Poll: How do you feel about children?
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I am staunchly childfree, but I've been told "You'll change your mind," so many times that I've developed a paranoia about it. I don't *hate* children, but I don't understand the desire to have them. I've never had any kind of maternal instinct. I never pretended my dolls were my babies. I have a lot of plans for my future, and kids aren't in that picture... I plan to finish my Game Design degree, start a fulfilling career, save money for a great house, travel to new places, and continue to pursue a large number of hobbies in my spare time. There are a number of people who are capable of having kids while doing all of these things, but I'm not one of those people. I can multitask at a job or on the internet, but I can't focus on more than one major project at a time to save my life...and kids are the biggest project you can undertake.
Unlike I lot of people posting I'm not going to generalize all the children of the world. You would think for a website that has such high acceptance and toleration about race and sexual orientation, that people would have learned to stop freaking generalizing because it only makes problems. Yet every time a thread about children is made a surprising amount of people say that they are all bad and terrible, that they are a waste of money and provide little or no benefits, one of the biggest generalizations and the only reason it isn't stopped is because children get basically no say in an adult society. Its actually quite pathetic really.
Being a child is, in my book, the third stage of a human life and the final stage in infancy, assuming you subscribe to a linear notion of time that is. I think if a child is raised properly, taught respect, taught manners and has been educated they would be very enjoyable. And I think it would be an amazing representation of the beauty of the universe to watch your baby grow and become a man.
No one here has any reason to hate all children, reply to me if you think you have an actual reason to hate them, but in the very probable chance that you don't, then maybe you should stop generalizing because you wouldn't like it if a lot of people did it about your stage of life, or something more sensitive.
Being a child is, in my book, the third stage of a human life and the final stage in infancy, assuming you subscribe to a linear notion of time that is. I think if a child is raised properly, taught respect, taught manners and has been educated they would be very enjoyable. And I think it would be an amazing representation of the beauty of the universe to watch your baby grow and become a man.
No one here has any reason to hate all children, reply to me if you think you have an actual reason to hate them, but in the very probable chance that you don't, then maybe you should stop generalizing because you wouldn't like it if a lot of people did it about your stage of life, or something more sensitive.
Children are just fine...when properly raised. My mom works at an elementary school, and she's seen firsthand the little brats that come from those parents who vehemently refuse to punish their kids. Personally, I'd like to have one or two (but two at most), and if/when I do have them I will make sure they behave and are not a nuisance to me or the rest of society.
Because really, not only is letting them do what they want annoying for everyone around you, but it's putting them at a severe disadvantage. They'll be too busy getting into trouble and fighting with the authority figures around them to have an enjoyable time at school and developing interests. Not to mention how much the other kids won't want to play with them because they're the "mean kid" who throws fits and always gets into trouble. Really--I think not doing anything to keep your kid in line should be considered to be some form of neglect.
Most of the time, those "bratty" kids are only bratty because their parents allow them to be that way. They're never given any direction to be anything else.
Because really, not only is letting them do what they want annoying for everyone around you, but it's putting them at a severe disadvantage. They'll be too busy getting into trouble and fighting with the authority figures around them to have an enjoyable time at school and developing interests. Not to mention how much the other kids won't want to play with them because they're the "mean kid" who throws fits and always gets into trouble. Really--I think not doing anything to keep your kid in line should be considered to be some form of neglect.
Most of the time, those "bratty" kids are only bratty because their parents allow them to be that way. They're never given any direction to be anything else.
Well, I honestly don't have much of a overall good or bad opinion on them. They are necessary for our existence to continue, so I guess thats good. They are also annoying and stupid due to their undeveloped brains. You also have to pay for their schooling, college, feed them....you know what? Forget what I said, children suck...
Yeah my mom said this to my girlfriend the other day when we were discussing how we weren't going to have children. In order for a society to maintain it's population you need a birth rate of 2.5. A majority of Europe is slightly less than 2 with a few countries around 1.5. America is slightly over 2.5 but is dropping. That means there's an increasing amount of people deciding to have fewer or even no children at all.Ninjatastic said:
Why is this happening? Personal freedoms and sexual equality are overcoming the social and religious pressures to pump out babies. Women are free to pursue careers and both genders aren't being pressed by the "norm" of the nuclear family (man, wife, 2.5 children, dog, suburbs).
So you are not alone. Every developed country is seeing a significant drop in reproduction.
I feel the same way about children as I do about the rest of the human race - strong dislike. Maybe even a bit more.
I'm not a huge fan of children. I guess I can't say I hate them either, it depends on the child. Some can be pretty endearing and others make me want to sterilize the human race.
Kids love me for some strange reason. Possibly because I don' have to discipline them. Kids, not my own of course, can have a laugh with me and I won' say a thing to them if they are misbehaving.
