Poll: The Harem Thread
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Ok I will admit the idea of my own harem would probably boost my ego for the better (more confident in myself) especially when I had never fall in loved before let alone being in a relationship of any sort but it will still be a no for moral reasons.
My moral won't allow me to do it simply because I know I will feel guilty/ an arse for openly having interest in more than one woman. I believed that love is between two people or rather anymore will just complicate things (the love is share to more than one so it will be weak). Technically in the OP rules, it didn't take the other harem person have his/ her own haren two since why have it only focusing on us?
Even if the girls came into a agreement into "sharing" me, I will still feel uncomfortable about it since I wouldn't like the idea if they loved someone else or they have their own harem (polygyny I guess).
My moral won't allow me to do it simply because I know I will feel guilty/ an arse for openly having interest in more than one woman. I believed that love is between two people or rather anymore will just complicate things (the love is share to more than one so it will be weak). Technically in the OP rules, it didn't take the other harem person have his/ her own haren two since why have it only focusing on us?
Even if the girls came into a agreement into "sharing" me, I will still feel uncomfortable about it since I wouldn't like the idea if they loved someone else or they have their own harem (polygyny I guess).
As nice as the idea is, I'm an introvert. A harem would probably end up akin to my own personal hell rather than a dream situation. I mean, balancing the personalities involved, handling the amount of information required to maintain it, the sheer quantity of interaction with so many different people, no, it would simply be too much for me.
A simple, monogamous relationship is just fine for me.
A simple, monogamous relationship is just fine for me.
Conditionally, yes I would and a lot of it hinges on the first corollary, that everyone is a willing participant and wants to be there. It works out like the old days, less than five generations ago, where a man can have many wives (at least in my own culture, I reckon Occidental cultures have been monogamous for far longer). If they are willing to put in the effort of being a happy extended family, I would be content. Wish fulfillment aside, it was the way things worked for a long time and sure, having the love of multiple people would be a great thing. Yes it would be exhausting but in the end I think it would be worth it.
I mean, it WOULD be one step closer to being Fidel Castro, but without the systematic oppression of a country... Nah, sounds like too much effort.
Ok, there are really about 4 questions in "would you want a harem?"
1. Does sex with multiple partners at once appeal to you?
I don't know, maybe? I could try it, I guess. A threesome sounds interesting, but I am not sure how it would work out in practice.
2. Does access to several sexual partners appeal to you?
I am not sure about that one either. It sounds appealing on a purely physical level but sex is better when it is highly intimate, and I don't know if it would be possible to maintain a high level of intimacy (or more specifically if I could) with multiple partners. I would rather be highly intimate with one partner.
3. Would you enjoy developing emotionally intimate relationships with multiple partners?
Yes, this is easily the most appealing part of the idea.
4. Would you be willing to balance the complex social demands?
I would be willing to give it a shot. Relationships are lots of work, but it is something I enjoy.
Honestly I think I would prefer to be part of the harem. I'm not particularly interested in having a physical relationship with multiple partners (outside of the occasional threesome, which sounds interesting) but I wouldn't mind if my wife wanted to. Especially if I get to develop close relationships with the others in the harem. That sounds fun.
1. Does sex with multiple partners at once appeal to you?
I don't know, maybe? I could try it, I guess. A threesome sounds interesting, but I am not sure how it would work out in practice.
2. Does access to several sexual partners appeal to you?
I am not sure about that one either. It sounds appealing on a purely physical level but sex is better when it is highly intimate, and I don't know if it would be possible to maintain a high level of intimacy (or more specifically if I could) with multiple partners. I would rather be highly intimate with one partner.
3. Would you enjoy developing emotionally intimate relationships with multiple partners?
Yes, this is easily the most appealing part of the idea.
4. Would you be willing to balance the complex social demands?
I would be willing to give it a shot. Relationships are lots of work, but it is something I enjoy.
Honestly I think I would prefer to be part of the harem. I'm not particularly interested in having a physical relationship with multiple partners (outside of the occasional threesome, which sounds interesting) but I wouldn't mind if my wife wanted to. Especially if I get to develop close relationships with the others in the harem. That sounds fun.
Is not a large part of the appeal the bragging rights, showing off that you have lots of partners, rather than it actually being desirable in of itself?
Sure!
It's a harem. The last thing you would worry about would be hurting anybody's feelings.Callate said:
My personal belief says no.
But whatever float people's boats. I mean, if all parties involved can agree to it I see no problem with this.
But whatever float people's boats. I mean, if all parties involved can agree to it I see no problem with this.
Uh, yes. Of course.
The moral line between just being a 'playa and being a dirty polygamist, for me, is marriage or devoted relationship among many. Since it's all just about sex, and with the lack of control over those people, and them having their own autonomy, I take no issue with it. Harem me up!
The biggest problem I have with polygamy is the greed. Retention and emotional subjugation are bothersome. Leave some women for the rest of us dammit!
The moral line between just being a 'playa and being a dirty polygamist, for me, is marriage or devoted relationship among many. Since it's all just about sex, and with the lack of control over those people, and them having their own autonomy, I take no issue with it. Harem me up!
The biggest problem I have with polygamy is the greed. Retention and emotional subjugation are bothersome. Leave some women for the rest of us dammit!
Good lord no, that sounds like way too much work. Call me old fashioned but I'd much rather have just the one partner for love and sexytimes.
Sure... although, it would be in a Highschool Romance-kind of harem... and all my male friends would be crossdressing just like me...
*ahem* Other than that, it wouldn't always be romantic, but it would definitely be filled with FRIENDSHIPPING TO THE MAX!!!
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That last one is me [not] conforming to the fact that this definitely feels more fantasy than actual reality at this point...
From a "That'd be hot" standpoint? Sure.
From a realistic, buzzkill standpoint? Fuck no.
I mean, I can barely handle the emotional/physical needs of one person other than myself, let alone an entire group of people vying for my attention and time. It'd be kinda awful after the first week or so. Would just wind up feeling terrible because I couldn't really do what I wanted without having to consider the emotional state of X number of companions.
Just think of all the dates you'd have to go on per week.
All the sex sounds great, for a bit, but it'd just be fuckin' exhausting.
But, then, I'm the sort to give a damn about people so...if ya don't? It'd work out well.
From a realistic, buzzkill standpoint? Fuck no.
I mean, I can barely handle the emotional/physical needs of one person other than myself, let alone an entire group of people vying for my attention and time. It'd be kinda awful after the first week or so. Would just wind up feeling terrible because I couldn't really do what I wanted without having to consider the emotional state of X number of companions.
Just think of all the dates you'd have to go on per week.
All the sex sounds great, for a bit, but it'd just be fuckin' exhausting.
But, then, I'm the sort to give a damn about people so...if ya don't? It'd work out well.