Poll: The Harem Thread
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Narp. No way. The amount of work I would have to do to support a whole Harem, even with all my housework getting done for free, ain't worth it. Hell, just one who only helps out with a few housework jobs occasionally and supports herself and has her own apartment is barely worth the expense of all the gifts and dinners and nice cloths and body spray I wouldn't have to buy without just the one.
The potential ROI just isn't good enough.
The potential ROI just isn't good enough.
In today's world with all of its bills and mobile phones, where everyone believes they are special and owed something. No I don't think so.
If I was alive in the medieval world or any time prior to that then yes. Even then I think I'd settle with just the one when I got to thirty, give the rest of them a pension and a party bag.
If I was alive in the medieval world or any time prior to that then yes. Even then I think I'd settle with just the one when I got to thirty, give the rest of them a pension and a party bag.
Erm... is my harem also interested in each other?
You'd probably wouldn't call it a harem I guess but I could see the fun and advantage of a sort of mutual harem thingy, as long as it's not too big, filled with magical people who love each other and feel no jealousy, lack of attention or insecurity over any of that. That'd be cool, completely unrealistic I'd say but still cool.
But just a whole group only interested in me and all depending only on me for their romantic needs, that sounds like a special place in hell. Hell no to that.
You'd probably wouldn't call it a harem I guess but I could see the fun and advantage of a sort of mutual harem thingy, as long as it's not too big, filled with magical people who love each other and feel no jealousy, lack of attention or insecurity over any of that. That'd be cool, completely unrealistic I'd say but still cool.
But just a whole group only interested in me and all depending only on me for their romantic needs, that sounds like a special place in hell. Hell no to that.
Don't harem members usually hate each others guts? I don't know if I'd like to submit myself to be the focal point of a feud between a bunch of women.
Well in the fantasy land where such a thing can happen I would also decree that it's only ever fun, yes I would very much like to spend time there.
In the real world however relationships always come in two parts, first there is fun and afterwards there is maintenance and that maintenance kills things for me every time, maintaining multiple people every single day... that would be pure torture.
In the real world however relationships always come in two parts, first there is fun and afterwards there is maintenance and that maintenance kills things for me every time, maintaining multiple people every single day... that would be pure torture.
Does it have to be sexual?
Like, if I'm on the run in a forest, I'd shack up with 7 dwarves if I had the option.
Like, if I'm on the run in a forest, I'd shack up with 7 dwarves if I had the option.
Not a chance, way too stressful. I'd feel constantly pressured to try and give equal time/treatment to all. Even if I managed that, I would probably find myself gravitating towards one particular woman, which would result in an onslaught of guilt.
...Wait a sec, is that a loli?
...Wait a sec, is that a loli?
I'm pretty sure I couldn't handle one woman being interested in me, let alone a harem of them.
So no.
So no.
Harems, the way they're pictured in things like anime, are a fantasy concept. Life is more of a reality deal.
In my experience, any attempt to blend the fantastic with the realistic ends in misery.
As to whether I'd want one? Well, I see the appeal of the fantasy. It's reaffirming to have multiple people who accept you and find you desirable, after all, and a multitude of lovers stimulates the caveman portions of the psyche that associate sex with masculinity and power.
Still, there are a lot of real-world ramifications to the harem setup that feel like they would eventually end in tragedy. For one thing, aside from a little "shoujo-s" (uggh, I hate that concept) fanservice play between the members of a harem on occasion, they all invariably have eyes only for the main character to the exclusion of the rest of humanity. The main character, however, must remain non-commital for the harem format to work, giving teasing attentions to each girl without special thought to one above the others.
This is a non-equal level of devotion in the relationship, which means at some point or another hearts are gonna shatter.
On a less psychological level, when I first moved in with my girlfriend, the strain of living with someone new for the first time was already a bit of stress on the relationship until we got used to each other, and there was just one of her! the average harem has five members, daily life in that situation would be rough.
In my experience, any attempt to blend the fantastic with the realistic ends in misery.
As to whether I'd want one? Well, I see the appeal of the fantasy. It's reaffirming to have multiple people who accept you and find you desirable, after all, and a multitude of lovers stimulates the caveman portions of the psyche that associate sex with masculinity and power.
Still, there are a lot of real-world ramifications to the harem setup that feel like they would eventually end in tragedy. For one thing, aside from a little "shoujo-s" (uggh, I hate that concept) fanservice play between the members of a harem on occasion, they all invariably have eyes only for the main character to the exclusion of the rest of humanity. The main character, however, must remain non-commital for the harem format to work, giving teasing attentions to each girl without special thought to one above the others.
This is a non-equal level of devotion in the relationship, which means at some point or another hearts are gonna shatter.
