Poll: The 'why' in Sexuality

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

It's absolutely everything that you have ever known and everything that was before you knew that defines your sexuality. Your interpretations of experiences and life affect it; your genes affect it; the way you were raised affects it; absolutely fucking everything.

Also no, not as of yet anyway, I've only ever been attracted to females.

Finally: Fuck your bullshit terms. Pansexuality ad Demisexuality? The fuck kind of detailed sexualities are they? Pansexuals are just bisexuals who aren't fussy, you don't need a new term for that. Demisexuals are just prude cautious whatever they are.

 

[Dumbfish1]

How a particular sexual orientation develops in any individual is not well understood by scientists. Various theories provide different explanations for what determines a person's sexual orientation, including genetic and biological factors and life experiences during early childhood. Despite much research there is no proven explanation of how sexual orientation is determined. However, many scientists share the view that for most people sexual orientation is shaped during the first few years of life through complex interactions of genetic, biological, psychological and social factors.

Despite what some people claim, there is no evidence that society's greater acceptance of homosexuality results in more people having a homosexual sexual orientation. The greater numbers of people identifying as homosexual are a result of fewer people fighting their homosexual feelings while attempting to live heterosexual lives.

For most people, sexual orientation emerges in early adolescence without any prior sexual experience. Some people report trying very hard over many years to change their sexual orientation from homosexual to heterosexual, with no success. For these reasons, psychologists do not consider sexual orientation for most people to be a conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed. People don't choose their sexual orientation; they can of course choose the kind of a life they want to live.

 

[Chefodeath]

They both like exactly the same things, it's just worded a different way. Like I thought, they are the same thing except pansexuals use the term to look different.

They like the same thing, but for different reasons. Labelling them as the same would be like calling manslaughter and premediated murder the same thing because at the end of the day, they both killed a guy.

That's a pretty bad analogy.

Manslaughter is unintentional while murder is.

Neither PS or BS is unintentional.

You're missing the point completely.

Two people can do the exact same thing, but what leads them to what is ultimately the same conclusion is often significant enough for us to distinguish between them. The fact that pansexuals are just plain attracted to people while bisexuals are attracted to males and females specifically is enough for us to distinguish between them even though they are hitting on the same people at the bar.

How is it significant enough?

That's like assigning a different sub-set of sexuality for each attribute a person prefers. You don't give a guy who prefers ass a different name you would a guy who prefers tits. "Sure they like the same person but their reasoning is different".

Whether or not it's significant enough to warrant its own name really depends on the standards of the society in which the language is based. Some people thought it was however, so here we are. If you want to call those people idiots, I won't contest you.

 

[Something Amyss]

Implying that everyone accepts that humans came from monkeys as fact .

Honey, not everyone accepts the fact that fire his hot as fact. That doesn't make it any less so. Honestly, if you're looking for consensus to rule your life, you're going to be waiting a long time. People can't even come to a consensus that kittens are cute. People still have massive conspiracies indicating the world is flat and there is some age-old conspiracy to hide that from the rest of the populace because PONIES!

Yes, some people do not accept that we share common ancestors with primates. And some people believe fire can't melt steel. I suppose the question is why were are pandering to people who admittedly don't know jack.

 

[Freechoice]

Spoiler: Well, with the exception of this hunk

Magnificent specimen of a man xD

Spoiler: Well, with the exception of this hunk

Magnificent specimen of a man xD

Spoiler: This hunk is better

Demi-sexual? Well there's another sexuality added to the mix! So what is it now? The LGBTQIADPS? Wait, I forgot, drop that last one, they don't let straight folk into their little club.

Rhetorical nonsense. You fuck what you what to fuck. There would be a lot more fucking going on if people started dealing with the persons more than there categorizations.

I hate the QUILTBAG douchebags. You're straight, you're gay or you're bisexual. What the fuck is pansexuality? And why is asexuality a sexuality? It literally means you do not give a fuck.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

Whats your sexuality?
Gay.
Do you think there is a Why too your Sexuality?
I don't think there is and frankly, even if there was a 'why' to it, I wouldn't care. I am what I am, and that's all that matters.
Are we born this way? or does it just happen? or do are experiences Define our sexuality?
Personally speaking, I was born gay. Seriously, look at childhood photos of me and there's no doubt in my mind I've always been a total fag.
Have you ever been Sexual Attracted to a member of the Opposite Sex when you are Homosexual?
Attracted... sort of. Hard to explain, really. Sexually attracted? No.

