Poll: Is it wrong to automatically assume some is heterosexual?

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thePyro_13

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Other: It's wrong to care. Unless you're hoping to score with them. Otherwise, it doesn't really matter.

Make no assumptions.
 

Chewster

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Not "wrong" necessarily.

Presumptuous, perhaps.

This presumption has bit me in the ass at least once that I can think of, in recent history. Probably more times that I'm not aware of.
 

DanielDeFig

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No, it's not wrong. But i think homosexuals appreciate it when more people speak in general terms, and heterosexuals don't loose anything by it.

Example: Instead of "You got a girlfriend/boyfriend?", rather "Are you seeing someone?".

But i personally feel like this approach is already becoming mainstream, whether it's a conscious efforts to be more mindful of other people's sexual orientation, or just new terms of phrase (that happen to be less sexually ambiguous) becoming more popular, i don't know. I suspect it's the latter, but recent movement for gender and LGBT equality may have a subconscious effect.
 

manaman

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emeraldrafael said:
manaman said:
You must not be in a heavily conservative republican populated area.
You shouldn't make assumptions. I have spent the majority of my life in the deep south, and Utah. About as conservative as you can get.

Harassment is something you are allowed to go to the police about. If they really are harassing him hourly and going out of their way to do so then there you go. Still not giving them what they want is probably the most effective thing you could do.

As for this getting away with it. Well I am only hearing one side of this and from reading posts on the subject by you I am inclined to believe its a little exaggerated, oh not saying you are lying, just maybe making out to be a bit worse then it is due to your anger over the subject. So I say welcome to a free society. There are of course limits, but those are not there to protect feelings. Provided you where not exaggerating then its probably at the level of harassment, which as I said before you can always get legal protection for. However I do find myself doubting its at that level.

I wasn't advocating feeling superior by standing on some moral high ground either. I was saying toughen up and stop letting people who haven't figured out its easier not to hate, and mind their own buisness run you ragged.
 

ultimateownage

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No, it's wrong to assume anyone is any orientation. This just shows you are really shallow and judge people's sexuality by how they act or look, or you care way too much about it.
 

Coop83

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Aur0ra145 said:
Is it wrong to automatically assume someone is heterosexual?
You will get less shit from people if you assume they're straight, as opposed to vice versa. One guy I used to work with, I could swear he was gay, but that was just down to the fact that he was as camp as a row of tents. We never saw him chasing men, in fact, he actively tried to make us believe that he had a girlfriend, though faceache pictures seemed to suggest otherwise.

We never asked him while we worked together and I've not asked him since. It would be rude to. What difference does it make, I'm not trying to get into bed with him, after all.
 

rubinigosa

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No I do not think it is wrong to think that most people are heterosexual because that is what the majority is but if you do not know you can always just ask I do not think anyone will get offend as long as you treat everyone in the same way.
 

sam42ification

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In a perfect world it would be. In a perfect world there is just as much chance of having a boy as there is girl and it is also wronge to assume that some one is hetro sexual in till proven other wise. We don't live in a perfect world there is more chance of having a girl then boy in the world we live in and it's not wrong because being gay is kind of a new thing to be honest. People only really started coming out in the 70s and the human race takes a long time to addapt. We are still not used to the fact that the gay population is rising.
It is wrong because we are still getting used to the hole gay thing but even i think if we keep just blindly assuming things like that then we won't progress socially as a race. At the moment it's a common thing to do so but i think in the not so distant future it shouldn't so common and the people that do it are ignorant.

It's not wrong but keep it up.
 

Yoshemo

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Most people are straight, so most people you know will be straight. I don't think its wrong
 

Katherine Kerensky

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I wouldn't say it is wrong, but I assume everyone are nonsexual lumps of flesh until proven otherwise, at least with their own words.
So that goes for sex and sexuality on the internet.
On XBL, it is usually resolved quickly by those with mics.
 

Biosophilogical

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It isn't 'wrong', but I don't know why it is necessary to assume anything unless there is a sexual moment (not between you and them, but just a moment in general). I mean, apart from their sexuality, there is no inherent difference between heteros, homos, demis, bis, as ... you know what, this 'shortening' thing works less and less the shorter the short-hand actually is.

But yeah, there isn't anything wrong with it, it is more like a 'safe bet', given that statistics are on your side (though context helps: if you are at a gay bar, the odds aren't in your favour), and there isn't anything wrong about making assumptions about someone's sexuality ... it is a bit redundant in most cases however. I mean, why bother assuming someone is straight if I want to ask them directions (or some other non-sexual course of events)?
 

sam42ification

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letterbomber223 said:
sam42ification said:
it's not wrong because being gay is kind of a new thing to be honest. People only really started coming out in the 70s and the human race takes a long time to addapt. We are still not used to the fact that the gay population is rising.
Lol Oscar Wilde? ever heard of that guy? No? Nevermind....
I have heard of him he was a gay man and strong inforcer of fashion in around the 1890s but remember he was put into jail and died at an age of 46.
 

Tomo Stryker

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You really shouldn't assume anything about anyone until you meet them and understand them. That being said, since the majority of people are hetero no it wouldn't be wrong.
 

Gigano

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No, it's sort of a "default" template.

It's certainly wrong to assign any value or weight to whether they are though.
 

TornadoFive

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I don't think it's wrong to assume that. It's just a matter of playing the odds. Most people are hetrosexual, therefore it's the first thing you expect. Automatically assuming someone is hetrosexual is like assuming they're right handed. It might not be true for everyone, but in most cases you'll be right. You just go with the numbers.
 

Paksenarrion

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Never assume! Assuming makes an ass pirate out of u and me! To be safe, assume everyone is homosexual and trying to deceive you, much like Satan trolled Eve!

 

ChaoticLegion

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Being hetrosexual is the current social norm. There is nothing wrong with assuming something will conform with a social norm until proven otehrwise.