On a less psychological level, when I first moved in with my girlfriend, the strain of living with someone new for the first time was already a bit of stress on the relationship until we got used to each other, and there was just one of her! the average harem has five members, daily life in that situation would be rough.
Well with all of those parameters in place, sure why not. It's all consensual, nobody is being coerced, and the attraction is both ways. So why wouldn't I? I personally have no qualms with a polygamous relationship, as the reasons our society is against it is basically religious, and fuck religion. So sure, bring on the harem. I would add a caveat of :
At least some of them have to share my hobbies and interests, so we can have fun doing other things besides nekked fun time. I mean, if they aren't fans of MST 3K, then we're gonna have problems.
At least some of them have to share my hobbies and interests, so we can have fun doing other things besides nekked fun time. I mean, if they aren't fans of MST 3K, then we're gonna have problems.
Well, I'm sure my opinion is known when it comes to harems.
So, no. One hundred, one million times no.
Even if I was forced, it would only be a harem for half a episode before it turns into the horror genre. Actually, that would be an anime I would like to watch. All of the harem stuff going on in the first episode, and BAM, the protagonist turns out to be some kind of terrible psychopath. Then it turns into a survival horror. Or heck, maybe the opposite way around, the girls want to kill him, and the protagonist kills them in self defence.
Japan should get on this.
I picked "maybe" option, because I don't know how I will react if something like this actually happens. However, I've pondered about this question a lot in the past and I came to a conclusion that, objectively speaking, harem has more downsides than upsides.
Firstly, the most obvious aspect, the physical one. If you have 2 women, then you'd want to have sex with both of them at the same time, otherwise what is the goddamn point? And I really REALLY doubt that I'd be able to sattisfy 2 women at the same time. This will probably lead to one of them being not sattisfied with the state of things.
Secondly, jokish argument. Whenever the time to make a deccision comes, their 2 votes will always outweight one yours. Eternal soapy romance movies hell awaits.
Thirdly, real talk. Even if they both are fine with it, you will probably not be able to pay equal amount of attention to both of them. This will lead to one of them feeling less significant, less loved. You don't want that to happen to your girl(s).
To conclude, I don't know how I will react to an actual opportunity, but I doubt that if I agree to this the three of us will have a happy ending.
Firstly, the most obvious aspect, the physical one. If you have 2 women, then you'd want to have sex with both of them at the same time, otherwise what is the goddamn point? And I really REALLY doubt that I'd be able to sattisfy 2 women at the same time. This will probably lead to one of them being not sattisfied with the state of things.
Secondly, jokish argument. Whenever the time to make a deccision comes, their 2 votes will always outweight one yours. Eternal soapy romance movies hell awaits.
Thirdly, real talk. Even if they both are fine with it, you will probably not be able to pay equal amount of attention to both of them. This will lead to one of them feeling less significant, less loved. You don't want that to happen to your girl(s).
To conclude, I don't know how I will react to an actual opportunity, but I doubt that if I agree to this the three of us will have a happy ending.
That is a thing(close enough thing), there is a manga for that. I can't speak for how well it's doing in Japan, but here we have barely 20 chapters translated. Can't even remember the name since I stopped reading it.StormShaun said:
Protagonist feels nothing towards women yet he's build a harem of a stalker, serial killer, and various other freaks and psychopaths.
Ok I will admit the idea of my own harem would probably boost my ego for the better (more confident in myself) especially when I had never fall in loved before let alone being in a relationship of any sort but it will still be a no for moral reasons.
My moral won't allow me to do it simply because I know I will feel guilty/ an arse for openly having interest in more than one woman. I believed that love is between two people or rather anymore will just complicate things (the love is share to more than one so it will be weak). Technically in the OP rules, it didn't take the other harem person have his/ her own haren two since why have it only focusing on us?
Even if the girls came into a agreement into "sharing" me, I will still feel uncomfortable about it since I wouldn't like the idea if they loved someone else or they have their own harem (polygyny I guess).
My moral won't allow me to do it simply because I know I will feel guilty/ an arse for openly having interest in more than one woman. I believed that love is between two people or rather anymore will just complicate things (the love is share to more than one so it will be weak). Technically in the OP rules, it didn't take the other harem person have his/ her own haren two since why have it only focusing on us?
Even if the girls came into a agreement into "sharing" me, I will still feel uncomfortable about it since I wouldn't like the idea if they loved someone else or they have their own harem (polygyny I guess).
As nice as the idea is, I'm an introvert. A harem would probably end up akin to my own personal hell rather than a dream situation. I mean, balancing the personalities involved, handling the amount of information required to maintain it, the sheer quantity of interaction with so many different people, no, it would simply be too much for me.
A simple, monogamous relationship is just fine for me.
A simple, monogamous relationship is just fine for me.