Poll: Does someone saying they are genuinely depressed make you feel uncomfortable around them?

[Fooz]

Now I am depressed in my eyes, I went to the doctor and they said I am not clinically depressed, but I have never felt like this in my life, I have been constantly low and tearful for a full week now, I have told my parents who are helping me through, but I don't really wanna tell my friends, as they might just avoid me as to not make me upset or something.

I'm not looking for sympathy or anything, just an answer to my question in the title

 

[JesterRaiin]

Does someone saying they are genuinely depressed make you feel uncomfortable around them?

Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah.
Depression is a sickness. I don't feel uncomfortable near someone with headaches, same thing applies with depression.

On the side note : where i live depression is considered "pretty normal state of mind". We don't have all this "how are you", "how's going", "nice meeting you" things, so probably we are introduced to depression pretty early and we learn how to deal with it.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

They'll probably notice regardless of whether you tell them or not. If you won't talk to them they won't know how to approach you about it and help, you're better off talking to them. I wouldn't go on and on about it, but you probably should mention it, if they're good friends they'll try and help (in my own experience at least).

 

[Fooz]

They'll probably notice regardless of whether you tell them or not. If you won't talk to them they won't know how to approach you about it and help, you're better off talking to them. I wouldn't go on and on about it, but you probably should mention it, if they're good friends they'll try and help (in my own experience at least).

but I act happy around people I havn't told, as I don't like to bring peoples mood down just because my mood is shitty

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

They'll probably notice regardless of whether you tell them or not. If you won't talk to them they won't know how to approach you about it and help, you're better off talking to them. I wouldn't go on and on about it, but you probably should mention it, if they're good friends they'll try and help (in my own experience at least).

but I act happy around people I havn't told, as I don't like to bring peoples mood down just because my mood is shitty

I've been in the same position, but people always seem to tell after a little while.

 

[TehCookie]

Not at all, there are meds that make clinically depressed like normal people. My mom is clinically depressed, and she takes meds and you wouldn't notice it. Now if you are feeling depressed if I'm a friend I'll try to cheer them up or sit through it with them. Everyone gets depressed from time to time. If you continue to wallow in self misery and don't try to cheer up or kill yourself then I'll just insult and hate you.

The only time I'm uncomfortable around them is when act borderline insane. My mom admitted that she was so depressing that she made everyone around her depressed and it would be better if we all died together. My brother is also depressed and when his friend Scotty died my brother tried to commit suicide and ran around the house bleeding from his wrist crying, "I want to see Scotty!"

 

[Fooz]

I have been constantly low and tearful for a full week now,

Dude! A week? If its any comfort, thats far from being clinically depressed. Everyone takes their turn at the bottom, its when you feel low for months or even years on end that its out of the ordinary. Im not trying to flame you, quite the opposite actually. See how you feel in another weeks time.

Anyway, back on topic, maybe a little. What do you say? I have been diagnosed with depression myself and I know what helps me. Theres not really anything you can say, I think listening helps more.

I know a week isn't a long time, but it's so out of the ordinary for me, like I would always have those down times like everyone else, but this time I don't want to play any kind of video games, which is like my main hobby, I don't want to go to college, I don't have an appetite whereas before I loved eating as it is one of the things I'm best at

I don't really see myself having a future at this point in time, like everything seems pointless and you just work to live, which to me just flat out sucks.

Hopefully I will get out of it, but for now my mood is pretty poor. And like when I think about it, even if I did get happy again, just thinking about this point in time where I'm 'depressed' and what made me like this would surely make me 'depressed' again.

[small]I used the apostrophes around depressed because I have not actually been diagnosed as depressed.[/small]

I dunna why I'm telling you as you don't know me and therefore probably don't really care but for some reason I am. Cheers anyway buddy.

