Poll: Pleasure in sex ed
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Really? I Thought you Norwegians was just as much hippies as we are.Jonluw said:I sort of wish we Norwegians could be more like you Danes on some points.Napierdalac said:Gosh i allways love reading these kind of topics here on the Escapist.
In my sex-ed class, we learned about everything. From diseases to anal sex. Actually we watched a movie that was about 2 hours long, where one hour was a guideline in having fun, stimulating and safe sex. And yes, that movie showed us positions also. From missionary to the jackhammer.
And you know what? None of us, was uncomfortable with it. Because if your raised in a place where you ain't scared of the human body, the human body is a beautiful thing.
God i love being scandinavian.
I mean, the basic stereotype of a Dane is basically a nudist.
But people should really lighten up about sex. Sex is awesome in every way!
No, because for one thing, it's not universal. If people want to have better sex, they should learn to communicate with their partner(s). First we have parents wanting schools to raise their children for them, now we have people wanting schools to train their lovers for them? That's fucked up.
For the record, my "No" vote has nothing to do with any kind of moral stance.
For the record, my "No" vote has nothing to do with any kind of moral stance.
This all depends on where you live, at my Highschool we had the ol' abstenence only lectures, and even at that age i knew they were wrong, yet travel in a few hundred kilometers (im Canadain) in any direction and they were teaching a reasonable curriculum about the actual dangers and ways to minimize them while having sex.SirDoom said:
Although back on topic, I think it would be beneficial to discuss the importance of femail lubrication and possibly some mention of the clitorus and the role it plays, but ultimately pleasure comes down to individuals likes and dislikes. It would be much better to wish that we could have open and frank discussions with our partners about what they are doing right and wrong.
I don't think sex-education should teach anything besides the obvious safety measures and the importance of respect. The particulars ought to be learned through experience or the appropriate literature.
Reminds me of a short dialogue that took place in biology class once, when the subject of the clitoris came up during the chapter on human reproduction..
Teacher mentions the organ in passing.
Student pipes up and says 'That's the business area.'
Teacher awkwardly replies that it is indeed a 'sensitive part of the female anatomy'.
It was funnier at the time.
Reminds me of a short dialogue that took place in biology class once, when the subject of the clitoris came up during the chapter on human reproduction..
Teacher mentions the organ in passing.
Student pipes up and says 'That's the business area.'
Teacher awkwardly replies that it is indeed a 'sensitive part of the female anatomy'.
It was funnier at the time.
Now i agree with this.Donnyp said:
Its interesting, doesn't cover ground people would freak over, and is apart of how Sex works.
For example, i didn't know that, and it can lead into how and why men who are Uncircimcised feel more.
Also, HAH IN YOUR FACE MIDDLE SCHOOL JERKS!
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Generally speaking, no two people are the same. If you want to find out how to please your partner, ask your partner! Chances are they'll be happy to tell you what gets them going.
I don't really think it's all that important for sex-ed to teach "pleasure". They should be able to mention that sex is supposed to be pleasurable, and if it isn't, chances are something isn't going right. But seeing as how everyone is different... I just can't see it working out very well.
I don't really think it's all that important for sex-ed to teach "pleasure". They should be able to mention that sex is supposed to be pleasurable, and if it isn't, chances are something isn't going right. But seeing as how everyone is different... I just can't see it working out very well.
Well, we're still pretty lax about sex.Napierdalac said:Really? I Thought you Norwegians was just as much hippies as we are.Jonluw said:I sort of wish we Norwegians could be more like you Danes on some points.Napierdalac said:Gosh i allways love reading these kind of topics here on the Escapist.
In my sex-ed class, we learned about everything. From diseases to anal sex. Actually we watched a movie that was about 2 hours long, where one hour was a guideline in having fun, stimulating and safe sex. And yes, that movie showed us positions also. From missionary to the jackhammer.
And you know what? None of us, was uncomfortable with it. Because if your raised in a place where you ain't scared of the human body, the human body is a beautiful thing.
God i love being scandinavian.
I mean, the basic stereotype of a Dane is basically a nudist.
But people should really lighten up about sex. Sex is awesome in every way!
It's just that when I'm asked to imagine a Danish stereotype, it pretty much only conjures up an image of a slightly corpulent nudist with red sausage and smørrebrød... Perhaps smoking a joint.
I don't know why I think you're all nudists...
I don't think it's a school's right or really the point of sex ed to teach teenagers on how to pleasure the partner they are with, or are going to be with. As many have said, each person is going to be stimulated differently. I'll go ahead and beat the dead horse by saying what many others have said, that sex ed is just for that. Educating on what the dangers can be, how to protect yourself and your partner, and the options for if something does happen.
Smørrebrød is awesome. Nothing beats it for lunch. What is it even called in english ? In my knowledge rugbrød is a scandinavian thing right? :sJonluw said:
- I'm laughing so hard I'm crying over those 2 commercials. They are soooo true ! Except, that your neighbors will come join you if you play loud music all night!
Well, time to put in a different view, I guess.
I consider myself fortunate to get off during sex, no matter what my boyfriend and I may be doing, while many other woman I have personally met have spent hours researching how to obtain an orgasm on the internet. I don't know what made me one of the lucky few who doesn't need a toy or a special technique to "finish". Maybe it's all the time we spent just trying anything at all just to get me to "work", as it were. But even then, it took about three months to finally get anything to happen for me manually, and then another month once we started having sex.
