If I walked in on my fiance with another girl or guy I'd just be excited for the threesome she's got planned
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Poll: Is Being Gay Cheating On Your Straight Partner?
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It's only cheating if it's actually cheating.
If my girlfriend said "I'm gay, I want a woman in my life." I'd be fine with it.
Conversely if she said "I'm in love with another guy, and you" I'd be fine with that too.
If she just cheated on me I'd be annoyed that she didn't tell me but depending on her reaction to me finding out I wouldn't care.
If my girlfriend said "I'm gay, I want a woman in my life." I'd be fine with it.
Conversely if she said "I'm in love with another guy, and you" I'd be fine with that too.
If she just cheated on me I'd be annoyed that she didn't tell me but depending on her reaction to me finding out I wouldn't care.
No, being gay is not cheating on your straight partner. I don't know why a gay person would have a straight partner though. But being homosexual is not the same thing as having sex.
Though that wasn't really your question. Your question was 'is having a homosexual interaction cheating on your heterosexual partner'. And to that I would say yes, yes it is. You are having sex with another person other than your partner. That's cheating, no matter what the gender of the third person is.
Though that wasn't really your question. Your question was 'is having a homosexual interaction cheating on your heterosexual partner'. And to that I would say yes, yes it is. You are having sex with another person other than your partner. That's cheating, no matter what the gender of the third person is.
Yes. Whether it is emotional or sexual, it is a bond between two people outside of the marriage and thus is cheating. Sexuality has nothing to do with it.
Like so many previous responses - cheating is cheating regardless of who your spouse is cheating on you with. But that depends on what you and your spouse/partner call 'cheating', since cheating is essentially a violation of trust. There can even be 'cheating' in relationships that are deemed 'open', depending on how the spouse/partner feels.
It's still cheating regardless of gender. The concept of "cheating" is one that is not exclusive to homosexuality, heterosexuality, or any other preference. It's simply a matter of breaking one's commitment with their partner. Now I'm not demanding that if people are in a relationship they should be exclusive but they should at least be on the same page.OldKingClancy said:
Well cheating is cheating and if you are gay and are with a female "because of society" ..well is that cheating? Not as long as you don't have sex with anybody else. But do you expect a relationship to last if you biologically desire something else?
So being gay or not doesn't has anything to do with cheating. But actual sleeping with someone else is cheating.
And if you are gay and into a hetero relationship to fit in you are lying to yourself and to your partner.
In the end fidelity can and does happen. Our human nature does includes "shopping out of town"
What I suggest is that the person in this situation accepts their sexuality and not only that. But also stops the lie!
So being gay or not doesn't has anything to do with cheating. But actual sleeping with someone else is cheating.
And if you are gay and into a hetero relationship to fit in you are lying to yourself and to your partner.
In the end fidelity can and does happen. Our human nature does includes "shopping out of town"
What I suggest is that the person in this situation accepts their sexuality and not only that. But also stops the lie!
If I came home to find my wife in bed with another women, my first reaction would be to join in.
Then I'd probably break up with her, because she's clearly quite the whore.
Then I'd probably break up with her, because she's clearly quite the whore.
Is it cheating if a person is with someone straight yet they are gay? No. It's sad for them especially if the straight partner has absolutely no clue as opposed to being in denial.
Now, if the gay partner has sex with someone of the same sex while married to the straight partner? Fuck yeah!!!
The vows are to forsake all others. ALL OTHERS. That means men and women. It doesn't matter who you were with. I didn't sign up to be in a relationship where I share.
This being said, I think I'm of the inverse of what some men have said. Where they would be willing to reconcile with their lover/spouse if she slept with another woman, it'd be a huge deal breaker for me if I saw my guy with another man or he said he wanted to be with another man.
Why? Because I didn't sign up to be involved with a homosexual. And quite frankly, that would tell me our whole relationship was a pointless lie. It's not happening.
Now, if the gay partner has sex with someone of the same sex while married to the straight partner? Fuck yeah!!!
The vows are to forsake all others. ALL OTHERS. That means men and women. It doesn't matter who you were with. I didn't sign up to be in a relationship where I share.
This being said, I think I'm of the inverse of what some men have said. Where they would be willing to reconcile with their lover/spouse if she slept with another woman, it'd be a huge deal breaker for me if I saw my guy with another man or he said he wanted to be with another man.
