How do you describe someone that isnt alive anymore?
The question came up, because in less than a month, the fifth anniversary of the day my first girlfriend passed away. So a few of my friends and I were talking about it (mainly cause they noticed I get a lot more Morose and Aggressive). Then they noticed that I never said she "died", and asked why. I thought about it, and I didnt really have a reason other then it was harder to deal with if I thought she "died". (EDIT) Though I can say she passed away, just cant say she "died".
However, if they ask me about one of my great uncles (who was killed in WW2 by a Japanese Navy round), I say he died, because it was sudden and violent (my grandfather always likes to say his brothe's remains couldnt have fed a guppy when the aftermath was over. yes, we're weird about how we handle grief in my family).
So the question is to you Escapists, how do say someone is not alive? And does it change depending who you are talking to/about?
EDIT: Well, first I should say thanks for those that said they were sorry to hear about my first GF, its appreciated.
Secondly, I fully realized she is dead. I should have been more straight forward. If its something sensitive, or if its a peaceful sorta death (like, dying of old age, or of illness in a weakened immune system) I say passed away, because they just sorta do. If its sudden, or graphic, or not really natural, then I'll say they died.
EDIT2: also, I shouldnt say Aggressive, cause thats a bad word for it. But I get alot more testy and easily aggrivated, cause its just a bad time. Not over small little issues, but just in arguments and things that get too heated that are something I can either take to heart or have a large interest in.
The question came up, because in less than a month, the fifth anniversary of the day my first girlfriend passed away. So a few of my friends and I were talking about it (mainly cause they noticed I get a lot more Morose and Aggressive). Then they noticed that I never said she "died", and asked why. I thought about it, and I didnt really have a reason other then it was harder to deal with if I thought she "died". (EDIT) Though I can say she passed away, just cant say she "died".
However, if they ask me about one of my great uncles (who was killed in WW2 by a Japanese Navy round), I say he died, because it was sudden and violent (my grandfather always likes to say his brothe's remains couldnt have fed a guppy when the aftermath was over. yes, we're weird about how we handle grief in my family).
So the question is to you Escapists, how do say someone is not alive? And does it change depending who you are talking to/about?
EDIT: Well, first I should say thanks for those that said they were sorry to hear about my first GF, its appreciated.
Secondly, I fully realized she is dead. I should have been more straight forward. If its something sensitive, or if its a peaceful sorta death (like, dying of old age, or of illness in a weakened immune system) I say passed away, because they just sorta do. If its sudden, or graphic, or not really natural, then I'll say they died.
EDIT2: also, I shouldnt say Aggressive, cause thats a bad word for it. But I get alot more testy and easily aggrivated, cause its just a bad time. Not over small little issues, but just in arguments and things that get too heated that are something I can either take to heart or have a large interest in.
