It depends. I refuse to respect intolerable people, and there are so many more of those than decent people.
I will choose both 1 and 2.
I will choose both 1 and 2.
Poll: Respect for others
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Treat people with respect until they prove otherwise. This doesn't require actually respecting them...which honestly, is something earned. But, that doesn't mean you need to treat people poorly just because they haven't yet earned your respect.
Individual respect is to be gained. But not respecting someone is not having no repsect for them. I cant stand expected respect. Be it for family, usually parents "You do NOT talk back to ME", and abusive authority figures.
I honestly thing that you cant "talk back" to a cop (which is too vague) is a bad thing. Mostly because any sort of argument counts.
I know atleast one cop who is unrespectable as family AND as a cop. (My bigot uncle)
I honestly thing that you cant "talk back" to a cop (which is too vague) is a bad thing. Mostly because any sort of argument counts.
I know atleast one cop who is unrespectable as family AND as a cop. (My bigot uncle)
2.
I rather give the benefit of the doubt until proven unworthy.
Respect is hard to gain, easy to lose.
I rather give the benefit of the doubt until proven unworthy.
Respect is hard to gain, easy to lose.
I have respect for the weirdest people, in life. Of course I respect my idols for everything they do, much like the rest of us, and I respect the people above me in life, as well. But I also respect the homeless people on the street, and the Christian person just trying to hand out bibles or pamphlets on the street corners (Not to be confused with bible thumpers...) just trying to help others with something that helped themselves.
I would have to say 1, though. I think you should prove that you're worthy of being seen with a high esteem, rather than just being given it from nothing.
I would have to say 1, though. I think you should prove that you're worthy of being seen with a high esteem, rather than just being given it from nothing.
I would sort of side with 2 if you replace the feeling of respect with indifference. I wouldn't use the word respect so lightly as to dole it out to casual acquiantences but a lack of respect doesn't mean I hold anything against them, I'm just of a nuetral disposition until they do something that puts them in a more favourable light in my eyes. So I guess I'm siding with 1.
I can't really decide between 1 or 2.
I tend to be too trusting of people who seem to have good intentions, even respecting them despite other people saying otherwise. In fact, I'd likely lose respect for the people badmouthing other people if they're too blunt about it until I start seeing first-hand proof that the person is indeed less worthy of respect than they put on.
On the other hand, if somebody or even a group of somebodies obviously cares more about their personal agenda and acts selfishly, I will be slower to respect them. Even if they were to somehow include me in that agenda, it would be too late and I'd take every kind word and gesture with a great deal of salt.
I tend to be too trusting of people who seem to have good intentions, even respecting them despite other people saying otherwise. In fact, I'd likely lose respect for the people badmouthing other people if they're too blunt about it until I start seeing first-hand proof that the person is indeed less worthy of respect than they put on.
On the other hand, if somebody or even a group of somebodies obviously cares more about their personal agenda and acts selfishly, I will be slower to respect them. Even if they were to somehow include me in that agenda, it would be too late and I'd take every kind word and gesture with a great deal of salt.
I try to grant no one any preferential bias over another. In that sense, I do not grant anyone respect as I feel the entire concept of respecting someone is poorly defined and inherently flawed. If someone I felt was an exemplar of traits I deemed valuable revealed that they also did things I feel worthy of condemnation, where would that leave my respect? Do I forgive them for the heinous acts they commit out of the notion that they also do good things? Or do I condemn them regardless? There are obvious benefits and detriments to both so the question becomes, to which do I defer, the greater good or the self?
In the end I attempt to maintain a level of neutral civility rather than let personal bias cloud my judgment.
In the end I attempt to maintain a level of neutral civility rather than let personal bias cloud my judgment.