Why? Because I didn't sign up to be involved with a homosexual. And quite frankly, that would tell me our whole relationship was a pointless lie. It's not happening.
I wouldn't really be too bothered, monogamy is just a bunch of stress in a relationship. I'd rather be able to trust my boyfriend to say "I'm seeing someone else" and then proceed to tell me about it, rather than keep it all a secret until there's a big fight over it.
That being said, I am gay so this topic be out of my territory. On topic; cheating is cheating. If someone is a closeted gay and they cheat on their opposite-sex partner with someone of the same sex, there's not some "I'm gay so it's alright" clause. Break up first, or at least explain everything.
That being said, I am gay so this topic be out of my territory. On topic; cheating is cheating. If someone is a closeted gay and they cheat on their opposite-sex partner with someone of the same sex, there's not some "I'm gay so it's alright" clause. Break up first, or at least explain everything.
Your friend pictured something along the lines of her wife cheating on him with a hot girl, and then inviting him to join, or something like that.
Point out the same situation but with a real lesbian, not a was-seen-in-porn lesbian. Some butch, chubby, masculine lesbian (yes, I know that not all lesbians are like this horrible stereotype, just the only i have met, and see how happy he would be in that case.
Point out the same situation but with a real lesbian, not a was-seen-in-porn lesbian. Some butch, chubby, masculine lesbian (yes, I know that not all lesbians are like this horrible stereotype, just the only i have met, and see how happy he would be in that case.
That depends on what set of rules You agree upon when You start the relationship, no?
By default, cheating is breaking the rules. Usually, the universal rule is being "faithful" to Your partner.
It's probably best to talk about stuff like that before commiting to a relationship. You never know what other people view as normal. Communication is a good thing.
~Sylv
By default, cheating is breaking the rules. Usually, the universal rule is being "faithful" to Your partner.
It's probably best to talk about stuff like that before commiting to a relationship. You never know what other people view as normal. Communication is a good thing.
~Sylv
It's on two levels, I think.
Intellectually, it's the same, and I'd definitely dump them in either situation.
Emotionally though, it's different. If she's cheating with another man, I feel threatened and insulted. If it's with a woman, well, I'm just not her thing. It's not like she's better than me, my wife's just attracted to people who are not my gender.
Intellectually, it's the same, and I'd definitely dump them in either situation.
Emotionally though, it's different. If she's cheating with another man, I feel threatened and insulted. If it's with a woman, well, I'm just not her thing. It's not like she's better than me, my wife's just attracted to people who are not my gender.
That's...kinda stupid of him to say to be honest. Cheating is a violation of trust, doesn't matter what gender they are.
The reason a lot of guys don't see their partner's secuality as cheating is to do with sexual strategies. A guy's successful reproduction chances with their partner are only threatened if she chooses to sleep with a man, which could lead to her being impregnanted by that man rather than the partner. Since a woman can't impregnate another woman, men don't care as much about their sexual activity together.
On the other hand, if you were to ask women this question about their husbands being homosexual the response would be almost 100% 'yes it's cheating', to ensure the survival of their children women look for men who'll be emotionally faithful and will help support their child. So, even though their husband can't have another child with a man, the woman would still be upset because his infidelity implies he could leave her at any time, abandoning the children she needs to ensure the survival of.
OT: Imo, if I was to sleep with a woman while in a relationship I'd call it cheating
On the other hand, if you were to ask women this question about their husbands being homosexual the response would be almost 100% 'yes it's cheating', to ensure the survival of their children women look for men who'll be emotionally faithful and will help support their child. So, even though their husband can't have another child with a man, the woman would still be upset because his infidelity implies he could leave her at any time, abandoning the children she needs to ensure the survival of.
OT: Imo, if I was to sleep with a woman while in a relationship I'd call it cheating
Im honestly not sure, I mean if she was Bi or gay and she hadent told me i would feel bad that she had to repress her own desires in order to be with me, on one sign, and if she does enjoy having sexual relations with a woman, well, im not personally able to provide that,
HOWEVER, i would be ok with it i think if she had asked me before hand or discussed it with me on some level. I dunno.
HOWEVER, i would be ok with it i think if she had asked me before hand or discussed it with me on some level. I dunno.
