Poll: Is young love a thing?
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I think it can be. You get the idea of it, so while you may not stick with the person, its certainly the start.
I know I was in love with a girl at 14, though I always had some kinda relationship with her, and when she died that was the first and only night (so far in my life) that i faced the option of suicide as a very real thing.
Then of course there was one of my great uncles. He fell in love with a girl at 15, they went steady all through when he was in WW2, got married after the service despite how easy it was for her to leave him at the tender age of 21 after his arm got blown off and his leg more or less ruined and stayed with him till she died. Together they raised 5 kids an so far they had 12 grand children. Of course both are dead now, but still.
I know I was in love with a girl at 14, though I always had some kinda relationship with her, and when she died that was the first and only night (so far in my life) that i faced the option of suicide as a very real thing.
Then of course there was one of my great uncles. He fell in love with a girl at 15, they went steady all through when he was in WW2, got married after the service despite how easy it was for her to leave him at the tender age of 21 after his arm got blown off and his leg more or less ruined and stayed with him till she died. Together they raised 5 kids an so far they had 12 grand children. Of course both are dead now, but still.
Pretty much. People generally suffer from the idea that "Statistics apply to people, but not to them". An example is 'smoking socially'. Sure, there are some people who can smoke socially and not have it turn into a full-blown addiction, but I've never met one of those people. I've met loads of people who start smoking 'socially', think they won't get addicted, get addicted, and end up smoking for the rest of their lives (or close enough), all because they think that they are the exception.Kpt._Rob said:
Young love probably can exist, but most of the time it is just hormones, preconceptions and a whole bunch of cultural stuff making you think that you are in love, even though you aren't. And let me just say, that concluding that you really are teenagers in love is a fool move. You should be honest, because if it isn't love, you don't want to go making that verbal contract, and if it is, you want to be able to actually recognise it when your hormones have stopped screwing with your head, instead of going "I don't feel the same way anymore! Clearly I'm no longer in love with you!" and missing out on the real deal.
Interestingly enough, I felt more in love in high school than I have since. There's a fairly common comedian thread of jokes detailing how a teenager will look for his/her soulmate while a person in there 30s simply look for someone to split the bills with.
Honestly (and personally), as time goes on, my feelings become less and less severe. I hate and love far less people/things than I did as a teenager and even less than I did as a child. Guess I'm just succumbing to a permanent state of stoicism :/
Honestly (and personally), as time goes on, my feelings become less and less severe. I hate and love far less people/things than I did as a teenager and even less than I did as a child. Guess I'm just succumbing to a permanent state of stoicism :/
I'm not too sure. Teenagers can be infatuated for the long term, definitely, but love?
It depends on what love is to you, I suppose.
Most people use love and infatuation interchangeably whereas others would say true love only occurs when you've been together for 7+ years, having gone through bad times and coming out the other end, not all over each other or declaring your love to the world but comfortable and content with being together for the long haul.
I haven't decided where I fit in this spectrum yet. Maybe both are just different types of love. One more fleeting than the other.
It depends on what love is to you, I suppose.
Most people use love and infatuation interchangeably whereas others would say true love only occurs when you've been together for 7+ years, having gone through bad times and coming out the other end, not all over each other or declaring your love to the world but comfortable and content with being together for the long haul.
I haven't decided where I fit in this spectrum yet. Maybe both are just different types of love. One more fleeting than the other.
Being in a permanent state of butterflies sounds like one of those things I'd want to get rid of as quickly as possible, not embrace.Mr Thin said:http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-bits-advice-that-dont-make-sense-until-its-too-late/
First entry, friend.
No, I don't think they can. I think love takes years to properly develop, and 15-19 year olds generally haven't lived long enough for that to be a possibility.
I also find it humorous that you decided that your relationship was true love, whereas most teenagers were just in it for the sex. It reminds me of that XKCD comic.
I would say it depends on your definition of 'love'. Most people see love as an emotion, a passive feeling, if you will. I view love as an act. Something you get up every morning and do. Now I might be bias, but I met my wife at 15 and we have been married for 8 years and have 6 children. It certainly seems like something must be working.
Having said all that, I will say, a serious relationship for 95% of people in that age group. Bad idea.
Having said all that, I will say, a serious relationship for 95% of people in that age group. Bad idea.
Sure. But don't count on it.
If you're young, you're fucking stupid. You could have knowledge or skill or fucking whatever, but you're still a moron.
You know why old people complain about everything all the time? Because their brains are running at such a level that they are experiencing a ridiculous amount of input. Picking out the difference between love and lust or worship or mutual fucking obsession is not something young people can usually do because, guess what, they're idiots.
I mean, yeah, there are exceptions like with anything. But they're rare and you are probably not one of them. Always assume you don't know shit and only admit you are in love when you've exhausted all other options.
If you're young, you're fucking stupid. You could have knowledge or skill or fucking whatever, but you're still a moron.
You know why old people complain about everything all the time? Because their brains are running at such a level that they are experiencing a ridiculous amount of input. Picking out the difference between love and lust or worship or mutual fucking obsession is not something young people can usually do because, guess what, they're idiots.
I mean, yeah, there are exceptions like with anything. But they're rare and you are probably not one of them. Always assume you don't know shit and only admit you are in love when you've exhausted all other options.
