Poll: Question to women.

[Deadman Walkin]

I am curious what women look for in a guy. My girlfriend and most of my friends who happen to be girls think that guys should be more emotional. While on the other hand I know girls who love the big strong/manly "man" rather than the feely kind of guy.

So what do YOU prefer (if we have any gay men feel free to participate, I am not here to discriminate!)

 

[Curiosity's Cat]

So it's either/or, between strong and emotional.

I don't think the two are mutually exlusive. My boy is more than comfortable talking about his feelings when he needs to. At the same time, he's not a stereotypical new age guy or anything. He'll stand by what he believes in with a minimum of drama and is a rock for his friends and family, but he doesn't have to be a stoic macho guy to do that. Why is it hard to believe a man can be strong AND open with his feelings?

 

[Nazulu]

Oh look a cat! The only reasonable answer.

 

[Adfest]

They will all say "sensitive, sense of humor, respect for women", but what they really mean is "wealthy, novelty, or physically attractive".

 

[Delicious]

Oh look a cat! The only reasonable answer.

Where?!

And just fyi: Girls like cats, not guys dressed up like cats. Learned this the hard way. Oh, and don't use staples to attach cat whiskers.

 

[Twilight_guy]

The results are in; what women want in man is: a cat.

Well, that would explain why I don't have a girlfriend.

 

[PurpleRain]

Sorry to bust your bubble guys:

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.96510?page=1

Mulitplying threads isn't cool. Search button. Just for next time. Kay?

 

[Sewblon]

Wow, abusive tied mix for first place of things that human males may be.

 

[Larenxis]

So uh, I already had a thread like this. It had a pretty obscure title I guess, so I understand not being able to find it, but it was pretty recent. Yep. *cough*

 

[Echo3Delta]

So it's either/or, between strong and emotional.

I don't think the two are mutually exlusive. My boy is more than comfortable talking about his feelings when he needs to. At the same time, he's not a stereotypical new age guy or anything. He'll stand by what he believes in with a minimum of drama and is a rock for his friends and family, but he doesn't have to be a stoic macho guy to do that. Why is it hard to believe a man can be strong AND open with his feelings?

Exactly. To be truly manly, a man must be in touch with his emotions. Control of them is necessary, but denial is taking it too far. As a Marine, I've got many "macho" qualities, and yeah, I think pretty highly of myself. But for everything, there is a season, and I know that showing and discussing emotion is very important in its proper place. I consider myself to be in touch with my feminine side, and take pride in that. Sure girls prefer arrogant jerks in the short term, but the really good ones want and deserve the complete package.

 

[shazzbaa]

So, I am turned off by uber-"manly" men most of the time. If they are hot then it is simply a "oh, he is aesthetically pleasing." I was turned off by the only super-emotional guy that I got close to because I felt like his mother more often than not, or at best, an advisor or therapist, since he came to me with EVERYTHING and needed comfort and advice. I was happy to be that for him, but I didn't feel attracted to him.

I tend to feel most attracted to people who have some level of vulnerability without spilling their guts and asking me to patch them up.

But then I identify as asexual, so I'm probably a bad person to ask. XD