 

[Fooz]

Not at all, there are meds that make clinically depressed like normal people. My mom is clinically depressed, and she takes meds and you wouldn't notice it. Now if you are feeling depressed if I'm a friend I'll try to cheer them up or sit through it with them. Everyone gets depressed from time to time. If you continue to wallow in self misery and don't try to cheer up or kill yourself then I'll just insult and hate you.

The only time I'm uncomfortable around them is when act borderline insane. My mom admitted that she was so depressing that she made everyone around her depressed and it would be better if we all died together. My brother is also depressed and when his friend Scotty died my brother tried to commit suicide and ran around the house bleeding from his wrist crying, "I want to see Scotty!"

ah man, that last bit is bad man, I hope he is OK now though?

and yeah I do try to cheer myself up, hanging around my family seems to keep me in a relatively good mood, it's just when I am on my own that I get bad, and as for suicide, after seeing the effect on my aunt on uncle when my cousin committed suicide, I have decided I could never do that to my parents and family. even though it has crossed my mind I could never do it, I would rather live like this than put my family through that sort of shit.

 

[BiscuitTrouser]

Seeing as my mother has clinical depression. Yes. Yes it does. Its awkward and we dont talk about it, i just offer a hug when she seems low. I cant offer advice... i dont know what to say, but a hug can do more than most words can. It isnt fun and i genuinely feel sorry for her :C It does something to you to see both parents brought so low (my fathers cancer destroyed, for a time, the man he once was) but the best you can do is be sympathetic and try your best to make them happy.

If you continue to wallow in self misery and don't try to cheer up or kill yourself then I'll just insult and hate you."

If they try and it doesnt work? You insult and hate someone for not having inbalanced brain chemistry? You pick on mentally ill people? Thats fucking sick. Im disgusted by the attitudes of people toward depressed people. "Just get happier" isnt an option for those who are clinically depressed and drugs, especially those that affect brain function, dont work the same for everyone.

I also dont take kindly to the idea of suicide being used so... cruelly. The idea that depressed people should kill themselves when their brain chemistry doesnt work correctly for a time is physically sickening. In my eyes no human is that cruel.

 

[Logiclul]

If someone I knew told me they weren't feeling so good, then I'd try to help them and console them, and I'm sure anyone else would do the same as me.

If, however, you walk up to me and go "I'm soo depressed I cut myself" bluntly, it may be weird.

and this is where I introduce the uncomfortable social subject which everyone doesn't like. That is that I would expect a male to come to me in a more strong attitude than a women who I could expect be on any spectrum, including bluntly/scared. It makes it much less "awkward", and by acting like that, it makes compassion easier, as it is easily calculated by ones' mind.

I hope you lighten up.

 

[TehCookie]

If you continue to wallow in self misery and don't try to cheer up or kill yourself then I'll just insult and hate you."

If they try and it doesnt work? You insult and hate someone for not having inbalanced brain chemistry? You pick on mentally ill people? Thats fucking sick. Im disgusted by the attitudes of people toward depressed people. "Just get happier" isnt an option for those who are clinically depressed and drugs, especially those that affect brain function, dont work the same for everyone.

I also dont take kindly to the idea of suicide being used so... cruelly. The idea that depressed people should kill themselves when their brain chemistry doesnt work correctly for a time is physically sickening. In my eyes no human is that cruel.

I treat everyone equally and don't give a shit about any differences. If you complain about yourself and do nothing to change it I'll hate you for being annoying. Either stop complaining or try to change it. Meds don't work for everyone, they can do therapy or get a hobby and try to manage it. They shouldn't kill themselves, they should do what they want. If they want to why should I stop them and force them to live a depressing life they hate? Wouldn't that be selfish on my part?

My brain chemistry obviously isn't correct because I have little to no empathy. Like how depressed people can't just get happier I can't just start caring. Would that change your opinion because it's a condition I can't help?

