Since everything that can be said about your brother has been said, I'll take a slightly different view.Ramzal said:He has made no attempt to contact me, but my family members are trying to get him to do it. Some went as far as to give him my old phone number. But as far as I know, he hasn't tried.
And wow. 100% are saying to stay far far away. Here, I thought I could have been cruel. Or unforgiving in a sense. There went those thoughts. I'd like to tell them what happened, but the majority just go "I'm not trying to choose sides, but he's already told me what happened, so there's no need to hear it again." They have what I call "head in the sand/ass" syndrome.
I love sparring with people but beating the sense out of him... Well, if I had felt anything it was dissapointment and regret. I was dissapointed at him taking the first strike at me, (I thought he'd grown out of that) and I regretted the fact that I was brought to the point where I could have killed him and ruined my own life over one person being stupid. And the fact that if he would have done anything that I was sure I was going to die, I'd have to kill him left a bad taste in my mouth.Your brother sounds like he sees you as nothing more than a bank account. All of that "you'd turn on me? Your own brother?" bullshit is extremely hypocritical considering the fact that he came at you with a weapon, intending to kill you. Beating the crap out of him must have felt good.
Well, you're not wrong in being questionable about what type of person I am and it's not very douchie to ask. I've just been trying to think of what kind of person I am because I find that a hard question to answer. I don't think I'm a bad person by nature, but I've done wrong things before like everyone else. I don't like people who pick on people because they're smaller so I tend to step in when that happens, and I tend to leave people alone who lie or back talk and spread rumors like they're still in highschool. I try to help out whoever I can, if I can. Like, if I were walking past a homeless guy and I had some coffee and a donuts, I'd over him what's left of my food, but I won't give them money. As I don't know what they'll do with it.Owlslayer said:Wow. Seriously, that's... um. Damn.
Now i feel retarded for thinking that i had problems with my brother. But i was being totally silly about it, it seems.
I think you shouldn't deal with him anymore. Live your own life. You don't need people like that who just wreck shit up. Seems to me you've given him plenty of chances.
But i really hope you didn't write this biased. I mean, you have to have some pretty strong emotions about this matter, so I believe it's hard to write something 100% unbiased. But still, i find you to be right on the matter.
The only thing that made me think was that the room-mates wanted you out of there... were they truly like your brother? And you didn't really say anything about who you are, as in what kind of a person. I may sound mean, but maybe you're some sort of tough guy who often agitates his room-mates by being aggressive? Hell, i have no idea where I'm pulling this out of, and I'm pretty sure you're a nice guy. But i know for a fact that it's hard to see things trough the eyes of other people, and the more emotions there are in play, the harder it is to see the absolute truth.
Gah, i think I'm trying to look things on both sides, but it all seems so... i dunno, don't know the right word. Complicated? Both of you did have a really tough life, it seems.
Either way, you are correct. There's no denying that. That is what i would do. I wouldn't try to contact him ever again. I'm certain you've had loads of time to think over this matter.
You're doing the right thing.
Also, i hope writing this doesn't make me seem like a douche.
I'd say you seem to be quite a nice person. Of course, i can't be sure of this, but you don't really have any reason to lie, so I'll believe you. And most people would have done the same thing as you did, me including. Don't blame yourself over it, it wasn't a stupid mistake or anything like that. You had extra money, and a brother in trouble: there aren't a lot of people who wouldn't agree you did the right thing by helping him. Of course, this didn't end well, but you couldn't have known that. It's the thought that matters, and you wanted good.Ramzal said:Well, you're not wrong in being questionable about what type of person I am and it's not very douchie to ask. I've just been trying to think of what kind of person I am because I find that a hard question to answer. I don't think I'm a bad person by nature, but I've done wrong things before like everyone else. I don't like people who pick on people because they're smaller so I tend to step in when that happens, and I tend to leave people alone who lie or back talk and spread rumors like they're still in highschool. I try to help out whoever I can, if I can. Like, if I were walking past a homeless guy and I had some coffee and a donuts, I'd over him what's left of my food, but I won't give them money. As I don't know what they'll do with it.Owlslayer said:Wow. Seriously, that's... um. Damn.
Now i feel retarded for thinking that i had problems with my brother. But i was being totally silly about it, it seems.
I think you shouldn't deal with him anymore. Live your own life. You don't need people like that who just wreck shit up. Seems to me you've given him plenty of chances.
But i really hope you didn't write this biased. I mean, you have to have some pretty strong emotions about this matter, so I believe it's hard to write something 100% unbiased. But still, i find you to be right on the matter.
The only thing that made me think was that the room-mates wanted you out of there... were they truly like your brother? And you didn't really say anything about who you are, as in what kind of a person. I may sound mean, but maybe you're some sort of tough guy who often agitates his room-mates by being aggressive? Hell, i have no idea where I'm pulling this out of, and I'm pretty sure you're a nice guy. But i know for a fact that it's hard to see things trough the eyes of other people, and the more emotions there are in play, the harder it is to see the absolute truth.
Gah, i think I'm trying to look things on both sides, but it all seems so... i dunno, don't know the right word. Complicated? Both of you did have a really tough life, it seems.
Either way, you are correct. There's no denying that. That is what i would do. I wouldn't try to contact him ever again. I'm certain you've had loads of time to think over this matter.
You're doing the right thing.
Also, i hope writing this doesn't make me seem like a douche.
I'm also very direct and blunt. I tend not to beat around the bush, but I consider other peoples feelings when it comes to personal subjects. And I wouldn't say that I'm a tough guy, but I'm no push over. But as far as roomates go, I don't try to be aggressive with them unless my personal space or property has been invaded. The very fact that they were weed smokers, and I tolerated it says a lot I think. I hate drugs personally, but it's someone elses problem/solution if they try to use them. To each his own and they have a right to do with their bodies as they please.
I dunno. I guess I'm somewhere in the middle? I'm not a saint, that's for sure. I've done things that I know I have to answer for, like anyone else. But I don't believe I'm a bad person, or someone who just goes out looking for a problem like my brother does. In general, my outlook on things is to do good if I can. I got most of my personality from Spider-man comics as a kid. It may sound cheesy, but "With great power, comes great responsibility" always rang in my head.
It's mainly why I moved him off the streets in the winter and into my home, because with the income I was making, I had a good amount of extra money to the point that I was having sushi every day for lunch at work, and steak at least twice a week and paying all of my bills. And as far as he went, I felt that with that extra money, I could at least help him to be safe, and to help him not be so angry and helpless in his own life. I guess that's kinda silly/childish to go about things that way, but it felt like the right thing to do.
In general, I guess I'm pretty stupid when it comes to deciding if the result is worth the effort. But I -try- to do what I think is right as that's all I can do. So...yeah. I hope that answered that question. (Albiet that was a bit wordy. Sorry.)