Poll: I have a question for the ladies

[dwightsteel]

You wanna learn a thing or two about chicks?

go to www.tuckermax.com

I think every chick here will tell you that they don't fall for that type of guy, but chances are, they're lying.

 

[purplegothchick]

Not a lady but I can answere this question. A big penis.

Not true, it's all about what you can do with it. Typical guy way of thinking, that all we want is a large penis.

In response to the OP, I look for a man who can make me laugh.

 

[Alucadrian]

Long and relatively meaningless back and forth snipped

But WHY?

Good question. This thread title interested me (a male who originally had no intention of posting since the question was stated as not being for me) at first, and then proceeded to both amuse and irritate me in alternating turns.

What's amusing: The speed at which a thread started with the express purpose of garnering female opinions degenerated into a series of men replying to men (albeit with one well-humored lady interjecting periodically), avidly discussing penises.

What's annoying: Big patience points to miss April for actually humoring you morons, in such a rush to have any discussion about (and therefore imaginary attention on) your own favorite piece of anatomy. Being ashamed of the common casual behavior of my gender is by no means new to me, but it's still depressing to get new reasons thrown into my face.

To a small degree of credit, though, the thread did pick up on the intended topic of discussion some distance down and kept pretty steady, but there was still a pretty eye-rolling frequency of guys loudly defining "what women like" with an air of authority usually reserved only for the clergy, college math professors, and other generally arrogant twits. Some discussions are better listened to and learned from, than "improved" with your uninformed and unasked-for opinions, fellas.

 

[bodyklok]

Not a lady but I can answere this question. A big penis.

Not true, it's all about what you can do with it. Typical guy way of thinking, that all we want is a large penis.

In response to the OP, I look for a man who can make me laugh.

Listen. It was a JOKE. Unless you were being sarcastic. In which case, HARR freaking HARR!

 

[Alucadrian]

Not a lady but I can answere this question. A big penis.

Not true, it's all about what you can do with it. Typical guy way of thinking, that all we want is a large penis.

In response to the OP, I look for a man who can make me laugh.

Listen. It was a JOKE. Unless you were being sarcastic. In which case, HARR freaking HARR!

The recurring frequency of this might have clued you in by now, friend, that as a joke it isn't really meeting the minimum requirement.

 

[ShotgunShaman]

I look for the same in both men and women.


I also add stamina, if you can't keep up don't bother " that is not limited to sex, it's sparring, and keeping up with the paces that's just life in general

*puts on ring of +12 stamina*

 

[bodyklok]

Not a lady but I can answere this question. A big penis.

Not true, it's all about what you can do with it. Typical guy way of thinking, that all we want is a large penis.

In response to the OP, I look for a man who can make me laugh.

Listen. It was a JOKE. Unless you were being sarcastic. In which case, HARR freaking HARR!

The recurring frequency of this might have clued you in by now, friend, that as a joke it isn't really meeting the minimum requirement.

Look, I had about 5 seconds to think of something before the first post before someone else took it. Anyway that aside, nice suttle pun about my penis size.

 

[AstroFenn]

I guess it depends in what you want in a man and also what you are yourself, i.e. generally (From a psychological POV) people generally look for potential partners that they see as Equal to or slightly above/below their own perceived standards.

 

[vamp rocks]

im gay so i think i can answer this... someone who is intelligent and outgoing but not so much as they are a dismissive or arrogent, looks are definitely a factor... money would be nice but im not going to go out with a guy just because he is rich..

 

[Zersy]

It's different for every woman.

Nope

It's actually all goes into a few main needs

 

[dwightsteel]

the responses by the dudes are just nerdsponses by nerds who are saying what they think they know to be correct, but are really just as clueless as the person who asked the question.

You want to know the truth?

Just like with guys, different chicks like different things. Some chicks are shallow. Some chicks are genuinely attracted to funny guys with great personalities. Some like a mixture of both.

No shit Sherlock. Some chicks are attracted to animals, but pointing that out doesn't contribute to the discussion in any way.
I repeat what I said before: 95% of women judge guys by their appearance first. You don't have to have Brad Pitt's face, huge muscles, be very tall or have designer clothes, but if you look like obese Quasimodo, you will never ever find a decent looking girl, even if she has mother Theresa's heart.

