Poll: Online Dating
- Thread starter HatchetDown
- Start date
Recommended Videos
BonsaiK said:
Apologies, when you said it's an enabler I took it to imply that it enables people to meet other people in a fashion that is more advantageous than that of a physical conversation. I apologies if I was in error here and it was not what you were saying.
Again, I am not saying there is something wrong with online dating or that it's not without its advantages. Just that it doesn't seem logical because in the end you have to bring the relationship to a physical level. So it seems simpler if things were already in a physical level rather than in a digital level.
Perhaps its just that my natural perception of online relationships that's inhibiting me from clearly seeing the ease it bring to maintaining relationships. Like I said before, I don't think it's wrong, just an unnecessary step in the layers of courtship.
I'm not interested in the idea at all, partly because I have the self confidence in myself to know that even though I'm single now, I will find someone that I like and want to date at some stage. I don't like the idea of online dating, seems informal. It's also not my "style", as some of my close friends who are girls point out to me (my style being I'm usually very attracted to any girls that I ask out long before I actually ask them). So that sort of thing doesn't seem to apply to internet dating, I like to interact with people I'm interested in in real life.
Uhm, I guess?... This thread made me take a look at some of the Norwegian sites tho, and I couldn't see fat men and women overflowing the place. Actually, quite few of them. But maybe we have different opinions on what is fat and not^^coxafloppin said:
Yeah, that makes lots of sense! I tend to rarely ask anyone out at all tho, cause I guess I'm sorta old fashioned. I think the guy should ask the girl, not the other way around.Inverse Skies said:
Most of my friends who are girls feel the same way, so you're not really old-fashioned in that sense. I've been asked out by girls and it's more off-putting than anything else. I like to at least feel like it's a challenge to ask girls out, because it usually is. When it's given to you that easily... takes some of the fun out of being interested and wondering if what you're saying/doing is improving or worsening your chances of going out with the girl. That sense of not knowing is half of the fun!Miki91 said:
Yea, but i dont see why attractive women would feel the need to go online to find a date.Miki91 said:
Seriously?! That's the torture of it all! I hate wondering, doubting. "Does he really like me, is this outfit OK, is my hair done nicely, oh crap I forgot to brush my teeth!, oh my god did I really say that its so stupid!" Drives me nuts! Sometimes guys suck... Girls too tho XDInverse Skies said:
Huh, good point...(?) They do tho, strangely^^coxafloppin said:
Ah yes, but it wouldn't be dating then if you didn't feel those things. It'd be two friends catching up then. The fact you're interested in the other person in that way and have those anxieties and issues is what makes it worthwhile in the end if it does work out.Miki91 said:
If you think about it it's really not any different to classified ads in newspapers and they have been going on very well for many years. My own mother met her partner (my step father) some 12 years ago via a newspaper classified advert.
Now, if you're talking about non intentional Internet dating, i.e. someone who lives in London chatting to and getting on with someone who lives in Texas and forging a 'relationship' even though the 2 of them have never met... well that's rarely successful, however, there are circumstances where people have been friends online and met and then developed into more after meeting... which in my eyes is much more healthy.
But the long and short of it is, the various types of 'Internet dating' do work, just some better than others.
Now, if you're talking about non intentional Internet dating, i.e. someone who lives in London chatting to and getting on with someone who lives in Texas and forging a 'relationship' even though the 2 of them have never met... well that's rarely successful, however, there are circumstances where people have been friends online and met and then developed into more after meeting... which in my eyes is much more healthy.
But the long and short of it is, the various types of 'Internet dating' do work, just some better than others.
I think its becoming an acceptable and commonplace thing to do, my mum meet her new partner over the internet, now they live together. My mate whose in the army told me some blokes bang a lot of chicks they contacted over a more sex oriented online dating service. So I can see both the longterm and casual benefits.
I think it's probably best if the people meet after a short period of communication, rather than prolonging it or making that weird internet girlfriend scenario.
I wouldn't do it at the moment because I have no money or job (yet) bounce from my parents' houses and placement accommodation. Maybe when I get my qualifications I'd think about it.
I think it's probably best if the people meet after a short period of communication, rather than prolonging it or making that weird internet girlfriend scenario.
I wouldn't do it at the moment because I have no money or job (yet) bounce from my parents' houses and placement accommodation. Maybe when I get my qualifications I'd think about it.
Not for me thanks, but I'm sure some people get lonely, so it would seem churlish to deny them the chance of happiness.
I think it's good for people who have no social skills and are probably shy and ugly. If they met their 'girlfriend' in real life they'd probably go all shy and spaz out.
But finding someone online then meeting them somewhere developing it into an actual relationship is good.
But finding someone online then meeting them somewhere developing it into an actual relationship is good.
I don't have a problem with it.. My mom re-marred to my step-dad who i hate but they have been married for close to 6 years now so yeah.. I don't hate him because hes bad i hate him because of his personality.. Our personality's clash.. It got so bad once that we got into a fist fight.. Since then we avoid each other.. I don't say anything to him and he doesn't to me.. That way there is some peace in the house.. Haven't had a fight in a good 2 years..
Never tried it. Not plannign to either.
I don't think it would work out very well, i can't keep back all the stupid stuff that comes out of my mouth unless i'm in front of someone IRL, otehrwise i can't take them as seriously as i prolyl should.
I also hate texting on the cell phone, unless it's for short informative stuff. If peopel want to talk to me, they should just call me instead of writing a stupid text saying "whats up" or something like that. Stopped using msn a few years ago because of that as well, and because i was rarely at my computer without doing something that shouldn't be disturbed, liek gaming.
If other peole do it, fine with me, pther people's dating is none of my bussines anyways, and it would be kinda fucked up if i was trying to stop them doing things their way, just cause i don't wanna do it myself.
I don't think it would work out very well, i can't keep back all the stupid stuff that comes out of my mouth unless i'm in front of someone IRL, otehrwise i can't take them as seriously as i prolyl should.
I also hate texting on the cell phone, unless it's for short informative stuff. If peopel want to talk to me, they should just call me instead of writing a stupid text saying "whats up" or something like that. Stopped using msn a few years ago because of that as well, and because i was rarely at my computer without doing something that shouldn't be disturbed, liek gaming.
If other peole do it, fine with me, pther people's dating is none of my bussines anyways, and it would be kinda fucked up if i was trying to stop them doing things their way, just cause i don't wanna do it myself.