Poll: The "One" Guy/Girl

[Rule Britannia]

Sorry if you thought this topic was something it wasn't

So then, who believes in "There's that one guy/girl for everyone"?

My Opinion
I think that on the basis that there a millions of people one person is bound to have very similar opinions, likes and dislikes etc. Although the chances of meeting this person are small. (I'm not saying it's impossible)

Note
---Oh and I'm working on the basis that "The One" speaks the same language as you---

EDIT-- There may be thousands that could be "the one", and yes it doesn't necassarily have to be based upon lots of common ground.

 

[Cherry Cola]

I wouldn't exactly define "the one" as someone that has similar opinions to you. I wouldn't define "the one" in any specific way at all, actually. When you find the one, you feel it. There's no check-list of requirements that can help you know. You just do.

 

[Ishadus]

I don't see why people limit it to just one person in this saying. With the billions of people in the world, there's likely thousands upon thousands that you can fall deeply in love with and build a great future together with.

 

[3AM]

I do think there is someone for everyone but not necessarily only one. Like you said, there are millions (billions) of people alive at the same time I am. To think only one of them could make me happy is a sad thought. Or worse, that I'm only able to make one other person happy. Most people fall in love more than once and each of those loves are valid.

 

[The_Yeti]

Some people choose to be alone, or are they meant to be? eh?

 

[Enrathi]

Some people choose to be alone, or are they meant to be? eh?

Maybe they're meant to choose to be alone.

 

[Fiz_The_Toaster]

Some people choose to be alone, or are they meant to be? eh?

Yeah that's pretty much my thoughts about the whole thing. So either they were meant to be alone or their special someone died somewhere and they are now screwed.

Christ that's depressing.

 

[Lord Devius]

I met someone online who shared similar opinions, thought processes, and habits with me, and we were really good friends for a long time. It was eerie how similar we were.

The creepiest similarity, though, was that I had a sister that was stillborn 3 years before I was born, and she had a brother that was stillborn 3 years after she was born. There's a 3-year age gap between us.

That's a series of ridiculous coincidences, I think.

Back on topic, it's very possible, with the wide range of issues to be opinionated on, that you're going to meet someone who you agree with on everything. It's likely going to be for different reasons, though.

 

[Bobbety]

Like others have said, it's hardly limited to one person. So I voted no but it's kinda both. It's just that someone who is "in love" might see the other person as the only possible one for them and (hopefully) it's not like they have a bunch of various other lovers.

 

[bladester1]

It is overly romantic to think that there is only one guy/girl out their for you. What if there is only one person in the world that is meant for you and you do something stupid that makes the relationship irreparable? Or say the person gets killed in an accident, you could never find true love. It would be awesome if there was this one guy/girl, but I think it means more to love someone because you chose too, not because of fate or destiny.

 

[RandallJohn]

Here's my theory:

Alice is absolutely perfect for Bob. Alice also happens to be perfect for Charlie. I think people have perfect matches, but it's definitely not a one-to-one thing.

 

[Chase Yojimbo]

There are to many infinite possiblities for us to consider that we will live long enough to find "The One". There are to many infinite possibilities for us to even percieve that we will keep that outlook for a time. I myself wished to be a father, have a family, white picket fence, basically everything that makes a father a father, but that outlook on life changed and now I percieve that I will not have time to have the life that I want. I have a lifetime of work ahead of me, and the music has to be faced that the life I wanted will not come to be if I wish to finish my work. It seems off to most, but it is something that I myself have chosen to do.

 

[garjian]

if personalities are subject to a normal distribution curve, then i suppose you could say that some are slightly better than others, right the way up to the single perfect one at the very peak, but the differences would be so minor in comparison to any within a standard deviation or two either way, so... based on that no... but then there are some people who dont want anyone, or people who dont care about any specific attributes... so even more no... so yeah, no...

 

[Chase Yojimbo]

How about "No" from an optimistic point of view?

I don't believe in "the one" but that's sort of a good thing because that means you can get together with anyone. That is, if they're willing to work with you.

I personally think that the idea of "There can be only one!" is rather destructive because then people get all paranoid that they AREN'T the one when shit hits the fan. No, it just means you have a problem you have to work out. And a good couple can work out almost anything.

The reason people get paranoid is because they see one little flaw and that flaw begins to grow. There is "One" person out there, but people like to think that perfect matches exist without fights. Fights exist as stress relievers IMO and people don't get that because most people are dolts who have been taught to look for perfection.

PERFECTION DESTROYED THE WORLD! lol.

 

[SckizoBoy]

I met someone online who shared similar opinions, thought processes, and habits with me, and we were really good friends for a long time. It was eerie how similar we were.

The creepiest similarity, though, was that I had a sister that was stillborn 3 years before I was born, and she had a brother that was stillborn 3 years after she was born. There's a 3-year age gap between us.

That's a series of ridiculous coincidences, I think.

That is... quite scary, after a fashion. Did you ever meet her at all?

OT: Yes, I believe there is 'that one girl/guy' (though that shouldn't bar one from being able to have more than one successful monogamous relationship), largely because I met mine, but no, we're not together, even though we were. Did we get on? You betcha. Were we compatible? Of course, in our own depressing way. Did we accept each other regardless of flaws? A study of the two of us would basically be a summary of the flaws of the human condition (I'm sure). Were we happy? ... no. Do I still love her? ... yes, much more than I should.

Someone slap me please...(!)

 

[GeorgW]

No. I've met two "the one" and lost both, so I'm very much hoping there are more out there.

 

[Doclector]

How about "No" from an optimistic point of view?

I don't believe in "the one" but that's sort of a good thing because that means you can get together with anyone. That is, if they're willing to work with you.

I personally think that the idea of "There can be only one!" is rather destructive because then people get all paranoid that they AREN'T the one when shit hits the fan. No, it just means you have a problem you have to work out. And a good couple can work out almost anything.

Indeed it's destructive.

With the "there can only be one" rule as you put it, a bunch of people get heads cut off, bad eighties special effects fly around, then countless sequels get made that no one cares about.

Personally, I think there may be a small group of people who are perfect for you. But they'll only get together with you if you look good enough for one of their standards. Meaning the search for such a one is destructive to everything else in your life, such could be the soul crushing blow night by night as everyone else gets together with someone one way or another and you start to realise you'll never quite be good enough for that "one" or for anyone.

And that my friends, is why I focus on film rather than go on a fools errand looking for a singular dot of good in a sea of stupidity.

 

[BreakfastMan]

I wouldn't think so. For some people they find one "The One", some people find multiple "The One". I think to say that there is just one for everyone is silly.

Also, there have been multiple "The Ones" but they all died.

Spoiler: Neo?

 

[moretwocents]

There might be, but they just happen to be so far away or right in front of our faces and we'll never be able to see them.

 

[Odbarc]

Some people won't want one person. They want to cheat or be polygamous. They have no 'one' person.
It's just as fair to say some people don't get to have anyone that suits them best. Real oddball types that no one wants. Like... fat ugly hunchbacks with a celebrity fetish.