Poll: Is it tacky or uncool to ask someone out on Facebook or over text?
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No, i was serious. It really is the first time that i hear of such a thingUlquiorra4sama said:Not sure if you're being serious when you put your question so bluntly, but i'll answer anyways. It's the same as a long distance relationship. My girlfriend lives in America and i live in Norway so our only means of seeing and talking to each other on a regular basis are via internet. Sometimes it's just text chat and sometimes it's video chat on Skype, but either one makes sure we're still togetherThe Floating Nose said:Online relationship ? What's that ?Ulquiorra4sama said:As a person in an online relationship i'm all for expressing emotions through text, but Skype let us both see that nothing is more important than actally being able to hear and see the person you like, especially if it's something importan or close to heart you wanna talk about.
So i wouldn't call it tacky or uncool, but i would call it easily ignorable and lacking in emotional interest (from the other person). So if you were thinking about going about asking someone out like that i recommend just doing it in person instead. The sincerity of a direct and personal request could tip the person over
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It depends, if it's a "Hey do you want to go grab a drink?" Or a "Do you want to go to dinner?" then I think texting is ok. But not for "I have deep feelings for you" type of stuff.
And I don't think Facebook should be used, unless it's a message. Writing on their wall about going to get drinks just puts pressure on them since now everybody is seeing it
And I don't think Facebook should be used, unless it's a message. Writing on their wall about going to get drinks just puts pressure on them since now everybody is seeing it
I did it with a private message on facebook. I would have preferred face to face but the woman in question had changed jobs and I no longer saw her at all. So with that being the only avenue of communication I wrote a massive long message and she said yes.......
On a similar note I asked out a random chat partner on an instant messenger once. Ended up being married for 10 years.........
On a similar note I asked out a random chat partner on an instant messenger once. Ended up being married for 10 years.........
Yes. Doing things over the Internet is less formal and personal then doing it face to face. Asking someone out is generally thought of something you should be respectful and at least a little formal about. Therefor it is normal to think you would take the step of actually talking in person to ask them out as opposed to the less formal just ask them over the internet. That tend to be viewed as more casual and lax and not quiet refined enough, i.e. tacky.
Well, it's definitely not ideal. If at all possible, you should ask someone out in person.
That said, I did recently ask someone out via Facebook message, and she said yes. I wasn't originally intending to, but I while I was chatting with her, I learned that I wouldn't get the chance to see her again for another week. So, I went ahead and asked right then (I also mentioned that I would have preferred to ask her in person).
I think that, in that sort of situation, it's acceptable. I answered "kind of" for that reason.
There are very few hard and fast rules for romantic relationships.
That said, I did recently ask someone out via Facebook message, and she said yes. I wasn't originally intending to, but I while I was chatting with her, I learned that I wouldn't get the chance to see her again for another week. So, I went ahead and asked right then (I also mentioned that I would have preferred to ask her in person).
I think that, in that sort of situation, it's acceptable. I answered "kind of" for that reason.
There are very few hard and fast rules for romantic relationships.
Do it face to face, and despite what many people think, the earlier the better. If you can't face to face as some people above have said, then a phone call is the best option.
If it's someone you barely know... asking through the internet is a little creepy. I'm more likely to ignore you if you do that. If it's someone you're fairly close with or can't get to easily, I guess it's more forgivable, but not something I'd encourage.
I'm probably the LAST person to ask. But personally, I think it shows you lack the testicular fortitude, in case he/she says no.
Generally speaking, you should ask in person if you have the option, over the phone if you don't, and online only as a last resort. Even if you are doing it online, something like Skype would probably be better than text chat.
That said, it all depends on the situation. I've known two girls in recent memory who have a phobia about talking on the phone. If I were to ask them out, chat would be highly preferable to the phone; why on earth would you want to trigger a phobia in the process of asking a girl out? So like I said, there are exceptions to every rule.
That said, it all depends on the situation. I've known two girls in recent memory who have a phobia about talking on the phone. If I were to ask them out, chat would be highly preferable to the phone; why on earth would you want to trigger a phobia in the process of asking a girl out? So like I said, there are exceptions to every rule.
It's tacky to say the very least.
Also, breaking up with someone of a 7-year relationship via email on Valentine's Day... Not a good idea either. *was on the receiving end of that experience*
Also, breaking up with someone of a 7-year relationship via email on Valentine's Day... Not a good idea either. *was on the receiving end of that experience*
If you aren't already in a relationship, you should approach them personally. Otherwise, it's fine.
Asking out is fine if you know the person tho asking in person is better. It's probably not the best idea to do over facebook if everyone can see it. Confessing you?re feelings however needs to be face to face, as do breakups
That sounds a tad impersonal don't you think? It would also send a pretty bad overall first impression, I mean it would SCREAM "I have no spine"
The way I see it; it's in person, or nothing.
The way I see it; it's in person, or nothing.
Just in general; yes, extremely tacky. But, if it's done in an endearing way it can work out. Personally, if I got a message that just said "wanna go out y/n?" or something to that effect I'd immediately think "This person isn't serious or doesn't like me all that much anyway" On the other hand, if I got more of a detailed paragraph or letter-style message that explained why they were asking me online rather than to my face (admitting to being shy or afraid is actually rather sweet) then I'd consider it seriously instead of completely dismissing it like I would the guy who's terrified of the shift key.
If you really want a person to say yes, though, face to face is always the best option even if it's the most terrifying one.
If you really want a person to say yes, though, face to face is always the best option even if it's the most terrifying one.