If it were my own children however...shit I don't think I should be allowed to have them due to my own upbringing. My grandfather was beaten when he misbehaved, my dad was beat, and I was hit when I did something wrong. It certainly stopped me doing bad things I tell you that. I once swore infront of my Dads mum. After the beating I got for that I never swore near her again, but I'm 99% sure it messed me up in some way.
For example. My cousins are really misbehaved. They are considerably younger than myself and have been brought up with the "hitting kids is wrong" mentality. When they are whining or bitching about whatever I think to myself "fuck that kid needs a smack, he wouldn't talk like that to my aunt again if he got one".
That is why I don't think I should have kids, nor will I allow myself to have them. I agree with hitting them, it works, but the cycle would just be repeating itself. Maybe I wouldn't be like my Dad and hit them if they spoke out of turn or if they did something mildly embarassing to him, but I don't know that for sure. Right now my instinct tells me to clip a child who speaks out of turn or says something wrong round the head and I KNOW that's wrong, but it's the only way I know to bring kids up. More than anything I'd feel guilty if I brought another child into this world and it ended up feeling as shitty as I do about itself due to the punishment it received as a child.
I see it as a shame because I get on great with kids who aren't mine.
If it were my own children however...shit I don't think I should be allowed to have them due to my own upbringing. My grandfather was beaten when he misbehaved, my dad was beat, and I was hit when I did something wrong. It certainly stopped me doing bad things I tell you that. I once swore infront of my Dads mum. After the beating I got for that I never swore near her again, but I'm 99% sure it messed me up in some way.
For example. My cousins are really misbehaved. They are considerably younger than myself and have been brought up with the "hitting kids is wrong" mentality. When they are whining or bitching about whatever I think to myself "fuck that kid needs a smack, he wouldn't talk like that to my aunt again if he got one".
That is why I don't think I should have kids, nor will I allow myself to have them. I agree with hitting them, it works, but the cycle would just be repeating itself. Maybe I wouldn't be like my Dad and hit them if they spoke out of turn or if they did something mildly embarassing to him, but I don't know that for sure. Right now my instinct tells me to clip a child who speaks out of turn or says something wrong round the head and I KNOW that's wrong, but it's the only way I know to bring kids up. More than anything I'd feel guilty if I brought another child into this world and it ended up feeling as shitty as I do about itself due to the punishment it received as a child.
I see it as a shame because I get on great with kids who aren't mine.
I dont have children, but the "I hate them all... except my own...." option is my most likely outcome for when I do...
Babies are cute, but anything above the age of three makes me blood boil. In general I really dislike children.
Babies are NOT CUTE. Like them or not, they are gross and ugly. And when people often say "You were a baby"...so? I was an ugly baby. I dont pretend I was some special pretty baby.
Children piss me off, but they never have been my own. I dont know if I want kids, may depend on my eventual partner. If they want kids though, I might, but I would adopt...American.
Children piss me off, but they never have been my own. I dont know if I want kids, may depend on my eventual partner. If they want kids though, I might, but I would adopt...American.
What is it with this site and child haters? Not "why do you hate kids," but "why are there so many of you around here?" This is another one of those threads where I'm severely disappointed by the results, but unsurprised because I know just how misanthropic The Escapist can be.
OT: I voted "I have or want to have several," because I do want to reproduce at some point. I'll probably stop at closer to two kids than five, but you never know. I will, however, be working with kids almost every day of my adult life, because I am almost done with an education degree, and I intend to start teaching high school shortly. I honestly can't wait; when I started down this path, I wanted to eventually go on through a PhD in history and teach at a community college somewhere, but the more time goes on, the more I want to work with kids, and start teaching as soon as I finish my bachelor's degree.
OT: I voted "I have or want to have several," because I do want to reproduce at some point. I'll probably stop at closer to two kids than five, but you never know. I will, however, be working with kids almost every day of my adult life, because I am almost done with an education degree, and I intend to start teaching high school shortly. I honestly can't wait; when I started down this path, I wanted to eventually go on through a PhD in history and teach at a community college somewhere, but the more time goes on, the more I want to work with kids, and start teaching as soon as I finish my bachelor's degree.
Unless we can find some way to "recycle" some of them, I don't really care much for their behavior.
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Children, especially loud screaming ones, make my anxiety worse. Eating breakfast at IHOP today, I thought I was going to have to leave halfway through my stuffed French toast because there was a lovable little fleshbag practically screaming in my ear. It didn't help that there were kids screaming and running past while that was going on, so I just felt even worse.
So yeah, I hate kids. While I would never wish ill on them, I'd prefer to keep my distance for as long as possible.
So yeah, I hate kids. While I would never wish ill on them, I'd prefer to keep my distance for as long as possible.