Poll: How long do you keep friends?

[Keela]

I lost most of my friends four years ago, and made new ones over the past two years... but now, having been diagnosed with split personality disorder, I'm starting to lose some of them as well.

I feel for you. As much impact as a few lines of text on the internet can console you, you've got my sympathies. Few personal problems are insurmountable, though, so do your best to soldier through. The internet (or this miniscule portion of it) lends you support.

 

[DustyDrB]

Well, I graduated college recently. Keeping in touch with friends as we all spread out and move forward in lives (some getting married, some already established in a career, others in grad school or working hard to get there) is very difficult. I've definitely lost more friends than I've kept.

 

[Kenko]

Lifetime. But some people you meet along the way go seperate ways and its hard to maintain relationships like that.

 

[Hippobatman]

I'm in a group of friends I'm comfortable with, and I see no reason to why I should suddenly join a different.

I'm certain I will keep my closest friends around for as long as I'm sane, since they're not many. I have few genuinely close friends, and a lot of not-so-close friends that I only talk to now and then.

 

[TheTim]

well i've never lost a friend that i've made, so i guess i keep them for lifetimes, even though im only 16

 

[Keela]

Well, I've been having some trouble maintaining a few friendships (that is, the only ones I've really tried to maintain).

My backstory: My dad was in the military for a very large portion of his life, and most of mine. Specifically, 10 or 11 of my 15 years alive. I've lived in seven states (USA! USA!), with 1-2 year intervals between most of them, on average. I've been in my current state, going to school in the same area for almost 5 years now, but because of my old habits and mindset, I've been moving between groups I've felt comfortable in constantly through the years. I'm starting to run out of groups to join, and my drifter-type lifestyle doesn't work so well in a long-term residency.

In short, I'm somewhat detached and... can't think of a term I like, so "not very close to" my friends will do. And what really blows is that many of my friends who I try to stick with seem to be blowing me off, but that's a bitching session I'll keep in reserve a while longer.

Am I weird? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Leave a story or two on your way out, if you'd like.

You tell your father that some random guy on the internet says thank you for what you do for all of us. (I make a habit of thanking a soldier in uniform whenever I see one, where ever I see one.)

On to the topic at hand, I keep friends for about one to two years. We always seem to just drift apart, but it never bothers me for some reason. Hopefully, I will develope some longer-lasting friendships when I join the Marines.

I wish you luck with your militarian conquests. Likewise, you have my support. As a random guy on the internet,

I salute you.

 

[Jazzyjazz2323]

Well I only consider someone my friend if they continue talking to me after they've seen me drunk so far that's most of them.Though I don't have a lot of friends but those that I do have I'd do just about anything for them.

 

[El Poncho]

Well since i've known my current friends for 5years I will have to go with that one.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

Well, I've been having some trouble maintaining a few friendships (that is, the only ones I've really tried to maintain).

My backstory: My dad was in the military for a very large portion of his life, and most of mine. Specifically, 10 or 11 of my 15 years alive. I've lived in seven states (USA! USA!), with 1-2 year intervals between most of them, on average. I've been in my current state, going to school in the same area for almost 5 years now, but because of my old habits and mindset, I've been moving between groups I've felt comfortable in constantly through the years. I'm starting to run out of groups to join, and my drifter-type lifestyle doesn't work so well in a long-term residency.

In short, I'm somewhat detached and... can't think of a term I like, so "not very close to" my friends will do. And what really blows is that many of my friends who I try to stick with seem to be blowing me off, but that's a bitching session I'll keep in reserve a while longer.

Am I weird? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Leave a story or two on your way out, if you'd like.

You tell your father that some random guy on the internet says thank you for what you do for all of us. (I make a habit of thanking a soldier in uniform whenever I see one, where ever I see one.)

On to the topic at hand, I keep friends for about one to two years. We always seem to just drift apart, but it never bothers me for some reason. Hopefully, I will develope some longer-lasting friendships when I join the Marines.

I wish you luck with your militarian conquests. Likewise, you have my support. As a random guy on the internet,

I salute you.

Thank you very much. I really mean that. I haven't recieved a lot of encouragement from most people on the subject, so the support means a lot (even if you are a random guy on the internet).

 

[gl1koz3]

Hard to define what is a friend. For as much as possible, I'd keep them for lifetime. The rest can't quite be called "friends". People you know well, rather.

