Poll: Eating Problem.
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God forbid some one is offended.Demon ID said:haha that it would, and I like what you put as the pre spoiler checkdududf said:Scare the shit out of em. Fear is a good motivator.Demon ID said:Might I suggest you spoiler that image? I personally found it abit eww so undoubtedly someone will find it offensive and report you etc etc. Because you know, people like to report anythingdududf said:
But I will agree with you, surely pictures of things like that will should kick start the need for healthy eating.
And sure, I'll do that.
I might care.
For half a second.
I knew a person like that once, and tried to talk her into eating again. Being nice didn't work, so my advice is to be firm and don't worry too much about hurting her feelings; worry about her health.Riobux said:
Since she can't afford to get an appointment with a doctor, perhaps try finding some reliable medical sources. Websites like the Internet Public Library [http://www.ipl.org/] and Google Scholar [http://scholar.google.com/schhp?hl=en&as_sdt=20000000] have information that's been vetted by experts. Or, look in an actual library. Hopefully you can find something useful.
If she just absolutely refuses to listen to you, she might not be the girl you want.
Yeah, that sounds bad. Help get her to a doctor. With some help she can come to understand that healthy weight loss comes from a reasonable diet (not a short term way of eating but a lifestyle for eating) and regular exercise/activity.
She is actually doing a great deal of harm because her metabolism will be "reset," so to speak, and go in to "famine mode." This is where the body assumes that food is scarce and slows the metabolism down as a defense against starvation.
She sounds like she really needs help. Take it seriously and do whet you can.
She is actually doing a great deal of harm because her metabolism will be "reset," so to speak, and go in to "famine mode." This is where the body assumes that food is scarce and slows the metabolism down as a defense against starvation.
She sounds like she really needs help. Take it seriously and do whet you can.
If she is 230lbs and she feels she is overweight then she should exercise and eat less dessert. Maybe try and help her by inviting her to do activities with you that will get her exercise such as going for walks or whathaveyou. When on said outings also go to restaurants and get healthy food and make sure she eats. That might help.
#1) Talk to someone who can provide her professional advice.
#2) Invest in a book, if i'm remembering correctly it's called Food Rules: An Eater's Manual, it's written by Michael Pollan. This really is a book that ANYONE who is currently on a western diet should read, because the simple advice that Pollan gives is invaluable. If she'll read it a couple times and take it's advice to heart she can eat a wholesome diet that will not only help her lose weight, but could better the health of ANYONE who has been eating a western diet. One look at the list of what she ate that you showed was more than enough to make it perfectly clear where many of her problems are coming from. Salad is only good for you when you don't put dressing on it, it doesn't matter how little salt you put on your French Fries, they're not food so much as they are an edible food like substance, and none of the other things she's eating will be all that good for her or anyone else either. Eating the right things will help her infinately more than going on any sort of diet, crash or other.
#2) Invest in a book, if i'm remembering correctly it's called Food Rules: An Eater's Manual, it's written by Michael Pollan. This really is a book that ANYONE who is currently on a western diet should read, because the simple advice that Pollan gives is invaluable. If she'll read it a couple times and take it's advice to heart she can eat a wholesome diet that will not only help her lose weight, but could better the health of ANYONE who has been eating a western diet. One look at the list of what she ate that you showed was more than enough to make it perfectly clear where many of her problems are coming from. Salad is only good for you when you don't put dressing on it, it doesn't matter how little salt you put on your French Fries, they're not food so much as they are an edible food like substance, and none of the other things she's eating will be all that good for her or anyone else either. Eating the right things will help her infinately more than going on any sort of diet, crash or other.
Nothing like a good old fashioned "I'm fat so I'll starve myself like a cheater". It sucks that she has-or most likely has-anorexia. I'll spare my personal and harsh philosophy on eating disorders and just advise you to confront her about it and tell her she needs to lose weight the good old fashioned way. That's assuming she has a reason to lose weight though.
While a crash diet can achieve weight loss, it's a short term solution that does more harm than good in the long run. Eventually, those pounds lost will be regained and then some.
Another thing is that from the list you provided, she's getting pretty much no nutrients. Tonic water, fries, scones? Where's the protein? Even if she's a vegetarian, that is no excuse to not have protein. Beans, legumes (chick peas, lentils etc) nuts, tofu, etc. These are all important. And what about healthy grains, like brown rice or quinoa or steel cut oats? No fruits? How much water is she drinking? If it's just a glass that is going to lead to dehydration. You need more than that. Even if she was eating more in day, if it was still only things like that, there are serious issues.
If she's in America, I'm sure there's a chain of women only gyms out there that does circuit training just like in Canada.. One thing that they do there when you sign up (if it's like the one I'm at) is a kind of body checkup deal, where they go over your bmi, whether you're getting enough water, your fat to lean muscle mass ratio etc. They use this to come up with a kind of baseline metabolism and from there, how much you should eat.
You should suggest she goes there, as it may help reinforce the importance of eating a diet that can provide the necessary nutrition. The bonus of it is that if she joins, she can start exercising, and the best way to lose weight is to boost your metabolism, and that best way to do that is through exercise. If she isn't active at all, now is the perfect time to start. Try and get something going where the both of you promise to walk a half hour each day (distance isn't as important as time). Since you're on different continents, maybe you could both promise to talk half hour nature hikes and take pictures and exchange them or something. The key is to get her to see that there are better ways to lose weight.
Another thing is that from the list you provided, she's getting pretty much no nutrients. Tonic water, fries, scones? Where's the protein? Even if she's a vegetarian, that is no excuse to not have protein. Beans, legumes (chick peas, lentils etc) nuts, tofu, etc. These are all important. And what about healthy grains, like brown rice or quinoa or steel cut oats? No fruits? How much water is she drinking? If it's just a glass that is going to lead to dehydration. You need more than that. Even if she was eating more in day, if it was still only things like that, there are serious issues.