 

[Raven's Nest]

So far as I know I'm completely straight and enjoy sex with women and find them highly sexually attractive.

But i saw some tranny porn once with a really hot looking ladyboy and struggled to suppress a little feeling in the back of my head that said, you know if i ever found myself in bed with one and i was really drunk I wouldn't mind giving that a go just this once...

What box do I go in? Would anybody else like to join me in this box? I'm sure it would be very cosy...

 

[elvor0]

So far as I know I'm completely straight and enjoy sex with women and find them highly sexually attractive.

But i saw some tranny porn once with a really hot looking ladyboy and struggled to suppress a little feeling in the back of my head that said, you know if i ever found myself in bed with one and i was really drunk I wouldn't mind giving that a go just this once...

What box do I go in? Would anybody else like to join me in this box? I'm sure it would be very cosy...

I think that's normal... I think. I like to think of it as the male brain being blown. The thought process being: Hot girl boobs... oh shit a dick... but boobs... but theres a dick! But there's boobs! And she looks like a girl, crap a penis! Would that be wrong?...I'm not sure, it's like a gender centaur! Maybe if I don't look down and keep to doggy style.. and round in a loop.

 

[loc978]

-Straight

-Born that way. I was pretty much raised in a way that was as open to homosexuality as one could be in 1980s USA. Very, very progressive schooling and such. Still drawn to the female form like a moth to flame since I was about 8 years old. That's pretty much the only why of it.

-Never been attracted to the male form. It's just a functional, aesthetic neutral to me.

Additionally... sex is just a biological reaction to me. Needing to cum is about like needing to piss, only the release is much harder to achieve and feels even better. So, not tied to any emotion, just physical release.

 

[Lieju]

Lesbian.

There probably is a strong genetic basis, since I was kinda like that ever since as a kid, but probably some experiences have influenced my preferences to some extent.

Not just that I like women, but what kind of women I like.

 

[That Guy Ya Know]

And why is asexuality a sexuality? It literally means you do not give a fuck.

And why is atheism a religious identity? It literally means you do not give a fuck.

 

[Raven's Nest]

And why is asexuality a sexuality? It literally means you do not give a fuck.

And why is atheism a religious identity? It literally means you do not give a fuck.

Atheism isn't a religious identity at all. And the word you are looking for is apatheist...

So far as I know I'm completely straight and enjoy sex with women and find them highly sexually attractive.

But i saw some tranny porn once with a really hot looking ladyboy and struggled to suppress a little feeling in the back of my head that said, you know if i ever found myself in bed with one and i was really drunk I wouldn't mind giving that a go just this once...

What box do I go in? Would anybody else like to join me in this box? I'm sure it would be very cosy...

I think that's normal... I think. I like to think of it as the male brain being blown. The thought process being: Hot girl boobs... oh shit a dick... but boobs... but theres a dick! But there's boobs! And she looks like a girl, crap a penis! Would that be wrong?...I'm not sure, it's like a gender centaur! Maybe if I don't look down and keep to doggy style.. and round in a loop.

Normal is a dangerous word to use in a thread like this lol. I would agree that I was conventionally straight. I could only find a penis attractive if it was attached to a body with a female form. I can't watch man on tranny porn, it makes me gag.

 

[Freechoice]

And why is asexuality a sexuality? It literally means you do not give a fuck.

And why is atheism a religious identity? It literally means you do not give a fuck.

You also missed the point. Atheism means you ain't no goddamn sunovabitch. You better think about it, baby.

 

[Simskiller]

I'm Bi/pansexual. The only thing I don't really find attractive is pre-operation trans gender males.

I just find it weeeeird to have guys with out any dicks, but I fully welcome dicks on chicks.

 

[elvor0]

And why is asexuality a sexuality? It literally means you do not give a fuck.

And why is atheism a religious identity? It literally means you do not give a fuck.

Atheism isn't a religious identity at all. And the word you are looking for is apatheist...

So far as I know I'm completely straight and enjoy sex with women and find them highly sexually attractive.

But i saw some tranny porn once with a really hot looking ladyboy and struggled to suppress a little feeling in the back of my head that said, you know if i ever found myself in bed with one and i was really drunk I wouldn't mind giving that a go just this once...

