I don't know if any of those builds could be called the REAL way to play Skyrim. There's fun in each. The power fantasy is easily rogue because of how game-breakingly (in a good "woohoo backstab, that never stops being funny" sort of way) overpowered it is. But there was much fun to be had as a character I played as kind of a goof, the tank "wannabe rogue." It worked well, heavy armor and 2 handed smashing implement, with no perks in sneaking. I'd level it up (for the exp) but without perks sneak has limited effect, so I'd get caught. "Aww they spotted me again..." tank, tank, cleave, cleave, cleave... "wheew, master thief reputation intact." Or when the level got higher and I could sneak up on one guy... "heh, I am the night" massive 2 handed skullcrush that could probably be heard 50 yds away and all enemies staring at the carnage in terror "aww, what gave me away." In it's own way that never stopped being funny either, and heavy armor tank is fairly overpowered as well.