If she's in America, I'm sure there's a chain of women only gyms out there that does circuit training just like in Canada.. One thing that they do there when you sign up (if it's like the one I'm at) is a kind of body checkup deal, where they go over your bmi, whether you're getting enough water, your fat to lean muscle mass ratio etc. They use this to come up with a kind of baseline metabolism and from there, how much you should eat.
You should suggest she goes there, as it may help reinforce the importance of eating a diet that can provide the necessary nutrition. The bonus of it is that if she joins, she can start exercising, and the best way to lose weight is to boost your metabolism, and that best way to do that is through exercise. If she isn't active at all, now is the perfect time to start. Try and get something going where the both of you promise to walk a half hour each day (distance isn't as important as time). Since you're on different continents, maybe you could both promise to talk half hour nature hikes and take pictures and exchange them or something. The key is to get her to see that there are better ways to lose weight.
Too much I've eaten more than that in a day! Anywas sit her down and really talk to her about her diet tell her that you care for and love her that you just want to see her happy and healthy and if she's serious about lossing weight then mabey start exercising and eating a balanced diet together that doesn't mean skipping a meal and always eat breakfast as it speeds up the motablisme early in the morning and your body will break down fats for the rest of the day. Just look up so things on the internet about lossing weight together even if you don't need it its better if your right there with her and have a healthy experiance together.
Mcupobob out....
Mcupobob out....
two things she needs, a proper diet and alotta exercise, gotta eat often, but eat light nutritious foods, high fibre and such. get the right number of servings of stuff in you... cut down on bread and pasta type foods since they can cause bloating and such in certain people giving the illusion of more fat than there is... due to water retention and such... so yeah... overall take her to a doctor so said medical practitioner can tell her this themselves. and get some sense in that noggin of hers... starvation causes weight retention... and it burns muscle before it burns fat... so it'll cause severe weakness before it causes fat loss...
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Honestly, get her help immediately. My girlfriend has been battling anorexia and bulimia for 3 years now and it's torn her life apart. Eating Disorders are nothing to mess around with and are harder to get rid of the longer you've had them. If you can, get her into therapy. If you're not old enough, have her talk to her parents about finding some help. I promise you, you don't want something like an ED to take hold in her mind. She will suffer everyday, and so will you right along side her.
Get her to a doctor. Definite signs of an impending eating disorder. Trust me; I've had/have one. Get her help before it's too late.
take her to a doctor immediately.
Design a diet with the help of said doctor with an exercise regiment also.
Design a diet with the help of said doctor with an exercise regiment also.
Monday: Starbucks Vanilla Bean
Tuesday: Nothing
Wednesday: Nothing
Thursday: Nothing
Friday: Slurpee and a slice of Pizza
That's kinda what I've had for lunch. I've had breakfast and dinner on a regular basis, but if I don't have lunch that's about 12 hours without food. I don't consider myself to have an eating disorder, although I do believe I am developing one...
You might want to check her out, as I should check myself out, too. I am getting dry skin and various other skin issues lately, I do believe it's because of my undernourishment. Check to see if she has any skin problems, hair problems (messy, frizzy), or if there is damage on her teeth (if she throws up any of her food, the constant stomach acid on her teeth will damage them), those are sure signs that she needs help...
I am in a similar position to hers, but in much greater need.
Tuesday: Nothing
Wednesday: Nothing
Thursday: Nothing
Friday: Slurpee and a slice of Pizza
That's kinda what I've had for lunch. I've had breakfast and dinner on a regular basis, but if I don't have lunch that's about 12 hours without food. I don't consider myself to have an eating disorder, although I do believe I am developing one...
You might want to check her out, as I should check myself out, too. I am getting dry skin and various other skin issues lately, I do believe it's because of my undernourishment. Check to see if she has any skin problems, hair problems (messy, frizzy), or if there is damage on her teeth (if she throws up any of her food, the constant stomach acid on her teeth will damage them), those are sure signs that she needs help...
I am in a similar position to hers, but in much greater need.
Tell her that if she's planning on losing weight, she needs to eat a little more or else her body will digest muscle in addition to fat, which is true, it's called ketosis [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ketosis].
I'm not sure how she can stand it. She must be taking diet pills or something that destroy her hunger drive. It may also be that she's in severe depression.
When my brother had a major depressive episode (which lead to some suicide attempts) he lost a lot of weight because he wouldn't eat anything for days on end. This ended up doing a lot of damage to his digestive system, he eventually had to have his gull bladder out, and he still suffers IBS [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irritable_bowel_syndrome].
I'm not sure how she can stand it. She must be taking diet pills or something that destroy her hunger drive. It may also be that she's in severe depression.
When my brother had a major depressive episode (which lead to some suicide attempts) he lost a lot of weight because he wouldn't eat anything for days on end. This ended up doing a lot of damage to his digestive system, he eventually had to have his gull bladder out, and he still suffers IBS [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irritable_bowel_syndrome].
I'm going through something similar myself right now... but the problem is that she may not see the problem in what she's doing.
It took my boyfriend's sister-in-law dying of complications from anorexia to make me see that what was going on with me wasn't healthy.
Be firm but gentle with your girl, and take care of her. She may fight you, but you have to try to help.
Another question is: is she just 'not hungry', or is she avoiding food out of 'oh, it'll make me fat'?
It took my boyfriend's sister-in-law dying of complications from anorexia to make me see that what was going on with me wasn't healthy.
Be firm but gentle with your girl, and take care of her. She may fight you, but you have to try to help.
Another question is: is she just 'not hungry', or is she avoiding food out of 'oh, it'll make me fat'?