i would like to, someday, kinda need a significant other for that one, and i don't have one :/ should start looking, but haven't, not keen on getting hurt again
Poll: Do you want to get married?
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Marriage is nothing but an arbitrary, guilt-mongering, bullshit stamp of approval invented by the clergy to keep their congregation in line! A stamp of approval for which you apparently have to pay through the nose, then again if you want to split up! And for what, a slight tax relief?
Sure someday I'd like too. Not right now, it just wouldn't be practical. But too me, marriage is the ultimate sign of commitment. Showing how you really do want to be with this person for the rest of your life. The ceremony itself I don't actually care about, but the party afterwards and the holiday sound good.
But yes, eventually I would like to get married to the right person. Kids on the other hand, now that's a different story altogether ...
But yes, eventually I would like to get married to the right person. Kids on the other hand, now that's a different story altogether ...
I don't see how cheating is a disadvantage, IF the significant other deosn't know about it.skcseth said:
Divorce ofcourse is a problem when the goods have to be split up, but the most immediate risk is just a bad relationship.
The infatuation phase lasts about a year, maybe a year and a half and then those love hormones stop flowing and you'll find out how much you really dislike the person you're living with. Love really makes you blind.
If you're lucky the rest of your married life you'll manage to ignore eachother most of the time and the whole thing will be just boring and uneventful, except for your kids giving you grief every once in a while.
If you're unlucky you'll hate eachother and every day you return from work, you'll have another row in the house. Just about every kind of set back in life, you can get used to, but a bad relationship damages you every day.
I think too many people get married when they're not ready. I've read that 45% of marriages end in divorce. Those people need to sit down and think really hard about the person they're with before they decide whether they want to get married.
But to answer the question, I am not planning on getting married, or having children, or even settling down with someone. I believe a lot of people get married because they think it's normal and if they don't people will look down on them or something. I'm not saying everyone who gets married thinks that, there are definitely marriages that work and I know couples who are perfect for each other.
But to answer the question, I am not planning on getting married, or having children, or even settling down with someone. I believe a lot of people get married because they think it's normal and if they don't people will look down on them or something. I'm not saying everyone who gets married thinks that, there are definitely marriages that work and I know couples who are perfect for each other.
That's bullshit. There's no reason why that should be the way it is. Come move to Massachusetts, it's legal here. Fuck the homophobes ^^ten.to.ten said:
OT: No. Judging by the fact that it only takes a couple of months for me to absolutely hate every fiber of somebody's being, I'd say I never will. I don't even like short-term relationships, so forget marriage.
oh god i can only hope to have a marriage like this.Brutal Peanut said:I am married.
It's not as bad as everyone makes it out to be,....if you continue to treat each other like adults, and don't sweat the small stuff. Like fighting about pot roast or envelopes. Or who didn't start the dishwasher. Seriously,..who does that?
I never expected him to change for me, and vice-versa. He's my best friend, and we have a pretty great time together.
Edit: Also, we didn't start out planning to get married, and we don't really wear our wedding rings. I wasn't even the one who brought it up. It was about 3 1/2 years in, when he started asking me about marriage. I was perfectly happy to just stay together, and I told him so. But he eventually asked on his own time when he was sure he was ready, I said sure, and that's that.
OT: personally yeah i see myself getting married eventually, call me old fashioned, but thats just where i see myself.
of course it wont be till im absolutely ready, like the person i quoted is/was.
I've seen my dad get divorced twice.
No marriage for me.
Live with one woman? Sure. But I'm not going to complicated things with legalities.
No marriage for me.
Live with one woman? Sure. But I'm not going to complicated things with legalities.
Yes, actually. I've got this lame dream for my future, you see. Something where I meet "the woman of my dreams" and I become a doctor and we get married and get a nice house in the suburbs and have a couple of kids. You know, boring stuff. But that's just how I am.
Yeah marriage sounds like a concept I could get on board with, if it's with the right person. I just don't get married all willy nilly! (PS: I love the term "willy nilly" lol!)
I'm ambivalent to it. If the better half I meet is insistent about it, then sure, why not? But as it is, I don't need a ring, a document, and a bunch of traditions and rituals to know that I love someone.
i dont know but i did propose to my girlfriend with an onion ring, I would have done it again but the restaurant was ungracious enough to not have any.
