the one's that have weathered many storms.

 

[pixiejedi]

I am married. Been married over a year now. I've been with him for 9 years, since we were sophomores in high school. We've been through the crucible (he went to college 3 states away from me) and came out just fine. I am very happy with him.

Marriage has its benefits. I get health care from his job for instance. The paper hasn't changed much of anything in our relationship that wouldn't have changed regardless. I would imagine it would be tough if there was a lot of external forces pressing on a couple. Without complete trust I don't think it could work.

 

[Gentleman_Reptile]

Not a chance bellydance.

The whole lifestyle just isnt appealing to me.

 

[Sansha]

My father likened marriage like this:

"Get all of your money and put it into a sack. Then, take it out to a bridge and throw it off. Then wail your head on the railing until you're about to pass out, then jump after the sack. There, I saved you forty years."

 

[The Gnome King]

Marriage has enriched my life quite a bit. Then again, I found somebody who shared my interests, didn't want to have children, and is so compatible with me on everything ranging from favorite food to sex drive that I feel truly blessed. A bad marriage can be Hell but a good marriage can be Haven.

 

[[.redacted]]

Theoretically, there could be a person out there whom I would never tire if, and would enjoy spending the rest of my life with. If there is, then very well, I would marry, but in all honesty I think it is rather unlikely that I will meet them - or that they even exist.

 

[Gigano]

Certainly not now, though I won't rule it out eventually.

Too many whiffs of conservatism and religion to it as of now, and I can't take advantage of the benefits yet, but would only be stuck with the obligations. And entering into a legal contract of mutual obligations is hardly the optimal way to express your trust and love...

 

[Nanaki316]

Yes. I desperately want to marry the father of my children but he doesn't want to marry me. *Shrugs*

 

[AndyFromMonday]

I see no reason to get married so I won't. If my girlfriend truly loves me then she'll stay with me without needing a bit of paper that makes it all official and shit. This applies to me as well. There's no reason to stay together if in say 5 or 10 years time we'll end up resenting each other. Yeah, there's divorce, but we all know what happens when a couple divorces don't we?

Marriage doesn't suddenly make a relationship better. It offers no advantages whatsoever. It just makes it harder to separate.

 

[yoyo13rom]

I do!

I know pronounce you man and...

I plan on getting married sometime late this year or next year actually. Me & my lovely fiance finally decided on a semi-date.

Wait what?! You mean you're actually getting married? Wow, good for you, I hope you've given a lot of thought to this and that you'll end up with the right person in the end.

(Hope you don't take this as something insulting but): May God bless you, your life, and your marriage, and may you life a happily ever after life!

OT: This is actually one of my life's goals, but till I find the right girl for me/the love of my life, the one what rocks my feelings and turns them upside down, I have to become the responsible, competent and dreamy man I should be and to pass all my exams and get a job(in other words I'm side-questing at the moment).

 

[Cornish]

No, not really.

 

[Iskenator67]

Yep.

step 1: Get girlfriend... I'll figure the rest out after that.

Step 2:???

Step 3rofit?

OT: Maybe someday. I got a lot of personal shit to sort out first though.

 

[sumanoskae]

Can't see myself as the family type. There will always be times when I want to be alone, live for no one but myself, I don't want that kind of responsibly.

If theres a woman I could love out there, I'd rather just let it run it's course then pretend that things will always remain the same

 

[hazabaza1]

Wait... 70%-30% positive on a topic about marriage...
on the escapist?

BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA?!

Anyway, I don't know if I'd like to. I got a loooong time to think about it.

 

[Evilsanta]

Yep.

step 1: Get girlfriend... I'll figure the rest out after that.

QFT...

Yeah gotta get a girlfriend first. Will figure out the rest after that.

 

[Angerwing]

Hell no! I'm way too edgy and full of teenage angst and 'misanthropy' to ever conform to the mainstream! Love? How quaint!

/sarcasm

Yeah, I definitely plan to get married some time, way down the road. Like, at least a decade, after I get my shit together.

 

[Ren3004]

step 1: Get girlfriend... I'll figure the rest out after that.

Well, this. Pretty much this. But right now the scales are shifted towards "No." Don't get me wrong, I do want to spend the rest of my life with someone, I just don't think that complicating things with marriage is that important.

Oh, and an option for people who aren't sure would be nice.

 

[Lieju]

At some point in life, I guess.
Or civil partnership, rather, if there's no gender-neutral marriage law by that time in my country.

For me it would be rather about the legal side of it, securing the rights of children if we have any, inheritance and such.
Personally, moving together with someone would be a much bigger deal for me.

As for why one would want to get married,

I get that, but if it's not about the paper, then why bother with the paper. What else separates weddings from, say, a(Considerably less expensive) party you throw with your friends or family to celebrate you and your significant other making a decision about commitment or children?.

And

I see no reason to get married so I won't. If my girlfriend truly loves me then she'll stay with me without needing a bit of paper that makes it all official and shit. This applies to me as well. There's no reason to stay together if in say 5 or 10 years time we'll end up resenting each other. Yeah, there's divorce, but we all know what happens when a couple divorces don't we?

Marriage doesn't suddenly make a relationship better. It offers no advantages whatsoever. It just makes it harder to separate.

Except that it does. There are all kinds of advantages you'll get legally, such as all the financial stuff, securing the rights of children if the relationship ends, being able to see your partner if they are incarcerated or hospitalized, it might affect the taxes you'll pay, or getting citizenships or being able to take your partner with you when you move to another country because of your job... These rights and responsibilities depend on the country, though, and at least some of the advantages you can get legally other ways.

 

[sumanoskae]

I'm just cynical maybe, but I can't help but think if you love each other enough, who needs a bit of paper to keep you together? If not, 10 years down the line, why should that piece of paper keep you miserable?

We're mainly out of the societal pressure to stay attached to one person for 80 years. My way of thinking doesn't stop that, just stops the unhappiness of people who are trapped by it.

Its not about the paper, its about the memories a couple will remember on that special say when they both say "I do". The marriage ceremony (whether its religious or secular) its all about celebrating two people coming together in front of friends and family. And not about showing off to others saying "yeah I have a piece of paper to prove Im gonna stick to it till the end"

Yes some people will marry out of financial reasons(either out of necessity or just to make a bigger income) but not everyone will do that.

I get that, but if it's not about the paper, then why bother with the paper. What else separates weddings from, say, a(Considerably less expensive) party you throw with your friends or family to celebrate you and your significant other making a decision about commitment or children?.

What about marriage makes it so emotionality significant as to make up for the potential divorce hassle when the two of you get tired of each other because your relationship has nowhere else to go, or you become attracted to someone else?