What box do I go in? Would anybody else like to join me in this box? I'm sure it would be very cosy...

I think that's normal... I think. I like to think of it as the male brain being blown. The thought process being: Hot girl boobs... oh shit a dick... but boobs... but theres a dick! But there's boobs! And she looks like a girl, crap a penis! Would that be wrong?...I'm not sure, it's like a gender centaur! Maybe if I don't look down and keep to doggy style.. and round in a loop.

Normal is a dangerous word to use in a thread like this lol. I would agree that I was conventionally straight. I could only find a penis attractive if it was attached to a body with a female form. I can't watch man on tranny porn, it makes me gag.

I'm straight but yeah, that makes me feel pretty grossed out as well, same as if I accidently stumble on girl with strapon on man porn... that shit is just weird. I don't think I'd go through with a shemale, I just think that reaction fits because to most people a girl with a dick is just so wrong compared to what is expected, thus the confused reaction. Strangly futa hentai/anime doesn't gross me out in the slightest though. Ah whatever floats your boat I guess.

 

[Sindaine]

I'm confused what pansexual even is. Is it like, 'men, women and the occasional dog' or what? Is it like those people who want to fuck the Berlin wall or what?

 

[Aprilgold]

1.Gay Male.

2/3.Nope, I honestly think that it is that your just born into your sexuality, and you don't start with being Straight and then deviating when your older, because then it would have to be that way across the board. And honestly, if it were that way, humans, with all of our media suited for straight dudes and dudets there shouldn't be a queer in the modern world. Honestly, go onto Fox and see how many of those shows about Romantic Comedies are on today.

It makes more sense for it to be almost random then for it to be with experiences.

4. Never been sexually attracted to a transwoman or transmale or to a regular female.

I'm confused what pansexual even is. Is it like, 'men, women and the occasional dog' or what? Is it like those people who want to fuck the Berlin wall or what?

In the simplest terms, its sex with any human creature despite their gender. Its not Bisexuality, since you still fly on what genders currently exist. Here, its love without borders to humans. You generally just want to fuck the human race is the best way of putting it, with no discrimination at all.

 

[Raven's Nest]

I'm straight but yeah, that makes me feel pretty grossed out as well, same as if I accidently stumble on girl with strapon on man porn... that shit is just weird. I don't think I'd go through with a shemale, I just think that reaction fits because to most people a girl with a dick is just so wrong compared to what is expected, thus the confused reaction. Strangly futa hentai/anime doesn't gross me out in the slightest though. Ah whatever floats your boat I guess.

It always starts with futa-hentai...always...

Be on your guard lest the taint infect you too

 

[godofslack]

Straight, to an extreme. So far that I would say that certain women are aesthetically perfect. I find males highly unattractive and incapable of exceeding a certain point, which inevitably causes me to put more stock in women than men. To the extent that I would prefer any given woman to be a lesbian than straight. Which basically makes me a lesbian that was born a man.

I'm not sure why, I suppose I just evolved as a person and gradually started thinking of myself (indirectly, through games) as woman. I also dislike typical male ideals so I always distanced myself from those.

 

[renegade7]

Absolutely there is a 'why'. Maybe not an experience, but as a psychology student we spend LOADS of time discussing why we act/feel/think the ways we do. However, in regards to sexuality, there is not an experiential factor. It is entirely biological, ie you are hardwired to like a certain gender (usually the opposite, and that's just a couple billion years of evolution talking, but of course that is not universally the case). However, what you desire in a partner of whichever gender you prefer CAN be influenced by experience, as can your level of attraction and desire to whatever it is you like. For instance, in the modern day Western world we idealize physical attractiveness as appearing physically fit (tall, muscular for guys and lean and flexible for girls, etc.). But go maybe 1000 years into the past in Medieval Europe, and you see the opposite. A lack of physical fitness (of course, not the point of obesity) indicated a privileged, and therefore superior life, and thus a more desirable partner. In fact, soldiers would wear combat armor with a 'gut' because it suggested to the enemy that they were far more privileged and wealthy (the physical and health implications of being heavy were not known yet).

Now, I myself am straight but don't feel incredibly strong feelings of desire unless I know her very well. I don't immediately have any attraction to someone even if they are good looking, unless I have a chance to interact directly. I think this is mostly because I am extremely picky about dating partners.