Abomination said:
A person's time is worth more than another person's feelings. Especially a person whose feelings are not the other's responsibility.
Literally two seconds of it? I think anyone who thinks an actual LITERAL moment of their time is more important than someone elses feelings is an ass pure and simple, especially when its so easy not to hurt their feelings. In fact when its this trivial id say its almost purposefully TRYING to hurt their feelings to say something so obviously blunt. Id not want to associate with such a person.
The social "rules of engagement" we busy ourselves with are frequently unimportant. If there's a more efficient and practical method one can engage in then I encourage them to take it - and to hell with the feelings of those who find it distasteful... especially in a situation where you are NOT the instigator.
Obviously they are unimportant, the rules themselves dont matter, but people do in my opinion and the use of those rules to make everyone happier and comfortable interacting is the important part, not the rules themselves.
I'm not sorry, why should I be? I'm entitled to my own time... and I don't care how you're doing. I don't know you. I'm not responsible for your well being. Go be well somewhere else or talking to someone else.
See theres two things from this. One, you can miss the "I'm sorry" and its still infinitely more polite than "dont talk to me". In that case it doesnt even take longer! The second one is this is always the stuff I see from misanthropes:
"I dont care about how youre doing", "I dont want to know about you", "Why do you think youre so important".
Its so sad to me how all these phrases seem to disregard the most obvious answer. Maybe. Maybe i care about you and how YOU are even if i dont expect the reverse and thats my motivator for conversation? The fact misanthropes seem so unable to pick up on this possibility without prompt really saddens me. Like its extremely telling. And very depressing, it displays such a sub-conscious lack of self esteem, that or a total inability to imagine the mindsets of people who are not like them. Im not sure which is worse.
Masturbating over this rational society where rudeness and strangers feelings are utterly disregarded is creepy. Lemme tell you right out that society is utter utter shit and id rather live anywhere else than in it. I DO care about the feelings of strangers and im damn proud of it. Im glad we encourage that behavior. It makes the world a far nicer and kinder place to live. Maybe its not "ultra edgy /r atheism rational" but id rather spend time with people who appreciate these little things than a society built on angst and bluntness (Which usually is just a placeholder for social ineptness rather than an actual use of honesty).
TLDR:
Lemme summarise to prevent this shit from getting to complex:
1. If you have to be rude, be rude, sometimes you gotta do it to get douches to listen to you and respect your wishes. As you said rudeness isnt always bad.
2. If you can help being rude, and the person youre talking too has friendly and good intentions, returning that with rudeness makes you an asshole. Period. Being
unnecessarily rude is a douchey thing to do.
3. People talking to you probably have far less selfish intentions than you're projecting onto them. Not everyone thinks like you do.
4. I cant think of a single conceivable way being rude would improve my life when its so easy to be kind instead, even if i have to follow arbitrary social rules because frankly its piss easy to do so and also retain my own personal comfort. No downside, all benefit to another party. Yay Altruism!
5. I enjoy a great deal of benefit and personal joy from being kind to people instead of rude, even if it wastes some tiny fraction of my own time. Yay somewhat tainted Altruism!