Poll: More than friends

[therookie95]

Just wanted to see if anyone here has ever had a time when they are really good friends with somebody,knowing them for a long time and keep in touch, but then all of a sudden you feel like you should start date this person
Now I do have a good friend but I'm not really into her, although I will admit that she is hot

 

[garlicncow]

Yes, this happened twice in my life, both said no. It feels bad man.

 

[Marter]

Only once, and it wasn't a long time that we talked for before I felt that way.

 

[maninahat]

Yes. Twice, and both times successful.
There was a more recent case where it might have happened again, except that I specifically refused to date her. I have no time for that sort of thing right now.

Spoiler: My current policy?

 

[Martster]

I got rather friendly with a girl when I was in school (both aged 16) and I knew I wanted it to go further but I never plucked up the courage to ask her. I was afraid of ruining the friendship we have and to this day I have still not asked her (now aged 21)

She's the only girl I've felt this way for and I really should do something

 

[CK76]

Yeah, once, and it didn't end well. Probably best that way looking back.

 

[Doctor VonSexMachine]

Yes. Twice, and both times successful.
There was a more recent case where it might have happened again, except that I specifically refused to date her. I have no time for that sort of thing right now.

Spoiler: My current policy?

You've got the right outlook on life, my good man.

 

[s0denone]

I got rather friendly with a girl when I was in school (both aged 16) and I knew I wanted it to go further but I never plucked up the courage to ask her. I was afraid of ruining the friendship we have and to this day I have still not asked her (now aged 21)

She's the only girl I've felt this way for and I really should do something

Then do it! Write post-its and hang them all over your house to remind yourself. Stop being a coward

OT:
Yes it has. We tried... It didn't work out. What can you do, eh?

 

[The Eggplant]

Twice, both times it turned into something more. The first time we ended it by mutual agreement after only a few weeks because we were simply better off as close friends, and the second one...well, it was beautiful until it turned ugly, but ohhhh boy, did it ever turn ugly. It's been a week since she dumped me, and I still haven't even moved past the initial shock of it. These next few weeks will not be pretty.

Bottom line: Don't do it. It stings even worse when things fall apart...and for some reason, they always seem to.

 

[Scde2]

In high school I went out with one of my friends. Unsurprisingly it didn't work out, but now we are friends again.

 

[Belgian_Waffles]

I just actually finished said relationship, it ended shitty to say the least but oh well...

 

[Pandalisk]

Once, and then that relationship ended.

Now?.. I honestly dont know anyone at'all really.

 

[Billion Backs]

Yes, and then I smartened up.

 

[Trivun]

Oh yes, many times. One was a girl I knew in Sixth Form. We'd met briefly on a school trip to London, but later in the year I started hanging out more with her when we turned out to have plenty of mutual friends. After a while I started to like her as more than a friend, but she'd already started dating someone else in our social group. Even after they split up I never really took the chance to take things to the next level, although I did really impress her with a surprise present on her 18th birthday (a Debenhams gift card hidden in her birthday card, she absolutely loves surprises ).

Another time, also in Sixth Form (a little while later), I ended up making two new friends, both girls, from our 'sister school' when we did a joint production of A Midsummer Night's Dream. I ended up asking one of them out (and getting shot down, but staying friends), while the other was already seeing someone. Fast forward a few months, I'd suddenly switched all my attention to the other one, by this time single, while the girl I'd asked out was now dating another mutual friend. Funny how these things work out, eh?

Anyhow, the girl I ended up preferring afterwards, I never did actually make any move to upgrade our friendship, as it were. Though I will be seeing her for the first time in over a year in a couple of weeks, for a friend's birthday night out, and I was happy to see today she's currently listed as single on her Facebook page... .

 

[AdmanUK]

I think it is just as likely to end badly as any other relationship, as lets be honest any relationship is likely to fail. In this instance however you have the added benefit of being close already =)

 

[Not-here-anymore]

I wouldn't say I suddenly felt like I should attempt to date anyone in this position; it's more of a gradual realisation... So yes, I've had that experience, but it's never really worked out. Although my most recent attempt at asking a friend out doesn't seem to have affected our friendship much/at all, which is odd, because it's definitely made things weird when that's happened before.

 

[Quaxar]

Seems like the yes gets a landslide win.

Ah well, I've done it too. We were best friends for, uhm, about three years I think, when she got this offer by some strange dude I don't know at all. So I thought I'd ask her out too, because I thought I'd get completely ignored if she suddenly had a boyfriend (which btw more or less happened some months later with another weird guy), actually there was no real love involved, I mean I really really like and value her as a friend, but the attempt to prevent a person I really love talking to from ignoring me. Yes, yes, I know it was a shitty idea, don't tell me, tell me a year ago!
Nearly ruined our friendship since she then ignored me to avoid providing an answer which pissed me off a bit. Funny thing is, few days after I managed to squeeze out an "I'd rather stay single" [exact quote] she got together with this guy she had met for the second time, for whatever reasons exactly, I only know there was a hell lot of alcohol involved. Yeah... I didn't talk to her for like month after that. Justified? I don't care, make me a sandwich!

However, happy ending is we're still/again best friends. Sad ending is Bambi's mother dies.

 

[Yureina]

Too many times to count. It never moved forward though because neither of us were really willing to make the first move. Ah well... story of my life, I guess.

 

[CrashBang]

It happened to me once in high school and once in college
The high school one never blossomed into anything but my friend from college and I went to Disneyland together and ended up getting together and went out for a year and a half. She was a good mate but ended up being a really shit girlfriend. I kinda miss being friends with her but definitely don't miss going out with her

 

[Hollock]

I'm kind of in the middle of this right now, and I havent ever really liked anyone before. it's all pretty weird.