I observe people a lot, when I'm eating at a restaurant or walking around a public place and something I've been thinking about lately is how little most women seem to react when they see someone that I think most people would consider attractive. Some might immediately respond by saying "duh" men are obsessed, blah blah.. But is it really that simple or is it that they just don't hide it as well?
In general it's much easier to tell when a man really thinks someone is attractive than when a woman find someone attractive. A guy may stare too much, or obviously check out someone's butt or breasts. But I very rarely see a woman do a double take at someone or obviously check out a someone's ass or something like that. Or even show a more pronounced smile or a change of their voice like a man sometimes will.
I don't know how it is for women, but for men, everyone woman you see is immediately evaluated in overall attractiveness. It's a non optional reflex, like reading. You can't just look at a word and choose not to read it, it just happens. And when you know to look for it, it can often be seen when you watch other people interact. When you see an attractive woman walk through a public area, instead look at the people nearby especially those in a position to more casually check her out without it being obvious. You'll probably note how the guys check her out if they think it's subtle. Even females, those that I presume to be heterosexual, seem to check out other women more than I notice them reacting to a man.
And in places like restaurants if you watch a woman their eyes seem to wander to the surrounding people less than a mans.
The few lesbian women I've known, often behaved like straight men when it came to oogling a woman - when among friends. The several gay men I've known were often the most vulgar and/or obvious when it came to oogling, even among just acquaintances.
Personally I think most women are just as much (or nearly so) as big of perverts as men are - they usually just won't admit it, even to themselves. I've seen and heard many a woman swoon over a guy in a movie. The reaction of the ladies in the theater when they thought Loki was dead in Thor 2? Wow.
So, what do you think? Are women genuinely less affected and interested in the physical attractiveness of others than men? Or do they just hide it better? Or maybe they always just save it until they "go to the bathroom" in groups or when they're out of the public environment.
In general it's much easier to tell when a man really thinks someone is attractive than when a woman find someone attractive. A guy may stare too much, or obviously check out someone's butt or breasts. But I very rarely see a woman do a double take at someone or obviously check out a someone's ass or something like that. Or even show a more pronounced smile or a change of their voice like a man sometimes will.
I don't know how it is for women, but for men, everyone woman you see is immediately evaluated in overall attractiveness. It's a non optional reflex, like reading. You can't just look at a word and choose not to read it, it just happens. And when you know to look for it, it can often be seen when you watch other people interact. When you see an attractive woman walk through a public area, instead look at the people nearby especially those in a position to more casually check her out without it being obvious. You'll probably note how the guys check her out if they think it's subtle. Even females, those that I presume to be heterosexual, seem to check out other women more than I notice them reacting to a man.
And in places like restaurants if you watch a woman their eyes seem to wander to the surrounding people less than a mans.
The few lesbian women I've known, often behaved like straight men when it came to oogling a woman - when among friends. The several gay men I've known were often the most vulgar and/or obvious when it came to oogling, even among just acquaintances.
Personally I think most women are just as much (or nearly so) as big of perverts as men are - they usually just won't admit it, even to themselves. I've seen and heard many a woman swoon over a guy in a movie. The reaction of the ladies in the theater when they thought Loki was dead in Thor 2? Wow.
So, what do you think? Are women genuinely less affected and interested in the physical attractiveness of others than men? Or do they just hide it better? Or maybe they always just save it until they "go to the bathroom" in groups or when they're out of the public environment.
