Poll: Spanking vs Grounding

[DuctTapeJedi]

My mom used to make me write letters on why I was wrong, and she was infallible.

 

[Sarah Frazier]

It depended on what I did. Sneaking candies was a grounding. Not doing chores was a grounding. Talking back and making a scene was spanking.

 

[OniaPL]

No, because I was never grounded.

 

[PrimoThePro]

I never had the privilege of choosing a punishment. I got what I deserved!

 

[loc978]

Punishments should not be put on a barter system. A good part of their effectiveness comes from the realization that, by doing wrong, the one punished relinquished control of their life.

 

[KaosuHamoni]

Both are absolutely retarded punishments and any parent who has even a remote understanding of basic education mechanics won't apply them.

A punishment that does not require a child to understand the reason it is punished for, isn't worth anything.

You are spot on.

Spanking is nothing more than violence and groundings today are a joke considering the internet, cable, console and all that other crap we as parent buy to our kids. Most kids today see it as a punishment to get kicked outside though. A cut in allowance or a financial compensation if the kid has a job is something they understand. Funny enough much like the real world money has the final word.

There are so many things wrong with fysical punsihment towards kids i don´t know where to begin.
Fortunally you go to jail for it where i live. And if i see you spank a kid, im gonna call social sevices on you´re ass soooooo fast.
Sry for gramma.

Actually, for me a grounding involves being banned from the computer, my iPod, the Internet, my music collection, the TV (whether it is mine or not), my consoles, and being allowed out. The only things I can do, are read, draw, and sleep. So don't make sweeping generalisations about parents and their techniques.

Edit: In fact, in extreme cases I have even had to cook for myself, wash my own clothes, and have been restricted to my room and the toilet. I was 13 the last time it happened.

 

[pat34us]

Both are absolutely retarded punishments and any parent who has even a remote understanding of basic education mechanics won't apply them.

A punishment that does not require a child to understand the reason it is punished for, isn't worth anything.

You are spot on.

Spanking is nothing more than violence and groundings today are a joke considering the internet, cable, console and all that other crap we as parent buy to our kids. Most kids today see it as a punishment to get kicked outside though. A cut in allowance or a financial compensation if the kid has a job is something they understand. Funny enough much like the real world money has the final word.

There are so many things wrong with fysical punsihment towards kids i don´t know where to begin.
Fortunally you go to jail for it where i live. And if i see you spank a kid, im gonna call social sevices on you´re ass soooooo fast.
Sry for gramma.

There are already topics about spanking vs other punishments, lets try to stay on topic.

 

[Gudrests]

Is it too much to do both? It was my experience that both were involved.

yeah...I "as the middle child" got my ass whooped before I did anything wrong "then if i did something wrong" i would get beat and then punished....

 

[jonnosferatu]

I was spanked - very rarely grounded.

I had issues that may or may not have been related to this while I was a teenager, but now that I'm no longer living with my parents I'm pretty happy with the way they raised me.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

I've said it and I'm going to say it always. If you want the use spanking as a way to discipline your children then I want to use cutting as a way to discipline my children.

 

[pat34us]

Yes. I would rather be spanked than grounded. I got completely grounded for a year once. I would rather have had a spanking and gotten it over with. A few seconds of pain and then 5 minutes of numbness vs. 1 year of complete and utter boredom? What would you pick? I was never given the choice; for this reason, grounding was usually more effective after about 5th grade.

A year is a long time, what did you do? My example is above a few posts.

 

[nofear220]

I was spanked - very rarely grounded.

I had issues that may or may not have been related to this while I was a teenager, but now that I'm no longer living with my parents I'm pretty happy with the way they raised me.

Parents need to beat their kids more often. My friend's little brother has friends that are complete little shits who obviously haven't ever been punished in their life...

Spoiler

 

[shaboinkin]

I got both spanked and grounded at the same time. So my input wouldn't really matter lol

 

[jonnosferatu]

I was spanked - very rarely grounded.

I had issues that may or may not have been related to this while I was a teenager, but now that I'm no longer living with my parents I'm pretty happy with the way they raised me.

Parents need to beat their kids more often. My friend's little brother has friends that are complete little shits who obviously haven't ever been punished in their life...

Spoiler

In the event that you're being sarcastic, I feel the need to point out that there's a difference between beating and administering fair physical punishment.

 

[Ampersand]

I'm pretty sure if you requested a caning in stead of jail time, you'd be held in contempt of court.

On a serious note I think spanking is a terrible way of disciplining children, it teaches them to think that you should respond to disagreements with physical violence and that's not ok.

 

[Giantpanda602]

I was never really grounded. My parents generally just didn't do that.

 

[falcon1985]

This whole topic seems odd to me, because my parents never grounded me. Spanking worked just fine, and I believe I am better off because of it.

So many parents shy away from corporal punishment these days it's sickening. My mom has worked at an elementary school for 14 years and she can almost instantly tell the kids who are spanked from the kids who are not.

For example, there was once a third grader who was brought in by his mother every day. And every day he would throw a fit and refuse to come into the building. His mother did nothing to help them get him in. So every day the rather muscular P.E. instructor would have to literally DRAG the kid into the building. The school counselor was always present to be witness so they could prove no abuse was occurring. He would only calm down when they finally got him to the classroom.

But every once in a while his dad would bring him in. As it turns out, the two were separated. And whenever his dad brought him in, he was perfectly happy and behaved just fine.

So one day my mom asks him about this. The dad explains that when he's with his mother, she lets the boy do whatever he wants. She tries to put him in time outs, but they do nothing and he just gets right up and goes back to what he's doing. But whenever he's with his dad, his dad makes him mind and spanks him when he refuses to listen.

I do believe there is a world of difference between punishment and abuse. However, I also believe that corporal punishment is a viable and effective option when all else fails.

I hope everyone that says spanking is abusive reads your post - you've given a good real world example, and all the people who are against spanking have, what? The word of a psychologist somewhere who has never had kids? It was effective on me and my brother, and it's been effective for thousands of years. Why should modern kids be any different?

Totally agree. I've had my ass handed to me by both my parents, and I thank them for it. God help me if I turned into one of those little shits I see around every day. (or the one descibed in that story for that matter.)

At the end of the day, a good spanking works. The only condition is that it stops at a spanking, and doesn't turn into a beating.

 

[DarkRyter]

Punishment through emotional neglect works.

"Dad, I made straight A's!"

"Oh, I'm sorry. I was too busy not giving a fuck."

 

[v3n0mat3]

I never considered asking for one over grounding. Grounding sucks, though.

 

[velcrokidneyz]

I had both at the same time when i was younger. It worked for me