carlsberg export said:
Do you mind explaining that a bit more? I think most of us including myself see it as black and white, male or female.
captcha says:
think.
create. do.
not sure if that is inspirational or captcha telling me to stop slacking!
I see biological sex as black and white (because apart from a very tiny minority of cases, it is), gender is different though. The way western societies (for example) see gender is quite black and white, men are expected to be a certain way in terms of behaviour, appearance, social interaction etc. while women are expected to be different.
It's because of this that I mostly present myself as male, because it means less harassment on the street, less awkwardness around strangers, etc. But the way I present myself on the internet, as well as in the company of my closest friends and my girlfriend is completely different, yet... it's not exactly me presenting myself as "female" either. I used to present myself as such but I found that it wasn't quite honest, people referring to me as a woman, using female pronouns and stuff... I wasn't quite comfortable with that either. And it's not as simple as me being a boy that wears makeup because I have an extreme dislike for certain "masculine" features I have while at the same time liking others.
So eventually I just figured that gender identity doesn't really matter to me, because neither "male" nor "female" are really good descriptors when you regard gender as a broad societal concept. Maybe if gender identity wasn't such a big deal when it comes to culture in general, I wouldn't be making a fuss about not being one or the other, but the fact is, it is. Me calling myself "male" brings along a bunch of different expectations and me calling myself "female" just brings along a bunch of other expectations, none of which are really accurate. So that's why I identify as neither.
You can disagree with me if you want, that's cool. As long as you can see where I'm coming from, that's all that matters to me, really. My gender is such a minuscule part of who I am that I personally just don't care, though I am respectful of those that do care.
ADDITIONAL NOTE: I do think that excessively specific gender identities are a bit silly though, to me they seem to commodify certain traits rather than help mutual understanding. I have the same issue with sexual orientations that are nitpicky and useless when it comes to practical application.