 

[TehCookie]

ah man, that last bit is bad man, I hope he is OK now though?

and yeah I do try to cheer myself up, hanging around my family seems to keep me in a relatively good mood, it's just when I am on my own that I get bad, and as for suicide, after seeing the effect on my aunt on uncle when my cousin committed suicide, I have decided I could never do that to my parents and family. even though it has crossed my mind I could never do it, I would rather live like this than put my family through that sort of shit.

He just burst into my room 10 minutes ago because he herd me screaming (when I wasn't). He doesn't want to kill himself anymore but he is still insane. His psychiatrist is still trying to find the right meds and dosage for him and he never takes them on schedule so it's been a rough.

 

[AstylahAthrys]

Now I am depressed in my eyes, I went to the doctor and they said I am not clinically depressed, but I have never felt like this in my life, I have been constantly low and tearful for a full week now, I have told my parents who are helping me through, but I don't really wanna tell my friends, as they might just avoid me as to not make me upset or something.

I'm not looking for sympathy or anything, just an answer to my question in the title

Honey, honey. A week? You're just sad? Go back to a doctor when you can't eat or sleep or get out bed in the morning for a few months. Having bouts of sadness is normal, especially if you're in a transitional period in your life. Chances are it's just situational sadness. Push through it and try to keep your head together. If it doesn't pass in a month or two, then start to worry. Feeling emotions is part of life.

Also, though I don't put anyone down for it, other people do. My relationships were affected once it got out that I was on antidepressants and in therapy. Some people thought I was faking it for attention, which was BS because I only told my closest friends who would understand me. Apparently someone wasn't as nice of a person as I thought they were. I was a weird emo kid even though I kept almost everything to myself and didn't ***** or moan about anything (unlike the kids who faked depression for attention. There were many. Apparently I gave some drama queens some ideas.)

 

[SilentCom]

No one tells me anything so why would someone tell me if they're depressed? Often when people are really depressed they may not feel like talking to anyone, including about their depression. They just lost hope and don't really give a sh!t about anything anymore.

If someone were to open up to me about their depression then I would consider helping them if that is what they seek. They might just be feeling lonely and want someone to talk to.

 

[Ceil-Sama]

I wouldn't be uncomfortable around them. Been there, got diagnosed with it myself, got better, and now I'm living a semi-normal life. I've helped a friend who was also at that state, got them bandages for their cuts, talked to them, ect ect. A person with depression is still a person.

 

[applesandoranges]

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[Kae]

No, I'm kind of weird in that regard, I like to approach and try to help and cheer up people when they are depressed and/or in trouble, but this always ends badly because these people keep thinking that I want to be they're friend or sexual partner, I mean c'mon people, I only help you because it makes me feel smugly superior, not because I care about you or your silly problems, is it really that hard of a concept to understand?

And inversely when I'm depressed, I just find a way to deal with it on my own, most often by poking the psychological wound so much that it hurts as much as it can until I develop a thick skin to it. It sounds bad but if I can laugh about it now why care?
[sub][sub]In fact I've been wanting to tell a joke about one of this situations for a couple of months now because I think it's really funny but I'm afraid that people may find it offensive and also I would prefer to make it as a comic, but I can't draw.
[sub]Of course if you want to indulge my ego, I'm here to help you, though I've been reather busy lately so it's only going to be at night[/sub][/sub][/sub]

 

[Mr. In-between]

No, I understand depression because I am on 60mg of Cymbalta a day. I feel bad for anyone who has to deal with this illness and I generally relate to people that have it.

 

[008Zulu_v1legacy]

Identify the source of your depression and get rid of it.

Crappy job? Quit a get a different one. Drugs are a short term solution, you need to change the source of your problem.

 

[FamoFunk]

No, it doesn't. It wouldn't make a difference to me and I would try and help.

What does and has made me feel uncomfortable is when someone has tried to drag me into their depression, like try and made me suffer with them. I mean, I'm sure to help and be a shoulder to cry on, but not be brought in to it myself.