I've known this girl for about 4 years.
We met through work. She works in a different department to me and how we met was she had an awkward customer and called my dept for advice and got me. So to help her out I took over the call to the customer for her. Just a nice gesture to help out a co-worker.
So we email a few times, friend each other on facebook etc. But the majority of our conversations tend to be her troubles with work or boyfriends etc etc and me offering advice. Her choice in men tends to be complete arseholes. 2 of them who she was sleeping with, at different times, had girlfriends who she knew about before hand. Another dumped her twice and she then drunkenly stalked him (ie finding out where he was going on a night out then turning up, getting off with him and going back to his for sex, and yet she couldn't work out why he didn't call afterwards)
However, recently she's not had any problems and so I've basically not existed for her, she barely responds to texts or emails. However she had a huge go at me over a comment on her facebook when the timeline thing came in and she was asking people to look at her cover picture (she's very much LOOK AT ME!! LOOK AT ME!!) and as I'd not really bothered about paying attention to changes on Facebook, I asked "wouldn't people see it anyway?". But that was apparently being negative and she only wanted serious things on there. So she removed my comment.
However, someone else then put on a very clearly joke comment and rather than have a go at them, she joined in with the joking.
Fast forward to today. She's posted about a music festival she's going to. I joking asked if there was going to be any good bands, another person joined in the joke of mocking her taste in music. Cue another go at how negative I am and how she's had a really hard time this past year.
I responded by telling her exactly what I thought of her hypocritical ways of only wanting to talk to me when she wants something and how she isn't the only one who's had a hard time this year (I won't bore you with the crap year I've had, let's just say I've dragged myself back from being a stain on the front of a high-speed train) and the fact any time I've tried to talk to her about how I feel her response has been "Oh dear, well my day's been like this"
So, my question is have I over reacted or have I done the right thing by telling her off?
We met through work. She works in a different department to me and how we met was she had an awkward customer and called my dept for advice and got me. So to help her out I took over the call to the customer for her. Just a nice gesture to help out a co-worker.
So we email a few times, friend each other on facebook etc. But the majority of our conversations tend to be her troubles with work or boyfriends etc etc and me offering advice. Her choice in men tends to be complete arseholes. 2 of them who she was sleeping with, at different times, had girlfriends who she knew about before hand. Another dumped her twice and she then drunkenly stalked him (ie finding out where he was going on a night out then turning up, getting off with him and going back to his for sex, and yet she couldn't work out why he didn't call afterwards)
However, recently she's not had any problems and so I've basically not existed for her, she barely responds to texts or emails. However she had a huge go at me over a comment on her facebook when the timeline thing came in and she was asking people to look at her cover picture (she's very much LOOK AT ME!! LOOK AT ME!!) and as I'd not really bothered about paying attention to changes on Facebook, I asked "wouldn't people see it anyway?". But that was apparently being negative and she only wanted serious things on there. So she removed my comment.
However, someone else then put on a very clearly joke comment and rather than have a go at them, she joined in with the joking.
Fast forward to today. She's posted about a music festival she's going to. I joking asked if there was going to be any good bands, another person joined in the joke of mocking her taste in music. Cue another go at how negative I am and how she's had a really hard time this past year.
I responded by telling her exactly what I thought of her hypocritical ways of only wanting to talk to me when she wants something and how she isn't the only one who's had a hard time this year (I won't bore you with the crap year I've had, let's just say I've dragged myself back from being a stain on the front of a high-speed train) and the fact any time I've tried to talk to her about how I feel her response has been "Oh dear, well my day's been like this"
So, my question is have I over reacted or have I done the right thing by telling her off?