And all those times that nothing was happening, and I could see the disappointment on my boyfriend's face like he was doing something wrong, or that I just wasn't interested? That hurt like hell, made me feel ashamed because why couldn't I perform a biological action that human beings were programmed to do?
And then I found out that it's a muscle memory that needs to be learned. So the combination of starting early on myself and the time and effort we put into it as a couple was what helped me feel great pleasure during sex. That's the kind of lesson they should teach, especially to girls but also to guys. That it's not an instant gratification sort of thing. That it will take time, and practice, and effort, and it may even take a few months to get it to work right. In my opinion, it just might help more women enjoy sex. And as an added bonus, it may also help them to identify when a guy is in it just for his own pleasure, so that they can properly kick his ass to the curb.
I consider myself fortunate to get off during sex, no matter what my boyfriend and I may be doing, while many other woman I have personally met have spent hours researching how to obtain an orgasm on the internet. I don't know what made me one of the lucky few who doesn't need a toy or a special technique to "finish". Maybe it's all the time we spent just trying anything at all just to get me to "work", as it were. But even then, it took about three months to finally get anything to happen for me manually, and then another month once we started having sex.
And all those times that nothing was happening, and I could see the disappointment on my boyfriend's face like he was doing something wrong, or that I just wasn't interested? That hurt like hell, made me feel ashamed because why couldn't I perform a biological action that human beings were programmed to do?
And then I found out that it's a muscle memory that needs to be learned. So the combination of starting early on myself and the time and effort we put into it as a couple was what helped me feel great pleasure during sex. That's the kind of lesson they should teach, especially to girls but also to guys. That it's not an instant gratification sort of thing. That it will take time, and practice, and effort, and it may even take a few months to get it to work right. In my opinion, it just might help more women enjoy sex. And as an added bonus, it may also help them to identify when a guy is in it just for his own pleasure, so that they can properly kick his ass to the curb.
TL;DR: We need to overhaul sex ed courses; they're useless and uninformative.
To some degree. As it stands, sex ed is more or less useless in my opinion. A teacher stands up, says that masturbation is normal, maybe rolls a condom onto a banana, and then goes back to teaching a normal class. However, I've known people (who had taken sex ed courses) who still had no idea how to actually go about the act of coitus. I've known people (even girls) who thought that the clitoris was useless and vulgar. I've known people who had absolutely no clue how to use contraceptives to avoid pregnancies or protect themselves from STDs. A lot of men I've known have been positively mystified by the vagina and had no clue how to deal with it. Even after supposedly being educated on the subject, a large number of people I've known had no clue as far as sex and sexuality are concerned.
So should they teach you how to properly get your partner off? No, I don't think so. But should they actually go into greater detail on anatomy and the mechanics of actually having sex? Yes. For the sake of sexual safety at the very least, kids should know BEFORE they start getting it on how to do so without screwing things up, getting pregnant or infected, hurting someone, etc. Granted, it's a difficult position to take (how do you explain to protective parents why your teaching their precious children how to have sex?), but I believe that it's a necessary one.
The problem arises with America's stance on sexuality (if you're not from the US, bear with me here, or just skip onto to a more interesting/relevant post). We, as a culture, glorify sex--in particular women's bodies--but are terrified to actually talk about it openly. It's only very rarely that I've had open discussions with people about the subject (as a man, I can count on one hand the number of women I've talked with candidly about human sexual anatomy). America needs to get over its fears and stop treating sex as a taboo--it's something that just about everyone is going to face/deal with in their lives; an open discussion can only serve to help. Instead, we treat sexuality like this [http://satwcomic.com/it-s-complicated]. Come on, people. Grow up. We've all got genitalia and we all want to use them--so let's face that like adults and talk about it. It'll do us all good.
To some degree. As it stands, sex ed is more or less useless in my opinion. A teacher stands up, says that masturbation is normal, maybe rolls a condom onto a banana, and then goes back to teaching a normal class. However, I've known people (who had taken sex ed courses) who still had no idea how to actually go about the act of coitus. I've known people (even girls) who thought that the clitoris was useless and vulgar. I've known people who had absolutely no clue how to use contraceptives to avoid pregnancies or protect themselves from STDs. A lot of men I've known have been positively mystified by the vagina and had no clue how to deal with it. Even after supposedly being educated on the subject, a large number of people I've known had no clue as far as sex and sexuality are concerned.
So should they teach you how to properly get your partner off? No, I don't think so. But should they actually go into greater detail on anatomy and the mechanics of actually having sex? Yes. For the sake of sexual safety at the very least, kids should know BEFORE they start getting it on how to do so without screwing things up, getting pregnant or infected, hurting someone, etc. Granted, it's a difficult position to take (how do you explain to protective parents why your teaching their precious children how to have sex?), but I believe that it's a necessary one.
The problem arises with America's stance on sexuality (if you're not from the US, bear with me here, or just skip onto to a more interesting/relevant post). We, as a culture, glorify sex--in particular women's bodies--but are terrified to actually talk about it openly. It's only very rarely that I've had open discussions with people about the subject (as a man, I can count on one hand the number of women I've talked with candidly about human sexual anatomy). America needs to get over its fears and stop treating sex as a taboo--it's something that just about everyone is going to face/deal with in their lives; an open discussion can only serve to help. Instead, we treat sexuality like this [http://satwcomic.com/it-s-complicated]. Come on, people. Grow up. We've all got genitalia and we all want to use them--so let's face that like adults and talk about it. It'll do us all good.