That's level two right? I still think that whole scale is a bit ridiculous, though. Obscure psychology reference ftw!Exterminas said:
Poll: Spanking vs Grounding
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I got a light cuff if I was doing anything stupid. Didn't hurt, but it got my attention. I was lucky enough to where my parents would explain where I was going wrong and what the consequences of my actions would have been. I rarely actually got grounded, but, when I did, it was normally for something that deserved much worse.
I turned out fine.
I turned out fine.
Never been spanked, never been grounded.
I was disciplined in my early years, 1-6, so never really misbehaved after that. The problem now is parents dont set bounderies and therefor you get a little shit of a child. If you have clear bounderies from day one, a kid will rarely break them.
And another thing is, that children in a certain age 0-3 actually needs to be educated like a dog. A child that age dont understand if you talk to them why its wrong to hit another child, but if you yell out "AHAH" then the child will stop - just like a dog. Goes both ways, if a child does something good and you give them positive feedback, they will keep being good. This have worked for me and my siblings. None of us, have ever done anything really stupid.
I was disciplined in my early years, 1-6, so never really misbehaved after that. The problem now is parents dont set bounderies and therefor you get a little shit of a child. If you have clear bounderies from day one, a kid will rarely break them.
And another thing is, that children in a certain age 0-3 actually needs to be educated like a dog. A child that age dont understand if you talk to them why its wrong to hit another child, but if you yell out "AHAH" then the child will stop - just like a dog. Goes both ways, if a child does something good and you give them positive feedback, they will keep being good. This have worked for me and my siblings. None of us, have ever done anything really stupid.
Is that a new avatar? Because you've got >7k posts and I've never seen that avvy before...Naheal said:
And spanking is illegal in New Zealand now, so people are FORCED to ground in this situation xD
Parents never hit me, and it's kind of difficult to follow through with grounding if you have no way to stop them going out.
I was rarely grounded. Mainly because it's hard to keep a kid grounded for a long time without them finding a way to weasel out of their grounding or without them finding a way to have fun when they're grounded.
Always spanked. I preferred it that way because then I could tear up, go outside and play again.
Always spanked. I preferred it that way because then I could tear up, go outside and play again.
I disagree, I was smacked as a child and it taught me right from wrong. And I have absolutely no hesitation in saying that I would treat my own kids the same way when I have children, smacking them when they're naughty (and rewarding them when they're good, of course). It's how I was raised, and I turned out alright, which is saying something given the sort of kids I was exposed to and had to hang around with as a child (worse than chavs, for the record...).Exterminas said:
And on that note, OP, I wouldn't exchange grounding for spanking, because I was spanked as a child anyway, so there...
I don't know how psychology views that stuff. But I think aristotele wrote about that in the nicomanic ethics, that's were I got it from.SuperMse said:
No grounding in my house. It was always ineffective when it was attempted. Mostly, me and my brothers got a good *THWACK* on the rear with a wooden cooking spoon or leather belt.
No damage or harm, just a nice little sting to help you remember.
No damage or harm, just a nice little sting to help you remember.
My parents have some intelligence, i was never punished with force - But learned right from wrong with love.
Thats the way i think parents should act, hitting your loved ones is a horrible thing.
Thats the way i think parents should act, hitting your loved ones is a horrible thing.
No way, my mom would break out THE WOODEN SPOON when my sister and I were being shits.Ampersand said:
Sometimes seeing it would be enough to get us to smarten the hell up.
And would you believe it, Ive never been in a fight in my life.
Though I did have a hard time thinking of those things as a cooking utensil until I was in my teens, but thats about the only way it fucked me up.
This only works for infractions in which the natural consequences have already been achieved. How would you have a punishment like this for a breaking a rule of, say, not crossing the street alone? Obviously allowing the child to experience the natural consequence is out of the question so you have to create an artificial punishment. In this case a grounding (or permutation thereof) with an explanation is the best you can hope for. (physical punishment, however, is always a bad idea)Exterminas said: