Poll: Inside the Male mind. A question to all Females. Issue 2

[Nimcha]

Cause we're crazy.

Hah! Yeah I'm gonna go with this one.

Though I do find it easy to pick up on guy's signals, usually.

 

[Gralian]

I'm a good observer, but i'm no good in the situation. For example, if i'm in a group of people and there's some sort of chemistry between two individuals, i can quite easily pick up on the signs the woman gives to the man, such as looking down at the lips and back to the eyes, wetting the lips, playing with hair, relaxed posture, that sort of thing. I can generally tell if the guy receiving these signals is oblivious to it too. However, i am absolutely useless when it comes to flirting and i know that if i was the guy who was being sent signals by the lady i would completely blow it and fail to pick it up at all. This is because my confidence with women and socialising in general is shot, thanks to heavy anxiety issues. Remember the film "Hitch"? Remember how the main character was able to read women's signals and hook everyone up, but when his turn came around, he was useless at it? That's pretty much me.

If only we had the ability to express ourselve succinctly without the need for obtuse, arbitrary, hidden 'signals' to convey messages lucidly.

Wait... I think we do! Isn't it called... language?

Jeeze, just talk to each other.

Sexual attraction and flirtation is more complicated than "I say, you there! Fancy meeting beside the pantry for sexual congress?!". You can't simply state that you're attracted to someone and expect a positive response. It would come off as silly or outright comical. We aren't animals. Men and women give each other subtle hints because society facilitates the need to. We aren't so uncivil that we walk up to total strangers and say we would like to put our penis into their vagina. Obviously communication is used when flirting, yes, but even then it's all about how you communicate. Do you come off as salacious? Teasing? What are the inflections in your voice saying about you? Do you speak loudly? Softly? How you speak has just as much impact as what you say.

 

[Midget52]

I misread signals for about two months. Granted, so did the girl I was interested in. Eventually, I just blurted out "What the hell is going on?" while we were eating McDonalds. We're now going out, so that worked pretty well.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

*is a guy*

I've usually been terrible with signals. I'm not good at picking up on them. Fortunately, my GF didn't send that many signals. The only one she sent me was about a week before I asked her out, where when we did our typical good-bye hug, she held on for longer than usual.

I was hitting on my best female friend a few years back (hence why we were arguing about it) and we had gone outside to get some fresh air since we had been dancing. She looked up and said, "Where are all the stars?" I look up and said, "They're lost in your eyes."

She laughed at me and pretended to puke. She said it was just too corny. In hindsight, it probably was, but I didn't think it was too bad. >.>

*takes notes* Oh that one's good. I'll keep an eye open for an opportunity to use that on my girlfriend.

I tend to say corny stuff, or say something really sweet only to try to make it funny. >_> She doesn't mind too much.