Poll: The 'why' in Sexuality

[Ryan Minns]

Whats your sexuality? Straight

Do you think there is a Why too your Sexuality? Not really

Are we born this way? or does it just happen? or do are experiences Define our sexuality? Personally I believe if you change midway though life you were still born that way but something kept it hidden. Though a large traumatic event could change you a great deal

Have you ever been sexual Attracted to a member of the Same sex when you are not Homosexual? Never been attracted but that doesn't mean I can't see other men and know what others might be attracted to in them

 

[somonels]

I'm an aromantic/straight, but I find hot lesbian love to be the divinest of all. I have attraction towards some men, but not the sexual kind.

 

[The White Hunter]

I'm bi-sexual because I find both genders attractive and I've had experiences with both ranging from amazing to horrific.

If I have to say why; a combination of genetics and my own life experiences and general indifference to gender as a barrier for love.

 

[Iron Criterion]

I'm just going to wait here and see the ludicrous amounts of people claiming to be different.

 

[elvor0]

Straight, but dear god I can't stand all these trendy nu-age sexualities, you can be gay, bi, straight or asexual.

Labelling yourself as demi or pansexual just makes you look like a pretentious dick, regardless of the whole "gender blind" thing it's supposed to represent, if you're bi, you don't care which sex you sleep with; hence BI sexual, it's in the frikkin name, I don't care if you don't like the name Bisexual, you're still Bisexual regardless of what you decide you're called.

I myself tend not to fancy girls till I get to know them, as personality is a massive factor for me, but that doesn't make me some new sexuality (demi sexual in this case) or asexual, it still means I'm straight, I just have certain preferences for what I find attractive.

Otherwise I could make up all kinds of shit, "Oh I'm not straight, I'm geek-sexual/punk-sexual, I'm not going to conform to your labels!" When in fact all you're doing is labelling yourself something which fundamentally means the same thing as you're trying to avoid and just look like a dick because almost everyone has to fucking google or ask you what the hell you're on about.

On one of the other questions, David Tennent probably fills the "same sex attraction" niche, I wouldn't say I fancy him in a gay way, he's just...David Tennent, you all know what I mean.

I'm bisexual because I can derive romantic and sexual stimulation from both sexes. Not much else to it.

See, there we go this person gets it, damn your "Pansexuality"!

 

[Storm Dragon]

I don't understand gay guys. Lesbians, yes, but not gay men. The thing is, penises are ugly, all wrinkly and veiny. A straight woman makes sense, since they are genetically hardwired to find men attractive, but men aren't. Unless homosexuality is genetic in origin, in which case, it's in homophobes' best interests to support same-sex marriage and let natural selection do its thing.

As a precaution, I'd like to take the time that I am not anti-gay and am in favor of same-sex marriage. This post was primarily humorous in intent. Thank you and have a nice day.

 

[CrimsonBlaze]

I'm straight because I love women, I have always been attracted to women, my first love was a woman, and I picture myself marring a woman and starting a family with her.

That's pretty much it, I guess. I never had any interest/curiosity in 'experimenting' and I don't find men attractive in the slightest.

 

[MiriaJiyuu]

I'm a lesbian, plain and simple. I prefer men as friends, my best friend is male, and I would rather be with a woman in that sense than a man. There's no why, that's just the way my brain responds.

 

[The White Hunter]

Spoiler: Well, with the exception of this hunk

Magnificent specimen of a man xD

 

[elvor0]

I don't understand gay guys. Lesbians, yes, but not gay men. The thing is, penises are ugly, all wrinkly and veiny. A straight woman makes sense, since they are genetically hardwired to find men attractive, but men aren't. Unless homosexuality is genetic in origin, in which case, it's in homophobes' best interests to support same-sex marriage and let natural selection do its thing.

As a precaution, I'd like to take the time that I am not anti-gay and am in favor of same-sex marriage. This post was primarily humorous in intent. Thank you and have a nice day.

Y'know what?I'm straight and being as objective as is possible, I actually find penises less disgusting than vaginas, they still look pretty grim, but sexual organs in general prove that no loving god ever actually checked what he'd stuck down there or he was off his fucking face at the time. Personally I think there should just be another pair or tits down there, anatomy or practicality be damned!

Also, homosexuality is genetic in origin, gay animals (as in non-humans) are a normal thing in the wild.

