Poll: Is it wrong to date someone to get over someone else?

[ForensicYOYO]

Just like it says. Is it wrong to date someone to get over someone else? My story is I've been single for over a month now and even though I have had several options to date someone else yet Im still not over my ex. I hear all the time the best way to get over someone is to date someone else, but does that mean its right? Thoughts anyone?

 

[Broady Brio]

It makes sense that you usually get over your ex by thinking about your current girlfriend.

As for me, I don't feel it's wrong. You're technically over with the ex. Why should they stop you from going out with other people? It's not like they'll do the same for you.

 

[NiceGurl_14]

Well, it's called a rebound date. Those usually don't last long but a lot of people do that out of spite or to try to numb the pain of the past relationship. I'll admit that I've done it before and it usually doesn't end well for either party.

 

[Minch]

It usually doesn't end well, and there are many better ways to get over an ex. However, the best way of knowing you have gotten over them is when you find yourself able to fall for another.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Dating for the sole purpose of getting over someone else is a MISERABLE idea.

Dating someone you actually like, and can see yourself dating for a while, while still getting over another... that's perfectly okay.

 

[Mikeyfell]

look, if you don't date someone after a break up it is grievously insulting to your ex
EG.
if you break up with him/her then move on to someone else they get to think "that person is better than me."

If you break up and don't move on to anyone they get to think "oh shit, alone is better than me."

so it all depends on how you want to play it

 

[Betancore]

It's kind of unfair for the person you're dating. And if you're not into her, then there's not much point dating her anyway. It won't really help you forget. Best if you find someone you could have the potential to actually like, and go out with her so you can get to know her better. Just by allowing yourself to like someone else makes it a little easier to get over someone.

 

[quiet_samurai]

Wrong.... no.
The answer to getting over another..... also no.
Great way to occupy your mind..... yes, and maybe some sex too.

Spending time with another is a great way to take your mind off of the other person. However rebound dates never usually last because instead of dating them for having a genuine interest, you are dating them for purely secondary reasons and for the distraction.

Don't fool yourself, and in turn don't fool them, make your intentions known from the beginning.

 

[Lust]

My story is I've been single for over a month now and even though I have had several options to date someone else yet Im still not over my ex.

Then it seems you need to sort out your feelings still. Find support from your friends and family.

I hear all the time the best way to get over someone is to date someone else, but does that mean its right?

Now that would just be procrastination.

It would be the same as someone drinking themselves into a stupor. You'd be lying to yourself and the person you'd be dating. Neither of which solves anything.

OT: The only thing that I can offer is a hug.

Spoiler

I hope that you can find happiness, friend.​

 

[Julianking93]

Plenty of people do the whole "rebound" thing but it hardly ever ends well. I wouldn't say it's wrong to do so, but considering how few people actually stay with their rebound girlfriend or boyfriend, I'd advise against it.

Plus, that often times just makes things worse.

 

[DonMartin]

No, as long as both of them are aware of that it is just to get over someone else.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

It depends how serious the relationship you're getting into is.

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[Moriarty70]

Rebounding, not just for sports anymore.

 

[Jumping_Over_Fences]

What if you are dating that person just because your ex doesn't like her? That way you are only doing it because it makes your ex mad and making you ex mad makes you feel good. Does that count?

Also, I don't think it is wrong to date someone to get over your ex, but I really haven't done that. Well, except for the situation mentioned above, but I don't think that really counts. I choose to have just random encounters with women on a completely non-serious level. I find that meaningless sex is a great way to get over an old relationship.

 

[ForensicYOYO]

My story is I've been single for over a month now and even though I have had several options to date someone else yet Im still not over my ex.

Then it seems you need to sort out your feelings still. Find support from your friends and family.

I hear all the time the best way to get over someone is to date someone else, but does that mean its right?

Now that would just be procrastination.

It would be the same as someone drinking themselves into a stupor. You'd be lying to yourself and the person you'd be dating. Neither of which solves anything.

OT: The only thing that I can offer is a hug.

Spoiler

I hope that you can find happiness, friend.​

It wouldn't let me view the spoiler but thank you for you advice and hug ^_^

 

[kwydjebo]

The whole point of dating is to get to know the person you're dating.
Going out on a date, or two, or three with a person isn't a lifelong commitment.
As long as you and your date are both aware of that, what's the problem? Of course once sex or other things come into the picture, you change it up a bit, but the fact remains, you meet someone, if you think they're worth going out with I say, why not?

You're still a little hung up on your ex, it happens. If you know someone, and you want to go out with this someone, then go for it, maybe you'll have a bad time, due to your issues, and then you can politely excuse yourself. Maybe you'll have a good time, and it'll turn out this is what you need....you won't know till you try, but as long os you're honest with your date, I don't see why not.

As for your ex (Someone stated concern for what your ex will think), well they're ex for a reason, so you're bettr to put your feelings ahead of theirs.

 

[n19h7m4r3]

It's highly situational.

For some people it helps to date someone else, for others it makes no difference.
Time will heal all as they say. After coming out of a 3 year long relationship last year I was crushed and a sad panda.

Didn't date or even really think of others much. Changed soon enough, don't get on with her, don't talk with her (even though she's now in my college classes). She tends to through out insulting comments sometimes and tries to talk me down in others.

But I got over it, same for you or anyone else really. After a while you stop caring about them and move on.

Some people need that "special" person in their lives, others don't so much.
Find what works for YOU.

Also I can only recommend some Rooibos tea. That's helps for all sorts of things.

 

[archvile93]

You should date someone because you're attracted to them, not to forget about another.

 

[Dexiro]

If you establish that it could just be a fling to help you get over some emotional problems then it should be fine. It could even turn into a serious relationship from there.

Never start a relationship knowing it probably wouldn't work out though, that's just toying with someones emotions.