Mylinkay Asdara said:
Now, there are non-religious marriage equivalents that already exist. Atheists can get married, two people from different religions can get married, people who are not particularly looking to do anything more than tie their legal lives together can get married, using these means.
This is where both you and your friend are wrong. This
is marriage. It's not "equivalent" marriage or "diminished" marriage, it's
marriage. Marriage has been a domestic cultural sentiment since long before the Abrahamic religions claimed it. It wasn't until the Middle Ages in Europe that same-sex marriages were even frowned upon by the church. And so on.
But the bigger point is that marriage being sacred to them doesn't mean anything with regards to other marriages. Marriage is a secular concept, its term a secular derivation, and just because Christians (or any other group) want to latch onto it and declare it sacred or proprietary doesn't mean it should make any different to us or them.
Besides, given the current Pope, your devout Catholic friend is now disagreeing with the voice of God on Earth. And that's how the devout tend to roll. They are devout in anything that supports their beliefs, but not those that do not. Even if it's an authority within their own doctrine.
I doubt your friend supports child brides or incest, but those are part of the sacred and immutable doctrine of Biblical marriage.
So is Polygamy.
So is making a woman marry her rapist.
So are concubines. Many a Biblical figure be piiiiiiimpin', yo.
At one point in time, there's a good chance your devout friend would have used the Bible to argue that a man and a woman should not marry if one of them was "of colour." It's possible, even, that he would have argued for slavery as a Biblical institution.
So again I must ask: So what?
Lunncal said:
If anything those sort of schemes seem like a delaying tactic to me, where a group can appear to be getting more progressive while slowing down actual advances in equality for as long as they possibly can.
I'm not sure they're a delaying tactic. People who oppose same-sex marriage then to oppose civil unions and domestic partnerships. It seems to be a compromise the progressives make that the anti-gay lobby isn't really interested in.
Silvanus said:
That's true. I shouldn't still be surprised when such arguments crop up, but I am.
Most people have a disparity between their intellectual and emotional responses. I'm certainly guilty of this.
I can understand it; some Churches have incredible architecture.
and acoustics. I've always wanted to record in a church, but my capacity to do so postdates my severing of ties with religious institutions. And I'm too broke to pay. Plus, the priests keep spraying me with holy water, and it burns....
As for naming the ceremony, I'd guess the vast majority simply opt for "marriage", because they can, and because that's what they have always thought of it as. If a gay couple has an impressive ceremony, at some impressive secular location, the name on the paper-- "Civil Partnership"-- could still be a slap in the face.
You're right, though, that the venue is likely to be the bigger consideration. Many are religious, and may feel it is only the institution that stands in their way, not the Lord. Others may even belong to Churches who want to perform the ceremonies, such as the Quakers, but who are disallowed.
And : civil Union" is still a slap in the face, no doubt. I'm just pointing out that we can have a marriage ceremony if we want.
My speech professor in college was a minister who couldn't perform religious ceremonies according to his sect. I forget which one it was. He was very supportive of gay couples, however. Just a weird parallel to the Quakers.
Honestly, I don't want to take anything away from religious folks, in same sex marriage or elsewhere. It's when religio tries to insinuate itself on secular society that I take issue.
thenumberthirteen said:
Were I forced to choose I'd say the rights are the most important part as it is what proves the most impactful part, but it should be equal in both title and law. There is no reason at all to have different rules for different people. It's discriminatory, and wasteful.
Wasteful. Huh. there's an interesting thought. I mean, a lot of the vocal opponents you see on TV are also the ones who are vocal about small government. So logically, they should want to streamline things with only one set of las, right?
*crickets*
Asita said:
Ah, you were comparing homosexual marriage to heterosexual marriage. Sorry, I hadn't caught that qualifier and had assumed you were speaking generally like I was, hence my confusion (I was interpreting it as "Marriage is a lesser institution than marriage", which obviously makes no sense). Thank you for clarifying that.
It made sense when I first wrote it, but when I looked back it was clear that I hadn't been very clear. Yeah, the other way wouldn't make much sense, but the lunatic who edited my post (I call her Sophie) clearly had it in for me. >.>
Nah, I think I was just being too hasty. There's been a lot of points in this thread I wanted to touch on, and I have the attention span of...Well, Dory.
Just keep posting, just keep posting, just keep posting, posting posting.....