 

[verdant monkai]

You are not born gay. Simple

The gay gene is a myth
Consider this if there was a gay gene, it would be passed on by the parents, like blue eyes black hair etc. However homosexuals cannot have kids and therefore cannot pass on any of their genes, to their offspring.

Let us assume there was a gay gene, it would have died out ages ago, because the homosexual would have only had same sex partners. Which would have resulted in no children.
So it is perfectly acceptable to say your sexuality is all in your head.

And for all of you religious people out there because I love you and you love me (at least the Christians should) I present this statement.
If God makes everyone and he hates homosexuality, (in the bible it is called an "abomination" punishable by death) why would he make you gay? Oh wait he wouldn't.

No I do not hate Gay people, I just think all sexuality is to do with the mind.

 

[elvor0]

You are not born gay. Simple

The gay gene is a myth
Consider this if there was a gay gene, it would be passed on by the parents, like blue eyes black hair etc. However homosexuals cannot have kids and therefore cannot pass on any of their genes, to their offspring.

Let us assume there was a gay gene, it would have died out ages ago, because the homosexual would have only had same sex partners. Which would have resulted in no children.
So it is perfectly acceptable to say your sexuality is all in your head.

And for all of you religious people out there because I love you and you love me (at least the Christians should) I present this statement.
If God makes everyone and he hates homosexuality, (in the bible it is called an "abomination" punishable by death) why would he make you gay? Oh wait he wouldn't.

No I do not hate Gay people, I just think all sexuality is to do with the mind.

I'm not sure there is a "gay gene" as such or at least not something so blunt, it's most likely something to do with the brain, which we still don't know too much about, however, that doesn't explain this

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_animals_displaying_homosexual_behavior

I mean, animals are bestial in nature, they don't have personalities like we do, they rely solely on instinct, so there must be something that predetermines your sexuality, because you certainly don't choose to be gay, I'm sure we'll figure it out in the future which could lead to all sorts of problems, but we'll cross that bridge in the future

 

[orangeban]

I'm asexual, though I still have a libido, I just don't care what people look like. I'd happily have sex with a robot, if they weren't all really, really creepy and uncanny valley-ish monstrosities. Plus, I'd be terrified they'd suddenly go into blender mode or something (*shudder*)

And I don't think there's a "why?" to me being asexual, I just am. Like that people just are straight, or just are pan, or whatever. I've not had any traumatic experience or anything, I just don't find people sexually attractive.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I consider myself to be a straight female but I have found myself being attracted to a few girls in the past. I have never pursued a same sex relationship so I am still unsure whether or not I am slightly bisexual, or if I am just confusing feelings of admiration or appreciation for sexual attraction.

 

[BiscuitTrouser]

Im straight. I dont think you can change your sexuality. Im pretty confident that for most its something you have at birth that is either repressed or under the surface that some discover later. Maybe its shaped for others by experiences.

Im certain it isnt a choice. And im certain that even if it was a choice it wouldnt matter anyway and the entire point of that, and this, is moot because it doesnt at all affect the rights of those who are gay. They deserve all of it no matter what it is.

 

[verdant monkai]

You are not born gay. Simple

The gay gene is a myth
Consider this if there was a gay gene, it would be passed on by the parents, like blue eyes black hair etc. However homosexuals cannot have kids and therefore cannot pass on any of their genes, to their offspring.

Let us assume there was a gay gene, it would have died out ages ago, because the homosexual would have only had same sex partners. Which would have resulted in no children.
So it is perfectly acceptable to say your sexuality is all in your head.

And for all of you religious people out there because I love you and you love me (at least the Christians should) I present this statement.
If God makes everyone and he hates homosexuality, (in the bible it is called an "abomination" punishable by death) why would he make you gay? Oh wait he wouldn't.

No I do not hate Gay people, I just think all sexuality is to do with the mind.

I'm not sure there is a "gay gene" as such or at least not something so blunt, it's most likely something to do with the brain, which we still don't know too much about, however, that doesn't explain this

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_animals_displaying_homosexual_behavior

I mean, animals are bestial in nature, they don't have personalities like we do, they rely solely on instinct, so there must be something that predetermines your sexuality, because you certainly don't choose to be gay, I'm sure we'll figure it out in the future which could lead to all sorts of problems, but we'll cross that bridge in the future

agreed. but there are scientists who have studied this in depth and they all say it is to do with environmental factors.

 

[Nickolai77]

I'm a straight hetrosexual male, but i'm comfortable enough to admit that on a couple of occasions in my life i've felt homosexual attraction, but not enough to identify myself as bisexual.

But all this categorisation and sub-categorisation of sexuality is starting to annoy me. Sexual orientation's a spectrum with the majority of mainly males and females falling on either extreme end of the sexuality spectrum and with a minority of others scattered in between or on opposite ends of the spectrum to which their sex would usually dictate.

It seems whenever humans want to make something scientific, we categorise and sub-categorise it the extreme.

In the past people didn't write about "being" straight or "being" gay- they only differentiated between homosexual and heterosexual acts, one could do either, if you were inclined.

 

[Something Amyss]

[its where idea's happen]

Just an aside, but please spell consistently. It's not so much good or bad that's the issue, but you manage to use like three different versions of the same word in the same context at point.

'your just born that way' [also i don't listen to most modern music so i was unaware of the Lady Gaga song'] i wasn't sold on this either, because if you have certain experiences with a gender you might end up hating that gender. As far as i know people aren't born with hate, so i was really against the wall trying to figure it out.

Aside 2: I hate that song. "Hey guys, I have gay fans so I'll make the most perfunctory LGBT song I possibly can!"

Okay, now down to the beef. The logic here is specious. one can hate a sex and still be attracted to them. Hell, if every misogynist was gay, the species would have died out a long time ago.

but i was Straight only 4 years ago, i found gay stuff and by that i mean like 'Erotica' kind of 'unappealing' if you get me. I did and still do believe in Gay rights and stuff i just didn't really wanna see Erotica in action.

Sounds more like denial or repression, and I'm a firm believer in Occam's Razor. In this case, the fewest extraneous steps is that nothing's changed but your perception or self-awareness.

Whats your sexuality?

bisexual, pansexual, whatever. I don't really care about the gender of the people I like any more than I like labels in general.

Do you think there is a Why too your Sexuality?

I spent years trying to not be "that way," to no avail. I can't help but believe it to be inborn.

Are we born this way? or does it just happen? or do are experiences Define our sexuality?

I don't doubt some experiences influence us somewhat, but to say they define them? Science says no. To some extent, logic says no.

 

[RustlessPotato]

Straight, because boobs basically. Also, i'm allergic to alliteration *A CHOUM !!*

I don't really know the why. Sometimes there is no "why". Why is that mountain here is as nonsensical is Why are you straight. The only "why" we could answer could be in terms of genetic research or something like that. That's more of a "cause" and not really a "why".

But mostly boobs.

 

[BiscuitTrouser]

You are not born gay. Simple

The gay gene is a myth
Consider this if there was a gay gene, it would be passed on by the parents, like blue eyes black hair etc. However homosexuals cannot have kids and therefore cannot pass on any of their genes, to their offspring.

Let us assume there was a gay gene, it would have died out ages ago, because the homosexual would have only had same sex partners. Which would have resulted in no children.
So it is perfectly acceptable to say your sexuality is all in your head.

And for all of you religious people out there because I love you and you love me (at least the Christians should) I present this statement.
If God makes everyone and he hates homosexuality, (in the bible it is called an "abomination" punishable by death) why would he make you gay? Oh wait he wouldn't.

No I do not hate Gay people, I just think all sexuality is to do with the mind.

Your understanding of genetics is crude and incorrect.

Cystic fribrosis is a myth.
Consider this if there was a gene for cystic fibrosis, it would be passed on by the parents, like blue eyes black hair ect. However those that get this disease and die young cannot have kids and therefore cannot pass on any of their genes to their offspring.

This is wrong. Its called CARRIERS. Youve used a childish model for genetics that makes zero sense in the real world. People can carry a single allele from parents because parents dont ALWAYS pass on 100% of their genes. They pass on half.

So a gay person can be born from someone with the gay gene who will have straight children and be straight because they CARRY SOME of the information to be gay but not ALL in a FEW of their sperm/eggs. When gametes randomly mix the OTHER parent may have the rest of the information to be gay in a FEW of their sperm/eggs. Thus a gay child has a very slim chance of being created IF these few eggs/sperm meet.

Not all of your sperm/eggs are the same.

I dont know if the gay gene is real or if it is genetic, im just saying for certain your reasoning is 100% wrong. Please dont use "simple" to describe a topic you understand very little about. Presnting these arguements to a geneticist would see you laughed out of the room, these are the very fundamentals of genetics. So dont try and draw conclusions when you lack them.