As for the "girls are attracted to funny guys" argument: I consider myself a funny guy, and I admitt that it helped me a lot in getting girls I had been with so far, but...
You see one of my best friend is really handsome and each time he starts a conversation with girls they giggle at every word he says. I'm not saying he has no sense of humor, quite the opposite, but I could clearly hear them saying "OMG you're so funny" before he even got to the funny point of the anecdote or when he didn't even try to be funny. Once I even made an experiment and told the same anecdote to girls from my group on my univeristy, making the same puns he did and all I got was "Ha!" (and I'm really good at telling jokes and stories).
So ladies, forgive me that, but I say that you will perceive any guy you're attracted to as funny, unless maybe he's the grim reaper himself.

Wow, because clearly your personality must be made from sterling silver (by the way, "no shit Sherlock"? What a great line, did you think that up on your own? Your so right, you are HILARIOUS).
For many women, guys end up having to audition for them. Will looks get your foot in the door a little quicker? Sure, but I've beat out some of my far more handsome friends at the game, because they have the personality of a stump.
And as for your experiment? How do you even consider that valid? Did you tell the story with the exact same inflection, with a group of girls that have the exact same sensibilities that the girls your friend picked up had? Grow up dude. Most girls are less shallow then you think.

 

[hotacidbath]

Following evolutionary psychology, a woman wants a person who will has good genes. She unconsciously relies on visual cues in a male, to find her partner. The most important cues are: signs of health, beauty (e.g. symmetry) and strength (dates back from when we were nomads, good hunters could supply their offspring with food; this often has to be proven by experience, which is why women often are interested in men older than them).

and men with muscles.

In their penis.

Quick someone find that video of that guy who swings around weights with his dong!

I must find this man and marry him straight away!

 

[dwightsteel]

You wanna learn a thing or two about chicks?

go to www.tuckermax.com

I think every chick here will tell you that they don't fall for that type of guy, but chances are, they're lying.

See, I read those stories about a year ago, and I was torn. I want to hate him, but goddamn if he isn't hilarious.

I was at a bar with the guy about 2 1/2 years ago. I know a guy who chills with this dude. The guy's ability to pick up chicks is uncanny, and more than a little awe inspiring.

 

[Raikazu]

This is a question that I doubt anyone will be able to find out.
Mainly because most men are oblivious and most women will tell some lies.
It's clear that no matter how much of a personality you have, looks make up first impressions, hence why that's seen as a major factor.

A lot of guys that are 'nice guys' can find themselves being friends with tons of attractive girls, and no matter how much they find his personality charming or the like, most of them will not consider him as boyfriend material unless he has looks to go with that.
I believe girls see guys attributes in this order: Looks/Hygiene, Confidence/Power, Personality/Intelligence.

But please don't take this as me stereotyping girls. I have met many who completely go against this. But out of general observation, this is what I know to be the usual with most girls I know.

 

[Taerdin]

Just to clarify my experience is completely based on young adults type relationships (I'm 22)

I think this brings us to masculinity. Some guys think women are only attracted to jerks.
Wrong!

But they ARE in fact attracted to jerks. Sure theres guys who are confident without being full of themselves and treating women like objects who solely exist for their pleasure, but they're not the majority. It's easier to exude confidence and strength when you're the one exercising that confidence and strength by being a complete jackass. If men care about what women think, REALLY care, then that undermines that confidence. Most men who are genuinely good catches care far too much, and thats the issue for both parties because women wont go out with the guy who cares too much about her. Yeah I know it sounds completely insane.

some women actually have respect for themselves you know. 0

But they're just about as rare as the guys who are confident and not assholes, if not more so. My girlfriend dated a complete jerk, luckily she wasnt in that hell of a relationship for too long. By the time I met her she was already out of that relationship, and she's still super insecure and her self esteem is often horribly low. She tells me pretty often that she doesn't understand why I'm dating her, and she thinks shes not good enough for me. Really though shes the most special and amazing person in the world to me, and I try to show her that as much as I can but she STILL won't believe it. So even though shes not in a abusive relationship now she still does not think much of herself. Women are pushed into this insecurity and low self worth by the media and societal pressures. Most women have self esteem issues, holding their own body image up to what the media says is beautiful. Whereas men are generally allowed to just look however the hell they want and live their lives, and dont have such horrible self esteem.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

I'm not a girl, but I think it at first boils down to the first impression. If you mess it up, she'll take some distance, and be unsure if you're really worth it. If you succeed, then she'll be interested and try to find out more about you. Then, it's just about what the girl really wants in a guy. Different for everyone (to certain grades).

 

[dellotro]

I imagine this could be folded into "personality" but I find a good sense of humor to be a very important quality. That and intelligence are always near the top of any list, though it's not like there is really an actual checklist to use.