 

[Underground Man]

I was also an army brat. I don't really have friends now, unless you include the cat. I mostly talk to my brother because he's my roommate, or sometimes internet folks, but I tend to go through those pretty quickly.

I'm a difficult person to get along with.

 

[TheHecatomb]

My three closest friends have been around for 20, 9 and 8 years now. Then there's about 10 guys I'd rather call mates or buddies, which I've known for anywhere between 2-10 years. They're all lovely to hang out with, but it's not on a very regular basis. Sometimes I'll see 'em twice a week, sometimes I won't see them for a month or two. But that's mutually fine, everyone I hang out with knows exactly what they can expect from me and I know exactly how well I can count on them. And we all like to keep it that way.

Edit: Outside of that group I'm not particularly liked though. And I'll admit, if I don't know you and don't get an instant impression of wanting to know you I probably will be a prick to you. I don't really care about it, there's plenty of people I can count on, and I can honestly say I've been at the point where I really don't need anyone else around for a few years now. And it's great.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

I'm friends with them until they forget about me.
If they don't, then never, I guess.

 

[Keela]

Well, I've been having some trouble maintaining a few friendships (that is, the only ones I've really tried to maintain).

My backstory: My dad was in the military for a very large portion of his life, and most of mine. Specifically, 10 or 11 of my 15 years alive. I've lived in seven states (USA! USA!), with 1-2 year intervals between most of them, on average. I've been in my current state, going to school in the same area for almost 5 years now, but because of my old habits and mindset, I've been moving between groups I've felt comfortable in constantly through the years. I'm starting to run out of groups to join, and my drifter-type lifestyle doesn't work so well in a long-term residency.

In short, I'm somewhat detached and... can't think of a term I like, so "not very close to" my friends will do. And what really blows is that many of my friends who I try to stick with seem to be blowing me off, but that's a bitching session I'll keep in reserve a while longer.

Am I weird? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Leave a story or two on your way out, if you'd like.

You tell your father that some random guy on the internet says thank you for what you do for all of us. (I make a habit of thanking a soldier in uniform whenever I see one, where ever I see one.)

On to the topic at hand, I keep friends for about one to two years. We always seem to just drift apart, but it never bothers me for some reason. Hopefully, I will develope some longer-lasting friendships when I join the Marines.

I wish you luck with your militarian conquests. Likewise, you have my support. As a random guy on the internet,

I salute you.

Thank you very much. I really mean that. I haven't recieved a lot of encouragement from most people on the subject, so the support means a lot (even if you are a random guy on the internet).

If it's what you want to do, then it's what you want to do. If they just don't think it's the right choice: You know better than anyone else. If they are concerned about the dangers of being a grunt (If that is what you plan on doing): Better to die standing for a cause in a warzone than sitting miserably behind a desk.

 

[Choppaduel]

Until they aren't willing to put effort into maintenance OR until they change their beliefs change in a significant way in which I find reprehensible.

 

[InnerRebellion]

I lost most of my friends four years ago, and made new ones over the past two years... but now, having been diagnosed with split personality disorder, I'm starting to lose some of them as well.

I feel for you. As much impact as a few lines of text on the internet can console you, you've got my sympathies. Few personal problems are insurmountable, though, so do your best to soldier through. The internet (or this miniscule portion of it) lends you support.

Thanks mate. Luckily, it happens to only be a partial split, and I've been spending the past week learning to not repress the "other side" but to let the two merge, which is supposed to restore who I was before the split.

 

[Zarmi]

Real friends, I keep for a lifetime. The others ain't friends, it's just people you know. "Friends is something you only got on one hand."

 

[FoolKiller]

I wear people out. They need to be reduced, reused, and recycled.

 

[Kuriko]

I'm friends with someone until they just, idk, don't want to be friends? I guess it's just til they forget about me. If they don't forget about me, then obviously I'll be friends with someone for a very long time.

 

[[.redacted]]

Better to die standing for a cause in a warzone than sitting miserably behind a desk.

Flat NO. You only live once, then you're dead. Don't squander it, eternal nothingness is not always the best destination.

OT: As long as it's convenient to have them around. If they become irritating, or become tiresome to contact, they will probably be replaced very quickly.

I never get too close to anyone really, but not out of choice, more as a side effect of my subconscious habit of adapting the mannerisms and thinking patterns of those I want to talk to/hang around with. When I genuinely weigh up the value I place on their existence, and their worth as a person, I oft-times determine that those same people are merely a temporary distraction from an otherwise boring day.