Well I'm pretty sure its because I'm lonely. Very little friends and no relationships for the past.. 6 years or so kinda eats away at me sometimes.Loop Stricken said:
Poll: Stalking.
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It doesn't really go well for me when I meet up with someone after awhile and strike up a conversation. It usually involes me stammering and stuttering a lot and spitting when I talk and saying all kinda of stupid neurotic stuff. And with all this going on in my head I'd probably end up a social pariah afterwards.SugarMama said:
You are definitely insane. Then again, we are all insane in our own ways.
In all seriousness: Breaking in to a festival for no reason other than to meet somebody is not a good idea. Desperation doesn't make people like you, so even if he does like you, stalking him and breaking into a festival you found out he would be at will ruin it.
In all seriousness: Breaking in to a festival for no reason other than to meet somebody is not a good idea. Desperation doesn't make people like you, so even if he does like you, stalking him and breaking into a festival you found out he would be at will ruin it.
I don't really expect it to go well, I'm just kinda desperate and for some incredibly dumb and pathetic reason I think that being able to see him would make me feel better, and its not like I'd make a habbit out of it.. not really making this sound any better, am I?high_castle said:
Its just I don't do normal conversations well so one in this situation would not end well for me, short of me just holding up a sign with pre written questions and answers, and that would probably get awkward after awhile.
Some people would find that endearing. Some people long for the day when something so fantastic would happen to them.milskidasith said:
Lets clarify stalking, if your just going someplace you hope they will be in hopes of running into them, thats not really stalking.
if your sitting outside their home, workplace, bf/gfs house, following them around, calling them constantly, your getting into stalking territory for sure.
noone gets turned on by being stalked period, its creepy, its co dependent, its psychotic, contact the person ask to go out for a drink or to eat get the lay of the land put your cards on the table and find out what going on period. if they not interested get over it, move on 6 billion people in the world you can find someone is interested.
if your having urges to stalk people period, get professional help or get rid of those ideas period, your just going to alienate people, maybe get in trouble with the law, or really go off the deep end and end up in jail, or hurting yourself or others.
if your sitting outside their home, workplace, bf/gfs house, following them around, calling them constantly, your getting into stalking territory for sure.
noone gets turned on by being stalked period, its creepy, its co dependent, its psychotic, contact the person ask to go out for a drink or to eat get the lay of the land put your cards on the table and find out what going on period. if they not interested get over it, move on 6 billion people in the world you can find someone is interested.
if your having urges to stalk people period, get professional help or get rid of those ideas period, your just going to alienate people, maybe get in trouble with the law, or really go off the deep end and end up in jail, or hurting yourself or others.
That's my idea of fun, to be honest.cerebus23 said:
What about the next best thingm hanging around the places you know they frequent online, talking to people to gather information on where their real life takes place?cerebus23 said:
Funny story - I've just checked the Facebook page of the first girl to have 'inspired' these feelings in me. She still lives in my city. it's been months since I checked her FB page - we're not friends, no that would BE TOO EASY. Now I feel all... weird.
Not to be awkward or anything, but...do you know if he is gay/bi? Because thats the difference between me telling you to tell him strait up, or forget about him and find someone else.
Well I was thinking about sitting outside his home like a giant cliche, afterall I do know where he lives.cerebus23 said:
I didn't vote in the poll, but I just wanted to say from second hand experience that the person you stalk is never the person that you're stalking. Or, to make it slightly more clear, the person that you think you're stalking isn't anything like the person that you end up meeting. You end up making up a complete person that doesn't exist, and when you find out, you're heart broken. You'll ruin any chance of friendship that you had, and some people go even further.
I don't think you're the type to go further then heartbreak, but I would spare you that if I could. My friend (and really my friend, not the "my friend is spiderman" type friend) from highschool had a crush on this girl. Everyday he'd practically dissolve my ears crying about the cruelties of life that kept them apart and how his life was meaningless without her, ect. He had dreams about entire lives with her, thought about her every waking moment, and was really jealous that I saw her with only a bra on once. It was kind of like a Shakespeare play but with only one actor and rather boring. Eventually he went up and spoke with her and found out that she wasn't anything like he thought she would be. He then spent the REST of highschool telling me about that and how much it sucked. I was never so glad that he got married, lol.
