Poll: Games Vs. Girlfriends

[Ssen]

Whether or not is has happened to you, gentelmen, you are all familiar with the topic. Do you spend time with your girlfriend, or do you want to play games. Sometimes its obvious that she is more important. At others, there is some grey area in there.


If you promised your sweetheart you would fix her dinner, take her out, help her perform some random chore, then put done the damn controller and go. That is an obvious case. But what if she asks you if you want to go to some abstract art convention, where you will view pictures that make no sense, from people with obscure names you've never heard of; and it just so happens that you have an important Tournament match on TF2 that night and can't go.

First of all, you really don't feel like going, and if you had a better excuse in your arsenal, you would engage and fire it off. But unfortunately, the only plans you have are for you, the computer, and a large bag of cheetos. If you say yes, your team suffers, and you walk around, filled with agonizing, endless boredom for the entire night.

If you give her your meke excuse, she either: A) Accuses you vehemently of prioratizing games over her, and you find yourself apologizing weeks; B) Puts on the most heart-wrenching sad face you've ever seen, and quietly says 'okay', and you apologize for weeks, or; C) She is "okay with it", doesn't answer your calls for awile, and you apologize for weeks.

So I have to know, do you say yes and are bored all night, or do you say no, and brave the consequences?

(Note: I'm not meaning to be sexist or anything, I have just never met any girl who has experienced something of this sort from the gamer's point of view. If you have, feel free to reply.)

EDIT: Poll option changed due to one-sidedness, sorry, my bad.

 

[Siuss]

So there is no "I would rather spend time with my girlfriend then game, ever?" The poll seems flawed...

 

[Neesa]

I posted my opinion in the other thread with the same name, lulz. Like MaxTheReaper said, spending time on the outside world with someone you want to be with is far more satisfying than dealing with an ePenor match. Obviously.

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

Well usually me and my boyfriend are playing games together, but if he forsakes me for a game coma, I usually understand.... because I do the same thing to him on occasion. We never fight about it, but if we have something important planned to do together, neither of us will blow it off for a video game.

 

[Erana]

Do we really need two threads in which women are compared to video games?

I can't help but be bothered when I am compared to software. I've managed to keep my mouth shut and let people have their fun with the last thread, but....

 

[Ssen]

Do we really need two threads in which women are compared to video games?

I can't help but be bothered when I am compared to software. I've managed to keep my mouth shut and let people have their fun with the last thread, but....

I'm sorry, but it was an accidental double post, I did not mean to make a second thread.

And on the point of your arguement, I am not comparing you as a person to videogames, I am comparing situations, in which a person is involved.

In the event that it was keep the girlfriend or play the game, I believe most people would chose the living being, as opposed to the manufactured plastic.

 

[Jark212]

So alone...

 

[Erana]

Do we really need two threads in which women are compared to video games?

I can't help but be bothered when I am compared to software. I've managed to keep my mouth shut and let people have their fun with the last thread, but....

I'm sorry, but it was an accidental double post, I did not mean to make a second thread.

And on the point of your arguement, I am not comparing you as a person to videogames, I am comparing situations, in which a person is involved.

In the event that it was keep the girlfriend or play the game, I believe most people would chose the living being, as opposed to the manufactured plastic.

Why would you say, "Girlfriend?" What about straight chicks and gay guys?
More importantly, why ask it in the first place, if you already know the answer?
Oh, and if you're not familiar with it, use the search bar at the top of the page.

 

[Locust]

Personally, if you're going to get a girlfriend who you know isn't interesting in gaming like you, you should be prepared to respect that and make her your top priority. After all, you do love her for who she is, right? It's wrong that she should try to force you away from gaming completely, but spending time with her should always be put above playing a computer game.

Alternatively, just get a gaming girlfriend. Then you can game and spend time with her at the exact same time D:

 

[Grimrider6]

Personally, if you're going to get a girlfriend who you know isn't interesting in gaming like you, you should be prepared to respect that and make her your top priority. After all, you do love her for who she is, right? It's wrong that she should try to force you away from gaming completely, but spending time with her should always be put above playing a computer game.

Alternatively, just get a gaming girlfriend. Then you can game and spend time with her at the exact same time D:

Respectfully disagreeing here. Finding a Significant Other who shares your hobby is a matter of luck. If you and your life partner make plans ahead of time, then the plan you made first has priority.

But in the proposed scenario, the individual had plans to play online, with a group of people. That's a plan. If that individual's soul-mate comes in and demands that plans be changed at the drop of a hat, that's unreasonable.

A plan with friends online is the same as a plan with friends outside. If the individual's co-pilot in the journey through life cannot understand that, and respect their lifestyle choices, then they might not be able to be happy together.

 

[Neesa]

Respectfully disagreeing here. Finding a Significant Other who shares your hobby is a matter of luck. If you and your life partner make plans ahead of time, then the plan you made first has priority.

But in the proposed scenario, the individual had plans to play online, with a group of people. That's a plan. If that individual's soul-mate comes in and demands that plans be changed at the drop of a hat, that's unreasonable.

A plan with friends online is the same as a plan with friends outside. If the individual's co-pilot in the journey through life cannot understand that, and respect their lifestyle choices, then they might not be able to be happy together.

I have to agree with you on that. Plans are plans. Especially if they're made ahead of time. Did you let your girlfriend know that you were going to be busy that night before she told you? If not, that's some fault on your part. If you don't have good communication about what you're doing in your life, how is she suppose to know what you're doing? We're women, not mind readers. My telekinesis works randomly, not all the time.

Like Grim said, if your girlfriend knows that you're a gamer and that games are somewhat an importance to you, she has to respect that. It is best to find someone with similar interest, or can at least respect yours and tolerate it. At the same token, you have to respect her interest as well. Maybe you two need to sit down and go over some things you want out of your relationship. Hell, do some pros and cons. If there's more cons than pros, going your separate ways doesn't sound like a bad idea. At least you wouldn't be making post like this asking for people if spending time with your girlfriend is more important than a online tournament. Amirite?

 

[Locust]

Respectfully disagreeing here. Finding a Significant Other who shares your hobby is a matter of luck. If you and your life partner make plans ahead of time, then the plan you made first has priority.

But in the proposed scenario, the individual had plans to play online, with a group of people. That's a plan. If that individual's soul-mate comes in and demands that plans be changed at the drop of a hat, that's unreasonable.

A plan with friends online is the same as a plan with friends outside. If the individual's co-pilot in the journey through life cannot understand that, and respect their lifestyle choices, then they might not be able to be happy together.

Trust me, I agree with what you're saying. If your partner was aware you had something to do yet immediately dismissed it as unimportant, that's wrong. Personally though, I avoid girlfriends like that. I don't really want someone who'd tolerate me wasting all my life on games, considering I'd probably want to spend time outside with them, but I'd prefer someone who was more "nerdy" and had an interest in the things I also enjoyed so we didn't feel totally alienated. It is fairly difficult to meet someone interested in more introverted activities like that, therefore often the only people who'll be fortunate to have such a relationship will be those involved in a successful long-distance relationship.

 

[Lyiat]

... Its an empty thread?

Edit: Oh. The only thing that popped up was the "Reply" box. At any rate, I've seen this thread twenty different times in the past three weeks. Its been done to death at this point. Please stop bringing it back.

 

[jupigare]

Personally, if you're going to get a girlfriend who you know isn't interesting in gaming like you, you should be prepared to respect that and make her your top priority. After all, you do love her for who she is, right? It's wrong that she should try to force you away from gaming completely, but spending time with her should always be put above playing a computer game.

Alternatively, just get a gaming girlfriend. Then you can game and spend time with her at the exact same time D:

All of this is true. I'm a gaming girlfriend, so it's easy for me to spend time with my boyfriend and play video games. Even when I'm not playing anything, I can still enjoy watching him and his buddies destroy Nazi Zombies or play Rock Band together.

But not all girls are like that, and even gamer chicks need a break from video games every once in a while. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices because that's what makes the other person happy. By the same token, the girlfriend should make sacrifices at times, too, because that will make you happy. Sometimes it's best for both of you to leave the house and do something different for a change.

You don't have to quit video games in order to have a non-gamer girlfriend, and you don't need to stop dating because you like video games. Like anything else in life, you need balance to keep things healthy with the girl. But she needs to understand that, if you already made plans (even if it is just for TF2 or a WoW raid or something), then you shouldn't break those plans and bail out last-minute just because she suddenly decides to spend time with you. If she has something important planned, she should have told you earlier, so you can make your gaming plans around it.

 

[CrazyMofo]

Respectfully disagreeing here. Finding a Significant Other who shares your hobby is a matter of luck. If you and your life partner make plans ahead of time, then the plan you made first has priority.

But in the proposed scenario, the individual had plans to play online, with a group of people. That's a plan. If that individual's soul-mate comes in and demands that plans be changed at the drop of a hat, that's unreasonable.

A plan with friends online is the same as a plan with friends outside. If the individual's co-pilot in the journey through life cannot understand that, and respect their lifestyle choices, then they might not be able to be happy together.

You sir share my views to a T. I have had many nights when my missus says do you want to go to [somewhere] and I've planned to go over to my mates house to sit around play Xbox and engage in completely heterosexual male bonding (ie multiplayer coop). So I tell my missus this and she understands and either way I don't apologize for weeks afterwards or even days, hours, or seconds for that matter.

In regard to her saying lets go to some abstract art convention I will tell her to get stuffed. I couldn't give half a hoot about abstract art and if she likes it so much she should go with one of her friends who also shares the same passion. I don't make her sit through Star Wars marathons so she can't make me go to stuff I don't want to go to.

Did you let your girlfriend know that you were going to be busy that night before she told you? If not, that's some fault on your part. If you don't have good communication about what you're doing in your life, how is she suppose to know what you're doing?

Are you serious? I don't tell my missus what I'm doing every night of the week and I don't expect her to do the same either. Next thing you know I'll be texting her to say "Honey I'm just going to go take a dump" [I've done that a few times, the reaction is quite funny ] My missus does not need a day to day account of my whereabouts and I don't need one for her's either. If she wants to organise something and I'm busy that day tough cookies. Usually I counter with doing it on another day and if she's busy that day it goes back and forth a bit until we can find a mutually acceptable time.