Mortai Gravesend said:
Electrogecko said:
"It isn't realistic to call any behavioral change one due to sexual attraction."
This may be the dumbest thing I've ever read. No, I did not alter this quote. This came straight from your keyboard Mr. Mortai, and I am quite literally dumbfounded.
It's clear to me now why I've had such difficulty getting through to you. I would reach out to others around me for backup, but I see you're already taking on the entire forum.
Because I missed the word 'given' when I was tired? You can't say it about JUST any change. Not all changes can be reasonably connected to it.
I keep thinking after I post, "I'm sure this guy is a nice person and I'm sure our views on the subject are much closer than this debate would suggest."
Then I read your rebuttal and am overcome by a mixture of frustration and pity.
The topic of this thread is "Is treating women in a Gentlemanly way Sexist," and I'm pretty sure you can reasonably link any "gentlemanly" behavior to flirtation. Beyond this, my original point remains, which was that it's impossible to refute anybody who claims to have behaved a certain way out of sexual attraction.
"It isn't basic things. It's your sexist assumption that women are smarter."
Another bit of brilliance.....I'm sexist because I'm "assuming" (even if it was an assumption) that women are smarter. So I guess you think men are smarter then? Oh wait, that would make you a sexist! I guess you can't have an opinion on this matter without being sexist, as per your unique logic. That's two self-contradictory statements in one post! I think I'm done trying to refute you. You do it well enough on your own.
False dichotomy. I don't need to say that one is smarter than the other. Do you just lack the backbone to take on my arguments with integrity and not make things up, or is it just fun for you?
False dichotomy? Oh that's right! I forgot the third option- that the average IQ of both genders across all the people of the world is an exact tie! Down to the trillionth decimal place! Here I was going through my entire life thinking that every individual is unique, and thus, every section of the population on Earth is unique! How silly of me!
In all seriousness, it may be a point of contention which sections of the brain are larger in the male vs female brain (to say one gender is smarter than the other is obviously an oversimplification) or which ones are used more frequently/efficiently/whatever, but there is nobody debating that the two are the same in any respect.
You keep trying to make my arguments out to be scientific or even sexist, but all I'm saying is that men and women are different and you seem to be disagreeing. I don't need a scientific source to claim that different sections of the population (let alone the genders) have a different average value for any given attribute.
I'm left wondering how the hell this debate came to be and what your opinion on the matter actually is.....I'm still not clear.
You apparently never are.
The wit. I'm rolling on the floor laughing as I'm typing this. If you just presented your argument concisely, I'd have quit replying by now, but you keep taking personal stabs and giving bullshit one-liners.
We both agree on the basic idea that gender is not a defining characteristic of any person, and by itself should never be used as a reason to treat or be treated differently, but where we differ is in the amount of qualifiers and exceptions there are to that basic rule.
Because you fail to demonstrate the validity of your myriad bullshit claims.
I haven't failed. You've just misunderstood. I'll try again.
It may be sexist to use gender as the sole reason for a given action, but I don't think it's sexist to make certain assumptions about a person based off their sex. This goes back to my point about men being asked by women to lift heavy things. (and no, giving a hypothetical scenario doesn't make me a liar) I don't think it's sexist for a woman to ask a random man to lift something that they've had trouble with under the assumption that he's a bit stronger. Do you?
If you said yes, you have the wrong idea of what sexism is. This is an act of efficient and accepting societal cooperation. In a society that's secure with itself (this is why I brought up insecurity before) we acknowledge the differences amongst ourselves and use them to our mutual benefit. Kind of like how some insects accept the role of soldier/worker, we should accept certain differences about our people.
If you said no, then you've made an exception for the case of physical strength and acknowledged that there is a difference in that particular attribute amongst men and women. The thing is, the difference in strength is no different than the difference in any other attribute except for the fact that it's easily noticed and widely accepted. For every single attribute you can name, the two sexes are different regardless of whether they can be called better or worse. Some differences may be so acute that they're impossible to notice with human perception, but that doesn't mean they don't exist.
THE FOLLOWING IS AN ACTUAL EXCHANGE, WITH THE QUOTED PHRASES BELONGING TO MORTAI
"Treating someone differently based on their gender like that is simply basic sexism."
I don't ask men out for dinner and I don't talk dirty (at least as much) in the presence of women. I don't think that makes me sexist.
Because the difference there is sexual attraction, not just gender. Easy.
But when is a difference in gender not a difference in sexual attraction? Unless your bi/asexual, a difference in gender means a difference in sexual attraction. That was the point that I made about 3 posts ago.
Sexual attraction isn't black and white. It's different for everybody, but for everybody, there is a range of attractiveness, which would mean, given your own logic and my own, that there is a range of different behaviors depending on this attraction.
Some people may be sexually attracted to every single female they lay eyes on, and thus, treat every female differently than every male.
"But what warrants it here is your own sexual preference. At least he first one. The second one not so much. That is kind of sexist. It's whether there is some kind of justification for it beyond simply gender. Sexual preference is something you can't control and it is a reason for some different behaviors."
Well, then I can use sexual preference to justify any difference in behavior that I have, (around women) and I'd love to hear how you would refute it.
You're a liar. Easily done.
Amazing. I'm a liar even though I didn't make any claims. This is the second time you've called me a liar for making this point, and it's the second time it makes no sense at all. You can say I WOULD be a liar if I did what is entailed in my point, but even that is irrelevant.
Every time you answer a thought out phrase with a little quip like that you lose more and more credibility.
"You're probably a liar since you just made it up right now?"
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That's right folks, Mr. Mortai's response to my point is......*drum roll....calling me a liar! Brilliant. Just like all my other points, you don't bother refuting with anything but personal jabs and pathetic quips, even though you yourself keep asking for scientific sources.
Well your point was utterly unprovable. You're making it up. It's easy to see how ad hoc it is.
I can see that you needed to break that exchange up twice so you could call me a liar twice....brilliant. The point that your supposed to be refuting here, just to clarify, is that it's impossible to judge whether or not a certain action was taken due to sexual attraction.
On top of that, your second quote in that exchange directly contradicts the one from way on top of this post....the one that I said is the dumbest thing I've ever read.
You don't read what you write? What a surprise.
More garbage....the amount of substance in your rebuttal is staggering.
All in all, you've replied to me about 5 times now, have called me a liar and a sexist multiple times, demanded scientific sources while providing none of your own, and given me absolutely no idea of what your opinion on the topic is. You've given a childish ideal. A patheticly black and white painting of the situation that looks like it was done by a 5 year old.
Let me explain something basic to you.
You make claims about science. You need to provide sources.
All I do is question your claims and don't make my own about science. I don't have anything to prove.
Condescending as all hell....moving on.
Claims about science? Your claims are much more absurd than mine. I'm suggesting that the sexes are different in every conceivable way, no matter how small and unnoticeable the difference may be. It doesn't matter whether I think that men or women are smarter. What you're arguing is that neither is, which is impossible.
You should be a politician.
Well at least I'm suitable for something.
More personal attacking.....and somehow, your trying to make me out to be the bad guy. If you want to honestly try to refute anything that I've said, be my guest, but please don't respond with nothing but shitty one-liners and personal jabs. Don't take anything that I've said out of context. Take an entire thought process of mine, and reply to it with an entire thought process of yours.
Thank you.