But my point is, you can spare yourself alot of pain and heartache now if you just go and talk to the person. I can tell you from first hand experience that sitting around and waiting will do nothing. I liked this girl from my church and spent most of my days doing what you are now, and I actually might have had a shot with her...but she moved away. So, take a chance now, and save yourself some heartbreak in the end. You never know, you just mind find out that you were made for each other.
I don't think you're the type to go further then heartbreak, but I would spare you that if I could. My friend (and really my friend, not the "my friend is spiderman" type friend) from highschool had a crush on this girl. Everyday he'd practically dissolve my ears crying about the cruelties of life that kept them apart and how his life was meaningless without her, ect. He had dreams about entire lives with her, thought about her every waking moment, and was really jealous that I saw her with only a bra on once. It was kind of like a Shakespeare play but with only one actor and rather boring. Eventually he went up and spoke with her and found out that she wasn't anything like he thought she would be. He then spent the REST of highschool telling me about that and how much it sucked. I was never so glad that he got married, lol.
But my point is, you can spare yourself alot of pain and heartache now if you just go and talk to the person. I can tell you from first hand experience that sitting around and waiting will do nothing. I liked this girl from my church and spent most of my days doing what you are now, and I actually might have had a shot with her...but she moved away. So, take a chance now, and save yourself some heartbreak in the end. You never know, you just mind find out that you were made for each other.
I'm pretty sure he's bi, not totally sure though but then it would be hard to be without asking him.MagicMouse said:
Aww, you've got it so easy! I don't know anything about... I was going to say "my target" then. That would be wrong, and bad.Disaster Button said:
I'm going to sleep now. Hope it works out for you, DB.
Alright, my first answer wasn't very good and I REALLY don't want anyone to be hurt in this situation so here go's my best.Disaster Button said:
There is no point in going, OK? You don't have any tickets, so you need to break in. That's a long shot. Then, you need to find him, also a slim chance. Once you find him, you need to strike up a decent conversation. I don't see that really working either. And, if it did work, (which it won't) then what? Do you want to spend your entire life addicted to this one guy? Do you want him to take advantage of you? I wouldn't. Most people wouldn't.
What I'm saying is that you have a near 100% chance of finding someone new that understands and likes you if you look hard enough. And You have a near 0% chance of this ever working out. If it did, it probably wouldn't end well.
Just try and forget this guy, I'm not saying you have to right now, but gradually. There are other people in the world too.
I hope I could help.
I don't think that is the legal definition of stalking. Though it's definitly in the neighborhood. It's agressive, controlling, and not cool.
You could... oh, I don't know... CALL HIM!?
You could... oh, I don't know... CALL HIM!?
This seems like an incredibly context sensitive subject. If this is a sexual attraction thing and it's towards a guy seeing as you're also a guy, you'd most certainly want to make sure that he wouldn't be put off by an advance from the same sex, unless I misread the whole topic thing entirely (although if it's a heterosexual thing my next advice still applies):
Stalking doesn't work. At all. It shows that the stalker is not confident enough in him/herself to actually go up and talk to the other person in question, and it also tends to indicate someone who has a slight disconnection with reality/someone who wants absolute control. After all, if you never really ask someone, "Hey, wanna go out?" then you never really get an answer and the mind can make up whatever it wants to in regards to the other person (i.e. they seemed shy, that means they like me; they seemed nervous, that means they like me; they seemed scared, that means they like me; they gave me a restraining order, that means our love is too strong and they are too tempted by me). The mind has an odd way of compensating called justification.
Honesty is the best. Always. Stick with truth.
Stalking doesn't work. At all. It shows that the stalker is not confident enough in him/herself to actually go up and talk to the other person in question, and it also tends to indicate someone who has a slight disconnection with reality/someone who wants absolute control. After all, if you never really ask someone, "Hey, wanna go out?" then you never really get an answer and the mind can make up whatever it wants to in regards to the other person (i.e. they seemed shy, that means they like me; they seemed nervous, that means they like me; they seemed scared, that means they like me; they gave me a restraining order, that means our love is too strong and they are too tempted by me). The mind has an odd way of compensating called justification.
Honesty is the best. Always. Stick with truth.
Is the festival Slam Dunk by any chance?Disaster Button said:
anyways.
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2. Tread very carefully. If I were you, I'd strike up a conversation with him via facebook/msn/aim/generic-social-website to see if he's still up for a chat. then progress from there. I know it might not be what you want to do, but believe me, if it's ever gonna happen, you cannot attempt to force it.