Poll: Pressure for dancing

[The Almighty Aardvark]

Believe it or not this was spurred by a post in Vault101's "graphics are important" thread.

Spoiler: if anyone's curious

I feel really bad for you guys. I'm able to enjoy any game that has graphics that sufficient convey to me what's going on.

On the bright side some of you probably "get" dancing.

I guess your lucky

and no...I don't "get" dancing....in fact what I don't "get" is:

"hey! she isn't dancing, she must be really sad and she's probably really shy and needs somone to coax her out of her shell so she can dance and be happy!"

"yeah, I'm shy and I apreciate your thourght, I really do....BUT FUCK OFF AND STOP TRYING TO GET ME TO DANCE!"

I don't like dancing, or to put it more aptly, I don't feel the appeal. People can, and have often, explained to me why they enjoy it. I'm definitely not saying that they shouldn't, I just find it pointless and don't get any enjoyment out of flailing around to music (I actually like watching other people dance, so I do get the artistic appeal).

With my ramble about my opinions on dancing out of the way, one thing I've noticed is that people will just not accept the fact that I get no enjoyment out of it. Whenever I'm at some sort of party, or wedding or any occasion where people are supposed to dance I am almost always berated for not wanting to. People typically say things along the lines of "You need to come out of your shell", or are outright insulted that I won't dance. The latter happened at a wedding recently. Often I'll capitulate and actually dance, but I still get no enjoyment out of it and spend the whole time trying my best to make myself look like everyone else who's actually into it. Something that's supposed to be spontaneous and intuitive is REALLY hard to fake if you don't actually feel the desire to do it. I'd be fine just telling people I didn't want to if they didn't make me out as being disrespectful for it.

What I'm wondering if anyone else runs into this same problem, and how they deal with it. If you are one of those lucky people who happens to enjoy dancing, how do you react to the people who just don't get it?

Poll tagged on just for fun to see what percentage of people like dancing

 

[DJjaffacake]

If I'm sober, I feel incredibly conspicuous when dancing, so I find the best solution is to get drunk, at which point it becomes instantly very appealing. So I voted yes.

 

[IndomitableSam]

Only alone in my house with the blinds closed do I ever like dancing. >.>

 

[Able Seacat]

I can't dance and I get super self conscious but sometimes if the moments right and nobody cares what the hell everyone else is doing then it can be quite fun.

 

[burningdragoon]

(this belongs in off-topic)

No, I don't like dancing. At absolute best, I merely tolerate it. Slow dances are okay I guess, but there's not much to them, which is why. I don't really even like the frathouse grinding motion that I guess you could label as dancing even though that's mostly just letting the girl do whatever she does.

As for why? It just all feels awkward. Being the only person not dancing also feels awkward, but not as much.

 

[Phasmal]

Yeah but not with my boyfriend. He has two left feet, and steps on my feet even during slow dances. I sometimes think he does it on purpose.
So mostly when I'm dancing (which is usually at weddings), I'll dance with the kids or with my boyfriend's brother/friend or with the other girls.

Boyfriend is a stick-in-the-mud about dancing, but he's a grumpy drunk anyway. I'm much more of a happy drunk.

 

[The Almighty Aardvark]

(this belongs in off-topic)

No, I don't like dancing. At absolute best, I merely tolerate it. Slow dances are okay I guess, but there's not much to them, which is why. I don't really even like the frathouse grinding motion that I guess you could label as dancing even though that's mostly just letting the girl do whatever she does.

As for why? It just all feels awkward. Being the only person not dancing also feels awkward, but not as much.

*Sees I put it in gaming discussion*

Well damn

I can do slow dances, that's really the farthest I can usually go. Grinding? That would just make me feel so incredibly awkward, I would never even consider doing it.

Awkwardness is a part of my issue with dancing, but the biggest thing for me is that I just don't enjoy doing it.

 

[Nerexor]

Depends on the dancing. I think older types of dancing can be fun and enjoyable, they aren't even terribly difficult.

Club dancing on the other hand, is throwing yourself into a meat maze of gyrating and thrashy sweaty people and is not in the least bit fun. I do not get the appeal of that at all. I mean, sure, in theory you could end up surrounded by a bunch of hot gyrating members of the opposite sex, but that's not actually what happens. If you're a guy you get surrounded by other dudes and that is not all pleasant, and if you're a girl you get ground on by orange-tanned douchebags that look like b-movie aliens.

Maybe I'm just trying to say that I fucking hate clubs...