Yes, I'd say it's possible. However, due to the reasons you mentioned and the fact that people generally change a lot between 15 and 20, the chances are just really slim that (a) it's real love and (b) you and your partner won't change too much to keep it that way.
That seems like a realistic, but also like a very unwise habit. Not thinking or considering you're in love is often a self-fulfilling prophecy; every relationship will have its ups and downs, and you'll often simply need something to smoothen the edges of the 'downs'. Also, thinking you're in love is a great way of getting, you know, happy. Which is a great way of making relationships work.Monkfish Acc. said:
Yes, why not? Isn't the 'not love but obsession' that goes both ways exactly what adults do in love? Except they don't use it as an excuse to stay out late or to have sex before their parents want them to have anything to do with sex in the first place.
At that age, there may be something akin to love, like the first inklings of the feeling, but I have to agree with what the second poster said way up there - you're still developing. Your body AND mind are going through a lot of changes. What you feel now in all likelihood is NOT what you will feel years from now. I know looking back to even what I felt for someone I was with a few years ago... doesn't feel the same as it does now. I've grown from that. Like I did from the time before that... and none of it holds a candle to the feelings I had for my biggest crush in high school, and at that time I was so sure we were ment to be, it was love, etc.
I certainly don't think kids that age can feel the kind of love that fosters a healthy adult relationship, but then again, they're not adults.
Though I see a lot of people around -my- age (20s) who STILL don't seem to get themselves into healthy, mature, relationships... the whole thinking wholly with your heart instead of with your head as well... *sigh* I warn them, they ignore me, then a month later, they sob to me that their relationship fell apart, I sigh, and hand them my bag of I-told-you-sos.
Let me get out my crotchety old man cane and yell at the kids on my front lawn for a moment:
Kids seems to be wanting to jump into relationships younger and younger. It's kindda disturbing, really. I'm not saying wait until you're in your 30s to get married, but for the love of (your religious image of choice here), THINK about it before jumping into it. Think about it with your HEAD, not just your heart, and not just your junk.
Can anyone answer me this: why the rush? It's almost like it's the latest (long-staying) trend to be in a relationship. Why?
I certainly don't think kids that age can feel the kind of love that fosters a healthy adult relationship, but then again, they're not adults.
Though I see a lot of people around -my- age (20s) who STILL don't seem to get themselves into healthy, mature, relationships... the whole thinking wholly with your heart instead of with your head as well... *sigh* I warn them, they ignore me, then a month later, they sob to me that their relationship fell apart, I sigh, and hand them my bag of I-told-you-sos.
Let me get out my crotchety old man cane and yell at the kids on my front lawn for a moment:
Kids seems to be wanting to jump into relationships younger and younger. It's kindda disturbing, really. I'm not saying wait until you're in your 30s to get married, but for the love of (your religious image of choice here), THINK about it before jumping into it. Think about it with your HEAD, not just your heart, and not just your junk.
Can anyone answer me this: why the rush? It's almost like it's the latest (long-staying) trend to be in a relationship. Why?
I think, being sixteen and having been in a serious relationship, that young love is a "thing", but love is one of the most mercurial concepts in the english language, or any language for that matter, right next to the word good. It's all about perspective, I would say that there's many people that I love, as in a I care for them and would go through many a hardship for their benefit, although I don't necessarily want to get into their pants. In regards to sexy times, relationship love, I do also believe that teens can be in love, although the operative word is can, and there are many ridiculous hormone driven people out there claiming to be in love. Not just teens mind you. So I do belive in it, because yes, for the first few months of a relationship it's fun to let sex all sorts of shenanigans rule your relationship, but after the initail haze of a fantastic time passes and your hormone driven frenzy has faded but you're left with a deep passion for someone and as well as the desire to screw the hell out of them you can be happy just sitting next to them talking about some random bullshit or something that pisses you off or makes you happy, or just nothing at all and you can be next to them and just hold their hand and be a happy person, that's love, and anyone can feel it, just about anyone without some emotional issue.
In any case sorry to get all sappy, and to say it easily yes. It is most definitely possible and don't let anyone tell you otherwise, anyone can fall in love.
In any case sorry to get all sappy, and to say it easily yes. It is most definitely possible and don't let anyone tell you otherwise, anyone can fall in love.
Young love is a bunch of hormones and chemicals giving various signals to affect your body and mind.
Adult love is a bunch of hormones and chemicals giving various signals to affect your body and mind.
Honestly I have a few difficulties seeing the difference here.
Of course young love is a thing. Love is a part of evolution that is there to make us reproduce. When do girls start to menstruate? Around 8-13. Technically that's the age where they're ready to reproduce thus find a partner thus be feeling love. However for some reason this reaction is delayed, probably because boys mature slower (a bit of a generalizing there) in most cases.
Said in short. Yes.
Adult love is a bunch of hormones and chemicals giving various signals to affect your body and mind.
Honestly I have a few difficulties seeing the difference here.
Of course young love is a thing. Love is a part of evolution that is there to make us reproduce. When do girls start to menstruate? Around 8-13. Technically that's the age where they're ready to reproduce thus find a partner thus be feeling love. However for some reason this reaction is delayed, probably because boys mature slower (a bit of a generalizing there) in most cases.
Said in short. Yes.
I think i dont see a difference between the two, for you basically summed up what causes the thing we call love.SeeIn2D said: